Will you let your past hurt present? and maybe even your future?

For me yes that's good because the person who doing you in that way will pay for the damage and e your burden to Jehovah God and he will fight you be positive.

just forget it . everything will be gone . good luck . smile the life smile to you .

Hi,that is a very positive outlook and it should be practiced .But in life we cannot forget certain things easily esp when someone has hurt you in the most unkind and despicable manner.It is bound to leave its marks and somehow keep pricking.However, it is best to try and be positive and ignore if you can....I am all for being positive no matter what and go on with your life...all the best

Of course not. It hurts me before why should I let it hurt me again.

make a choice and dont look at back....

Certain negative experiences really change you. I wouldn't be the person I am today if I hadn't gone through what I had. Sometimes, it crosses my mind and it still hurts even though it's been several years, but I try not to let it get in my way. Ignoring it isn't an option sometimes. People are always searching for closure, so if it's unresolved, it's going to come back to haunt you.

i don't think we should let that happen. after all, when we let our past get into the future, that will only overshadow our lives and i am sure it will change everything, even our decisions, and it will make a difference, more often than not, it will be a bad one.

As what I experienced, when I broke up with the guy I dated for more than 5 years.. it really affected how I acted or thought about the present. As I was hurting after the break-up, even my concentration in class got affected which lead to failing marks.. It felt like that pain in my heart wouldn't go away no matter how hard I was trying to move on. Normally, your past somewhat affects your present and maybe even your future. But it really depends on how you handle the situation, how you handle your feelings. If you can just accept the fact that that person is no longer yours and would probably never be anymore, life would be easier for you. Its just a matter of time for one to move on. For one to set aside their negative thoughts and feelings and enjoy life. Best of luck

When you've been hurt that way, besides having to heal you must look closely to see where your responsibility was in the original situation, and what lessons you have learned. Once you do this, work on forgiveness of yourself and then move on. I know it's popular when people have been hurt to say they were not responsibile but that is not the truth. Each of us makes the choices that set the situation up, if you had not made those choices it would not have happened to you. This choice can seem as unimportant as choosing to leave a little early or late to drive to town or work. Whatever made you choose that time set you up for the car accident you had. In relationships of course the choices we make are must more complex. Each of us is living the life we have in order to grow in awareness of our true purpose for living. If reincarnation is your thing, then you believe that whatever you are going through is directly linked to previous actions in this and other lives. So become aware that you always have a choice, it may not be easy to see that choice much less to do it, but the choice is yours. Blessings

Yes you are absolutely right here my dear. Let bygone be bygones and move on. There are so many things asking for our attention. So let us not stay hurt and bury ourselves in the past.

I was been hurt and been into heartbreak from the past. It is not easy to moved one,it takes me sometime to realize that life must go on. It is also easy to judge people who can not lived out from their past. But,it takes oneself to experience it to fully understand how does it feel and how hard it is to let go. Acceptance and letting go is one best way to forget and forgive. Forgiving is the ultimate for moving on. The moment you let hatred lived within your heart,you will never let go of your past. But when you accept and forgive about it,you will find it easier to let go. And you will find yourself remembering the past without bitterness in your heart,but,with courage and determination not to commit the same mistake again at present and in your future. Have a good day always

We all have a past. what we do with that past effects our present way of life. If we don't face how we lived in the past and leaern from it, we can have a very uncertain future ahead of us.

For me it is not necessarily to let your past hurt your present and coming years! Because, simply it is not good for you! We all know that what was our past is what will be in future. But I do believe that we can change our present. "We may not change our past, but we can do changes in our present and future!" Past is past, what matter is our present! "Forget the past to get the best!"

in a relationship where you were hurt so badly, you can't really forget and move on so fast.. it'll need time and effort and ofcourse prayers for you to slowly move on in to another chapter of your life, open your mind in to new opportunities and believe that somewhere, somehow, you'll be okay and you deserve to be happy .:)

Hi webearn I think you have to deal with your negative feelings and the hurt caused by what some one did. Mnay times it is good to get involved in self help groups to learn to deal with it If the person that hurt you refuses to apologize I would ingnore them. Reconcilliation means you forgive the other person. It also means they take responsability fro what they have done and apologize for it. If they do not apologize I do not believe they are sorry. I know. This has happened in my family where a family member said mean and cruel things to me, embarrassed and humiliated me in public. When I left I went through hell dealing with it.The hurt will always be there until they apologize.When I tried to talk about it with them ,they pretended it never happened and blamed me. ,even though they knew and know it was all their doing. People familiar with this incedent agree with me. Because of this I refuse to go back until there is an apology. If there is no apology they will know they got away with it and do it again. They did with me for three years every time I went home they put me through hell. When I got back to my home ( in another country ) they pretended it never happened and was all my fault. Burying it and pretending it never happened does not heal the wounds. We must face up to them and talk them out in order for reconcilliation. Have a good day

Forgiveness has to do with you. Forgiveness sets you free. When you are focused on the past hurt you are not in the present. You will never experience happiness when you are focused on the past negative experiences. When you are negative, you are not loving to yourself or others. When you are not in the present, you are not living your life fully and you are not open to receiving abundance from the Universe that you deserve. When things come up in the future, you may say to yourself I am not going to hold onto their any longer. I love myself too much. Then you can forgive yourself and the other person. See if there is a lesson to learn and move on. Remember you always have choices. The exercise for letting go is to sit quietly and go within yourself. Relax yourself as you have in past exercises. Breathe in love and light each inhale. Breathe out all your negative worries, thoughts, doubts, etc.,on each exhale.

in a relationship where you were hurt so badly, you can't really forget and move on so fast.. it'll time and effort and ofcourse prayers for you to slowly move on in to another chapter of your life, open your mind in to new opportunities and believe that somewhere, somehow, you'll be okay and you deserve to be happy .:)