Why it is so hard to trust in a relationship?

yes, so hard to deal with the relationship with everyone here. so many problems to me now . no gf , and no children now. just try to get along well with somebody , do sth you should do no matter how hard it it . thank you

trust is the hardest....

Well you asked why is it so hard to trust in a relationship, I'm no expert for sure, but maybe its because sometimes even well meaning lovers lie, or because of bad past relationships were trust was broken. Now from my understanding of your post you met your boyfriend online and you have a long distance relationship. its understandable that you and your boyfriend would feel a little uneasy because long distance or online relationships can be a bit of a risky thing because your in one place, and he's in another. as for his doubts of you, he could be feeling that way because of past bad relationship. But all anyone can do in a situation like yours is just communicate openly about each others feelings and have faith that things will work out.

I think that if you have been hurt in the past, you will find it much harder to trust a new partner than you would if you had never been hurt by anybody in the past. It is important to trust your partner though, and you should remember that just because there was one person who treated you badly, that doesn't matter that everybody is going to treat you the same way, even though they might have the opportunity to do just that.

There are times whereby we have to see in order to believe. When we believe, trust will come to us. In your case of long distance relationship, everything is based on talks while no action is taken. Much as both of u might be saying how much u trust each other, but does the heart and mind really think so? Doubt will always be there somehow and it does not need anything to trigger the distrust in us. It's all about feelings. If he does not trust u enough, u can't blame him because it's a feeling he can't control and yet he does not want to lie to u.

long distance relationship is really hard ive been on that thing to for almost 2 years and after that we just broke up. its not hard to trust on someone if you really love him/her thats my opinion if you can love him you can trust him right thats what i know about it. anyways the good thing on long distance relationship is when you split together the pain is not really hurting :D

It's really hard to weigh things, unless you're really there, seeing things personally. But do not just rely on what you feel, pray and make use of your discernment. I don't think relationship that does not rooted from a solid foundation, where trust is an important ingredient, will last a lifetime.

because when one of the other partner have doubt and they just enter a relationship just to become seen as normal by other people having love life since other people have a narrow minded when they see other people have no partner they think of their life as a miserable one. So just to confirm with the dictate of the society they would accept or be involve in a relationship just to appear as normal or just to keep those nagging or teasing from other people if no one take your heart no one would care and other reasons so it is a society pressure at all. In your case long having long distance relationship is very difficult since one could still be available to any kinds of temptation or be tempted especially if the other partner have no control but it would also be the way to test the relationship.

Welcome to mylot and Hi norily, Love knows no boundries,while you have really charmed upon him and therefore there shouldn't be any doubt on the subject at all, its just a matter of time that both of you will have a happy married life, in the coming days,in-fact you must show some patience and utilize this time gap in your advantage.its a testing time, and you know it very well how to utilize it fruitfully. Happy mylotting.

For me put in you a trust attitude so hat when you said that what you thinking of you neglect the way of it and be trusted to your sweetheart.

It may be hard for him to trust him or you him..it's so because your relationship hasn't been trusted yet through time. You haven't been with each other as you said so that should be a very great factor why he has doubts still. I think this will change when you get the chance to be with each other. Just show him that you are worth trusting to and i know he will somehow feel you are really true to him..

In modern world,many relationship is based on money.When you have money,you would have trustable relationship from other people.Once you have no money,you can not get trustable relationship from other people.

When you experience a hurt broken relationship and it was ruin in the said ending.Probably its so hard to trust again.

Our natural tendency is to trust and we trust our friends. It feels good to really trust. It is also an essential component of love and an important test. Love without trust is dependence masquerading as love. But mistrust or distrust are induced not by your own thoughts, nor by some device or machination of ours, but by life's sad circumstances. To continue not to trust is depending on what would your boyfriend treat you ? But honestly thinking, I convince that you should give him some period of times to qualify him before go to your final decision.

I think sometimes last relationship pain hurts a lot so it is very hard to trust again on any relationship. I think that is the main reason to feel difficult for trust on any person and also on relationship. And situations become worst when a person get a lot of hurt from any other person in any relationship. I think it is really wrong to play with someone’s feelings.

how can you honestly love someone you did not personally met . I have doubts of your feeling because you easily love somebody you did not met. maybe you love him for the wrong reasons . you should also doubt your boyfriend because boys do not fall in love easily. do not fall into relationship you are not sure fall . you may fall into a trap you can get out.

you guys havnt meet and you are about to get married? wow thats strange. Answers to your question,well hes far away from you so he might have other women but not be serious with them, I mean lets face it hes not a virgin or is he? Anyways meet with him and get to know him better before you think of tieing that knot ik?

it is not hard to trust in any relationship. trust in relationship gets finner day by day. it not a one or two day process , it is chain of experience and time you have put in that relationship. u cant not judge a person in a day. making trust takes long yrs but braeking it takes only few seconds. if u r into a relationship then try to give that person free space. dont restrict him like a parrort in a cage. and then see how ill he / she reflect back to you. relationship breaks when the person with you starts feeling suffucated.leave that person to be his own with you,not as you want him/her to be. this is my experience. its been 7 yrs i have married to my hubby . was love marraige . we both give space to each other in our relationship.