Which comes first love or respect?
By cyatibarra
@cyatibarra (123)
Philippines
September 20, 2010 11:48am CST
Ive been thinking about a woman being maltreated or abused physically who happens to be my freind. She was so pretty just to be hurt by someone she love and they're not even married yet. No one has the right to hurt a woman, women should be treated with respect. She said she loves him that's why she stayed and partly it was her fault because sometimes she provokes him especially when he's drunk, she yells at him sometimes but because she wants him to stop his vices like drinking and smoking because they're going to have a family soon. And what's wrong with that?? She just want him to be responsible enough when time comes they get married. For me i dont think i would marry that guy! She said the guy usually ask forgiveness when he's sober already. Gosh! Just like that? A guy with respect to woman are guys we should love. Respect is most important than love without respect you cannot love. Love can kill but i never heard someone died due to respect. Dont you agree?
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16 responses
@htownshawty (265)
• United States
20 Sep 10
i'll say respect because if you don't respect the person how could you ever call yourself loving them
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@Fulltank (2882)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
Though love is much powerful than respect, I should still go for the respect. It is the most basic foundation of being a "human". That's separated us from other animals, though some humans act like one. We can see "love" in almost all living things but only few have the virtue of "respect". Before one can love someone, one must first show his/her respect to that person.
For your friend, I say "Welcome to the real world!!!". Its hard to teach an old dog new tricks. But you can teach him new tricks if he's willing to do it.
@cyatibarra (123)
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
so true, sometimes too much love can really blind us, it sometimes scares us to face reality. ill just let her realize it and learn in her own. i know this kind of relationship wont last long... but i dont wanna interfere, its really up to them, she have a choice either to let herself be free and happy or to stay miserable.. it's all in her hands really.. thanks fulltank for sharing ill mark this as good response. have a nice day! :)
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
20 Sep 10
I think that respect should always come first, but there is a saying that my friends and I have, "Love doesn't have to hurt". Meaning men and women should never mistreat each other in a relationship. Men and women should always respect and love one another in a relationship. If there is no love, trust, and respect in a relationship, then that relationship is doomed to failure.
@cyatibarra (123)
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
i agree with what you said.. thanks for dropping by and sharing to us your opinion. :)
@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
20 Sep 10
I think love comes firstly.. because if you love someone then already you give respect to that person.. so i think love and respect both are attached together.. what do you say.. am i right or not.
@cyatibarra (123)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
Love sometimes can blind us which makes us hurt other. But with respect, it cant hurt physically nor your feelings. U can give respect without loving them. Thanks for sharing though. :)
@cyatibarra (123)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
Yes both are neccesary in every relationship but yoi shpuld learn to respect first before telling them you really love them. Again love can be so blind that we sometimes forget the real meaning of it. Thanks for dropping by!
@mssolamilloF (57)
• Philippines
23 Sep 10
Hello! I agree with you...for me, those guys that are saying they love the girls their courting just the day they've met, are just having fun...same as saying "i love you" without respect...it can't be!! if you say "i love you", make sure that you have respect to that person...cause if you don't have it, you don't know what are you saying....YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT THE WORD "LOVE" IS...
this is just my opinion...no hurt feelings...U
@insulin (2479)
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
In my opinion,If the person is not really respecting anymore then it means there is no love present.I think respect is always important as it also symbolized that there is love.If your partner don't respect you anymore then it is understandable,He or she don't love anymore which means she or he can hurt you physically or emotionally in anyway.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
I would probably not like to be a punching bag and so loves my freedom so much that if that probably happen to me even in the first base he could not pass on me.So i need to observe or even need to investigate any guy would gonna be my partner before being committed so the chance of having a guy to abuse me would be lesser and even so happen i get caught in such a relationship the best thing to do is to cut off any communication as their is no use of love if their is no respect anyone could make love to you r say it but the action hardly tell you it gonna be genuine before anyone could lose self respect it is best to get away from a mad man just to be safe and never let anyone to abuse your kindness whether they are family, friends or lover just loving your self should be the most priority especially when one life is endanger....
@davenhearst (327)
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
Before a man can truly love a woman, his respect for her must be at the highest level. But even before a man can truly love and respect you, you must love and respect YOURSELF. And it is right to hurt the woman physically this is not love this show only disrespect to a woman in that situation. The woman better leave her boyfriend as early as possible.
@sayariza (146)
• Indonesia
21 Sep 10
respect first love later..
but in the situation like what your friend experience, it is not always easy for her, i can advice her just to be more patient
verbal violence is still ok
physical violence is a crime..
you friend must be aware about that..
some guys need following therapy to stop his drinking habit
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
20 Sep 10
in a normal relationship you can't separate respect from love...they come together from my point of view.I mean yea, you're right, maybe in his own stupid way he loves her...but what;s the use in that if he doesn;t respect her and he beats the crap out of her. but on another point of view, resepect is earned. I think she doesn;t know how to make him respect her. a woman must be inteligent, after all they don't say for nothing that the man is the head but the woman is the neck..and the neck helps the head move. a woman can make a man act the way she wants..but with intelligent moves, like making him believe his decision are his own, when in reality they are her's...she must disguise them
