Removal of friendship and others...

Hello Rajib, Seeing you after a very long time.Infact I was the one who was absent here for months together.I never remove anyone from the friends list whether I have had bad experiences with them or even for that matter they are absent for years together.Anyhow what is that am going to lose ?

From my point of view, sweetie. That was a childish thing for them to do. I mean really, if you want to remove yourself from aomeone's list, at least have the guts to tell that person. You don't have to give a reason, which would be nice if they did. I cannot believe we have so much children here. How freaky is that? Hope you get better soon. TATA.

Hi raj, very sorry to hear that you are not well. Get well soon so you can share your interesting posts here. I noticed that you are not as active as before. I hope your illness is not life threatening. Well, friendship means a lot to me on or offline. Once I admit someone in my list, they sort of become permanent residence there. That explains why I have uncountable dormant friends than active ones. I always believe that they will come back one day and besides I am too lazy to go through my friends list to do the deletion.

Hello my friend krajibg Ji, Firstly, I feel sorry to hear about your sickness , next I regret to say that I never follow taht trend, so far whatever friend are in my list, they sttand from the very firast time onward. It is dufficult to get good friends. Please do reveal somthing about your sickness. May God bless You and have a great time.

hi,there. i think i would n't delete any friend here mylot except their account were delated.i'm sorry to hear about that.and your illness.take care of yourself.wishing you getting better every day.

Hiya kraj, Did not know that you had been ill even so glad to see you back again. Sorry you have been ill and hope that you are very well and over it. I don´t delete anyone either some of us have so much to do I suppose I could be off here for a while too because I have a lot off line things to do also. But anyway I find a bit of time to write to different People. Good advice from krupesh not good to think about the past just keep being in the present well and think only about the future too. Nice to see you back kraj.

I'm sorry to hear you've been ill but glad you're feeling better! How sad that your "friends" have dropped you...they were obviously just concerned with earnings and not with people that they could get to know. I have many inactive people on my list but I don't remove them--they may decide to come back and will need someone to greet them. If someone disagrees with me, that's great! That makes for a lively discussion and maybe I'll get some new ideas, different ways to think about things. If everyone agreed it would be a boring, miserable world. My best friend and I disagree vehemently about one particular subject but we've agreed not to discuss it. We disagree about others, too, but are willing to give and take on those. It makes the friendship interesting! I hope you've recovered and have no ill effects. The friends you lost are better off gone so don't feel badly about it.

I think it's different for everybody. Some people keep their friends lists small, only people they talk to regularly. Others accept all comers. I accept most people, with the exception of newbies who haven't posted anything. As far as cleaning up my list, I would never delete you, because we have had discussions, and I remember them and the things you said to me. I would delete somebody who hadn't been active for a long time IF I hadn't ever really interacted with the person. I wouldn't delete somebody who had different opinions, but I might delete somebody who was abusive toward me.

i had the same thing happen.. i havent been on here much in over a year and the first 6 months here i LIVED on mylot but then things happened and life got crazy and i didnt get on much.. i now notice my regular repliers dont reply often and they used to reply to everything i did.. i try to not take it too personal since i dont have the time to reply to theirs (i try to go through and reply to 1 of everyones posts when i can but if they post 20 times 1 time isnt much but i get so behind i have 1000s waiting on me) but yeah some people do jump ship on friendship as soon as it doesnt help them earn money.. on other sites i used to try to make money at and left the people decided to not be my friend outside of the site because it wasnt helping them!! on mylot when im regular i would go through my friends list every once in awhile and if the person hadnt been online in 4 months i would maybe delete them UNLESS i had been close with them and talked to them alot.. i have a lot of people that added me that i never have even talked to so those i will after 4 months of them not signing on

I go through my friends list every 2 or 3 month and delete people that haven't been active in a while. It depends on the people how long is too long for not being active. If you just signed on 3 weks ago and haven't been active for 2 that tells me you just collecting friends for money purposes but if you been on mylot for a long time like you have been I always wait just in case the person has fallen ill or maybe vacationing.

Hi krajibg it’s good to see you back here; I hope you are feeling better now. I certainly would not delete someone just because they were away for an extended period of time. I would send them a private message or an email if I was really concerned. I have rejected some friendship requests for good reasons but I have never deleted anyone from my list. Sadly some folks do away with friends if there is a disagreement which is strange because this, being a discussion site means that disputes are bound to occur but the idea is to agree to disagree and not necessarily cancel the friendship.

You know I value friendship. i treasure each of them and i cannot throw them away without any valid reasons. I am friendly and happy with them as online friends or real friends here. Once I accept you as my friend bear in mind i am your friend. So for me friendship is the sharing of many things that is valuable in life and a treasure as precious. Be happy with them in times of happiness sharing of emotions and success and failures in life. Lets trust our friend fairly. Have a happy day!

Hi krajibg! Sorry to hear about you. Welcome back anyway. And hope you recover fast. Well, It's always nice to know that we have friends than foes whether here or in the real world. But sometimes we are just not able to respond to his/her discussions for some reasons, perhaps one we are not familiar with the topic or like you said because of absence. But that doesn't mean that we do not consider him/her a friend. That doesn't mean we should delete a friend off. We all need friends. And I need them too. It's just that some friends are a little closer than the rest. Friends are sometimes like the stars, they shine bright when it's dark.

I don't think that a difference in opinion is grounds to disassociate yourself with someone. Having a difference of opinion is something that makes good conversation between people. As long as they are civil and keep their cool when debating different opinions then it is completely fine to be friends with someone. I don't throw friends away. Unless someone is being completely deplorable and throwing personal insults and not acting like a friend. That is when you loose friendship with someone.

Hi krajibg. I'm sorry to hear that you've been sick. I don't delete people from my friends list for disagreeing with me or for being inactive (if you'd be so kind to look at my profile you'll see that you're still on my friends list ). It takes a lot more than that for me to hit the delete button. Unfortunately, not everyone is willing to do the same. So, don't worry about getting deleted by some of your "friends" on here. It happens to the best of us sometimes, no matter how nice or active we are. LOL That's just a part of mylotting, I suppose. Anyway, welcome back and happy mylotting!

Hi rajib, How are you now? What happened to you? I haven’t noticed your absence. I seen your controversial post last time (some other people started topics on your name) after that I too went out from mylot and I restored my regular activities in mylot last week only. I know it will hurt if some known people delete us from the list. I have never deleted any inactive friend because I know it will hurt in case the person comes back once again…

There could be alot of reasons for these friends to have gone off your list. Have checked to see if they are still members? They could have gone against the guidelines and been suspended. They have decided Mylot wasn't for them and gone off the site? Why do you automatically take it as an affront against you? I have occasionally taken people off my friend's list if I haven't seen them on the site or if they haven't been active for a long period of time. When you are on the site daily 'almost a month' can see like an extended amount of time.

I just came back to myLot too, was wondering , had not seen your posts. I' glad you're now fine Rajib, welcome to our beautiful world at Mylot, again. I was not able to check if others deleted me during my absence anyway I appreciated those who commented with my discussions even they're new ones and of course happy to see old friends as well. I don't delete friends at my friend's list even if I seldom see them at mylot's discussions or they're not commenting at my started discussions as they might be on leave or just can't relate with my topics. I value my friends so much and even n line friends that are so close to me. I wish you full recovery, Rajib and avoid getting stress losing friends that don't care. .

Welcome back to Mylot Well i will never delete any friend from my friends list whatever the reason could be .Because when we accept any friendship request it is a deliberate action on our part and it is not induced.So what it the fun of hurting the person afterwords... I am an active user of Facebook and there i have been deleted from friends list by two of my ex friends.I do not know the reason but i think they wanted to accommodate someone who has high scores in Farmville (It is a game in Facebook).It did feel hurt though i have never had active communication with them. Mylot comprises of international community and here people from all walks of life participate and you must remember that all five fingers are not equal.What we like may not be liked by other and vice versa. So do not take it seriously and just chill and recuperate from your illness.We want you to be very active here.

How are you now? Hope you are as active as before. Even I have been out of mylot for quite a long time but I have not experienced any such thing. I think some misunderstanding must have taken place somewhere. True friends don't react this way. Hope to hear from you often.