Is love enough in a relationship?
By canaussie
@canaussie (221)
Australia
September 21, 2010 1:27am CST
Most relationships start with good intentions, love & passion exist primarily but inevitably, there are many factors that arise affecting relationships.
I've known couples who love each other and have been together for years but decided to separate or divorce just so they "keep their sanity." Mind you they profess that they still love each other but the squabbles over kids or finances etc., has taken its toll and love for love sake, isn't enough for these couples to stay together.
If love is the basis of relationships (in the beginning anyway) how come people take love as an excuse to be apart? Is it love of different of dimension or is it a matter of love gone stale?
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@princejhaizee (279)
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
There is no such thing as falling out of love...maybe in the very beginning, they don't really love each other...for love is more than feelings and emotions...emotions and feelings do change... But love never fails and it is never ending...it remains forever...
Maybe what lacks that relationship is GOD as the foundation and the center of it...If God will then the center of everything in their life, everything and in all the way it will be a success...
My advice to those whose in relationship, make God as the center of your individual life and your relationship with others...God bless!
@canaussie (221)
• Australia
1 Oct 10
If love binds a couple together (in the beginning anyways) and God being the center, nothing else fails.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
21 Sep 10
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
21 Sep 10
I am sure people have their own understanding of love. In my opinion, love is very confusing. Because I could never understand about love. Because of my love for sacrifice. I hope that love brings peace. But it turns out that love is very exhausting struggle. People who separated because of love, it's very fair. Because of better separation, rather than hurt each other.
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@canaussie (221)
• Australia
21 Sep 10
I agree with you, while love is the most wondrous feeling one can have, it can also devastating. That people part their ways in order not to cause and feel the hurt and the pain any further.
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
Of course not at first time all couple become so in love but when years pass by they just feel boring at some point. Others issues affect relationship when all they have is love but they have financial difficulty or the other partner changes their looks or could not be a good provider. So I think nothing is permanent and even love is not exempted the only constant is changes. Just like in your post some couple still love each other but like in a boyfriend or girlfriend relationship they need to cool off or take some spaces so they could miss each other company so just like inside marriage some need a space to grow just not to feel the extreme boredom doing the same things every now and then with no chances to grow..
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@canaussie (221)
• Australia
1 Oct 10
Yep, there are many other factors that affect a relationship. Even if there's love, it doesn't ensure happiness.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
very true, in this time and age, love shouldn't be all that matters in a relationship. there should be understanding, faith, respect and being responsible. money matters are often the cause of a break up in a marriage because of the economy falling down. but then, if you truly love one another, no matter what happens, you will still stick to your partner and be each others' strength.
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@canaussie (221)
• Australia
21 Sep 10
I remember my grandpa saying that "you can't eat love" So true, that many relationships gone awry when kids are hungry and the household is buried in debts. In an ideal world, when everything is picked from trees & grown from the ground, all that it takes for relationship to work is love and everything follows.
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@canaussie (221)
• Australia
21 Sep 10
Congratulations! I hope your relationship will further prosper.
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@jennyze (7028)
• Indonesia
22 Sep 10
I would say "yes, love is enough" if I am an 15 - 21 years old. But, now I know better. "love" is not enough in a relationship. We need respect, trust, commitment, healthy source of income, good health, sense of humors, willingness to suffer for the other.
@davenhearst (327)
• Philippines
22 Sep 10
We think that the hardest thing in a relationship is finding the right person. After that, we fall in love and live happily ever after, right? The truth of the matter is that having and maintaining a relationship is not easy. The rate of divorce tell us that LOVE is not enough, other factors are needed to keep a relationship going. Communication problems are major source of relationship problems. People in most cases, just do not know how to talk to each other. Usually the couple has spent years arguing, fighting or even avoiding problems but the inevitable occurs, someone reaches the end of their rope. Loss of trust, confusion over whether we still love each other, fights all the time and the inability of agree on anything are some of the cues to recognize that a relationship is having a serious problems. I don't want to mislead anyone, "love" is important to a relationship. It is the catalyst that gets the whole things going but they have ingredients that keep love alive and the relationship healthy.
@MQLanaoC (51)
• Philippines
22 Sep 10
you know actually for me,relationship won't work if and only love is present..i bet you it wont really work based on my experience,there shOuld be trust with each other in order for the relationship to work on..gudluck!
@littlevee (1)
• Indonesia
22 Sep 10
i think if we want to make a lasting relationship, love is not enough. There are so many factor which impact on relationship, faith, communication, understanding, and also responsibility. Without that I think the relationship will be not long lasting. Even I see many couple start their relationship not with love but maybe with a good communication and understanding. Hmmmm I hope I can keep my relationship last forever too.
@UserPinks (19)
• United States
21 Sep 10
More than loving each other, you must know how to communicate your thoughts and feelings to the other person. That is where most couples go wrong and, hence, why couple's counseling has been so widely embraced. It just gets people to open up and talk.
You can love someone with all of your heart. What if you never show them or tell them?
What if you NEED them to do x, y, and z to truly be fulfilled in life with this one single person but you never can figure out the right way to communicate that to your partner?
It's the willingness and ability to communicate effectively in a loving relationship that is needed. You can be in love. You can be loved. If you just can't show or tell each other about that love then the relationship is completely doomed.
@make_it_real (76)
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22 Sep 10
After noticing this topic "is love enough in a relationship?"..first thing comes in my mind is what is really love all about?
We could find answers right from within ourselves!!! There are lots of factors consisting in a word "love". Such as, trust, respect, acceptance, intimate attraction and there are lot of things more!...But that doesn't mean, you have to gain first all of those things. You can start a relationship without completing yet the root of it and that is what we called love.
And so, along the journey within the relationships, you are now starting to complete the task and that is to fulfill the love that contains all the good and bad from both sides. Then after that, you can now say love is more than enough in a relationship, if you feel inside that you are satisfied and happy of what you have!!!
@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
21 Sep 10
I think love is not enough in any relationship. Also respect for others is also necessary. Because if you give respect to person then your relationship must be strong with that person. So I always think about this. And always try to give respect to person who are really loves me. And have a caring nature for me. What about you. Do you also think this or not. I want to say one more thing that trust is also an important thing in any kind of relationship. Because only trust stands any relationship between peoples.
@jeffreychan0910 (71)
• Hong Kong
21 Sep 10
The topic is so abstract..
What is Love?
Many people have different explanation on this..
Some may think this guy treat me good, so he does love me and I have some good feeling on him...but feeling always change...If a relationship is founded on this, it is not reliable...
Some may think their partner do have something they admire, it's sound good if they have the same target on their relationship..
And also many definations...
So the critical thing is to define what is love
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