Could two people with different belief system be in a relationship?
By khoikhoi
@khoikhoi (93)
Vietnam
September 21, 2010 2:39am CST
In a relationship, there's always a lot to talk about other than the differences, such as what people are doing in work, people relatives are up to... Can you share you experience? I mean there must be times when you feel a little awkward when you dont agree with someone. What did you do to compromise?
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12 responses
@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
21 Sep 10
Oh yeah, I have seen many people with different beliefs get married and get into relationships with one another.
My brother's girlfriend's parents were of different religions. Her mother was Jewish and her father was a Catholic, and they loved each other and got along very well.
The Governor of California and his wife are of two different political views, the Governor is Republican and his wife is a Democrat, and not only do they get along well, but they raised four wonderful children.
In fact, people in the United States of America get married to people of different races, religions, and political views all of the time. It's become the norm.
@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
21 Sep 10
Well, we try. America is a pretty open country, and we are pretty tolerant of people wanting to marry outside of their race, religion, and political views. Their are some people who are opposed to it and disagree with it, but what do those people know? They are probably just jealous, or they are stuck in relationships with people that they aren't happy with, so they wish their misery on everyone else.
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
21 Sep 10
If it is about religious beliefs it is hard to do especially if you feel strongly about your belief. And usually that means that you go to a certain church and will not quit. If you are still searching,and are not a member of that particular church (I am speaking from a Christian point of view, but you can also substitute for your particular sect you belong to if you are a Muslim, Hindu, Shaoist, or whatever.)
Now when it comes to certain things you can compromise, but in others you cannot. If you strongly believe in the sanctity of life, you cannot say it is wrong to abort unless there is a rape or incest, because you realize that the infant did not go anything, it was the man who did that deed or the father or brother who committed the crime.
With religion, it is also what the person believes in that is important. I believe that God gives faith, and it is impossible for me to live in marriage with someone who believes that the only way to come to God is by works.
With other things, such as well music, etc. or being a country person, but with religious beliefs, if you feel strongly it is best for you to change for your own reasons and not be influenced by someone you love.
For instance, if you decide that when you go to your mosque, temple, synagogue or Church and the speaker is not telling what is considered the tenets of your belief as written down, it is best for you to investigate for yourself and then make up your mind. And consider what God wants not your friend.
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
23 Sep 10
Thank you for the best response. I have a friend whose husband joined her religion just to be with her and he took her out of church to his own church. I also know of a man who joined our church to meet a girl and then he went out because his motive was not pure. So I know that the danger of mixed relations are when the spouse pretends to be of that faith and even goes and joins the church, and down the road, he takes his wife with him.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
It is possible. I knew many who got married even though they have different religion and beliefs. It would be too complicated, but I think it will all depend on the couple on how they will handle their relationship despite the odds, hence all the pressure from other friends and families.
@oscar6 (1938)
• United States
21 Sep 10
My husband and I have two different views on religion. We just talk about other things and try not to bring religion up in conversations. If it does come up we have learned to respect one another enough to have a decent conversation without offending the other person. I know that it is possible to have two different belief systems and still be in a great relationship.
@nereidiane024 (292)
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
hello khoikhoi!
are you familiar with the old saying, it takes to tango? in a relationship, its matter of give and take. and every person has its uniqueness from the others. if you are engage to a relationship, and if you truly love your partner, then respect him/her to his/her perspective to things.
yes, there would be times when you cant agree with his/her belief and sometimes you tend to have fight., yet try to realize and be in his/her shoes also why he/she believes into an idea. :)
@xenachinah30 (597)
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
yes i beleive but both of them must accept their beleif and differences in all aspects of life or one must accept anothers beleif.give and take realationship.
@bumblebee34 (190)
• Philippines
22 Sep 10
i believe so. For me, it's the difference that makes a relationship a better relationship. I mean, it would never be a boring relationship, unlike when your partner has the same interests that you are, it's like so monotonous. It would seem that, that relationship will soon lose it's interest with each other. not to mention, that there will be the tendency to compete with each other. the relationship will no longer have spice or sort.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
22 Sep 10
I believe it is possible. But for sure there will be petty fights in the middle. Of course that can be settled. If two people really love each other then it's not possible that the relationship will really work. One should give in to the others belief or vice versa..
@amarendra123 (230)
• India
22 Sep 10
it is possible.but is very rare wo people with different belief system be in a relationship.
@winstonbaltazar (355)
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
I respect but I don't want that person dominate with such things that I don't like. When it comes to relationship, it depends on what kind of relationship it would be.
@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
23 Sep 10
Yes, I believe two people with diferent belief can be in a relationship. It is up to the couple though.. I think two people who are opposite of each other would be more compatiable then two people who are similiar... My boyfriend and I are both different people (personality wise) and we work out just fine!!