why would some women go for lesbian lovers than real men?

because they're lesbians?

Maybe just the same as guys look for guy lovers. I don't know, I am just a normal woman.

I have experienced being attracted to lesbians and have been courted to..but i never had relationships with them. I can give them purely friendship. My sister is a lesbian so i really don't have anything against them. I think ladies prefer lesbians than men because they care more and they know how to love a girl. They have a soft heart so they really don't want to hurt people with the same soft heart as theirs.

maybe they don't wnt to get pregnant

Oh I am not quite sure how that works, as this is an area I have never been curious about. I can only guess and say confusion but then I am being told some are born this way. So I suppose to best answer your discussion I have to say I am confused as to which way I should answer.

Well, it's all about wondering why things happen. Those are phenomena we will never be able to understand fully. Am also wondering why some men would claim to be in love with other men. An also why some men choose to be feminine in attitude and appearance. To the latter, I think it is not being satisfied being a man or a woman so s/he wants to become the other. To the former, I just wonder why like poles will attract. That is against the laws of physics; only unlike poles attract. My dear, let's keep wondering and hope dat some day we will find answers to our questions.

Some women are just attracted to that. I'm not. I kissed a girl once, we were playing spin the bottle, so it was on a dare, and I didn't like it, but I know many women and girls who have, and they loved it. I know a lot women who get fed up with men as well, and so they turn to other women because they know that that person won't let them down, whereas, when we women turn to men, it's like they just don't get it. If men actually tried to understand women, which most of them don't, they would see that we get frustrated and fed up with the things men do. It gets exhausting. I love my boyfriend, and he's a great guy, but there are times where I want to slap him and say, "What the Hell were you thinking?" Does this mean that I will leave him? No, but it does mean that if he does something that I am not happy about, I will give him the silent treatment for awhile.

Well,one good reason maybe is the pain they suffer from men. Or,it could just be mindsetting. I don't know the reason too. But,talking with a lesbian friend once,she tells me that,they loved and cared women more becoz they fully understand what a woman needs and wants becoz they are also a woman.(might be right) Have a good weekend

Hi nikramos! Well, I think because lesbians know better how to take care of a woman because they are women themselves. Some people don't want to limit the gender of their soulmate to their opposite gender alone. :)

:) I had know people who were lesbians and gays.. well, I think it is depend of their liking between each other. One of my coworker(girl)had bf before after that she have gf and now she still with her gf. I asked she about her bf and she said they are still be a good friends. She told me that she love he but she think her gf is a good person too..well, she should woman. Also their species in their body bulid their mind to focus on woman then guy too... ;) not really true that because they got hurt from man :) I believe that :D

That's a big...big.. question on me also. But my mind still dictating and assuming that might be happened after failure boy/girl relationship. Might be girl is trying to find an answer, think, or taste differently - if she felt ok then her feeling will go on and on, but for me it is not LOVE...

I asked that question before, too. I was told that women know how to take care of other women, that the way they show their love is different, in a good way, from that of men. Women understand women so well that when they do get together, it would last longer than when a woman is with a man.

probably because they can see what theyre looking for in a lesbian lover..rather than a real man.

Some people are what they were born, just like mouse's son is mouse ,dog's son is dog! That's destiny that we can't change . Some women fall for lesbians ,since that's what they are ! They themselves can't change it at all ! It's my opinion...

Maybe women find something in lesbians than in men. As far as I know lesbians tend to be possessive, they stick to their partners so they are less likely to cheat on them. Men on the other hand have the tendency to cheat and sometimes are not loyal to their partners.

its about brain chemistry. it has to be. thats why you will never understand it and yeah i'ms straight. also a wierd and funny thing is grandma on doctor phil(you may have seen it)whos married(to a man)has over time started being more and more attracted to women. of course thats why she was on the show but i got to wonder whats causing that? whats going in her head? i'm not calling her crazy. all i'm saying is there's got to be some type of change in brain chemistry or even a mixture of hormones causing such a situation to occur for her to have that going on.

while some women go for gays.. as to your question, matter of preference, i guess. i don't go for lesbians, too, so i cannot give a concrete answer. :-)

I've read before that female sexuality is fluid. I suppose people just change, not because they want to or because something made them, just because. You can't control the way you feel, only whether or not you're going to act on those feelings. I suppose another woman would understand girl problems more, now that I think about it. I really don't know. You just like who you like, right? And beside, some women are just lesbians. Nothing to it.

I have been also to heartaches and pains with some guys i met before, but then i never had the thought of ending with the lesbian. Though i'm a bit curious of how does it feel to have a relationship or a commitment with those. Nothing really for i discriminate them but i just have my own views on my part about it. But at least can have some ideas how it goes for some women who have encountering this kind of relationship. So i would be in comparing and still depends if i would change my mind to end up with lesbian.

I am not surprise with this phenomenon a woman love other woman, a men love other men for me it's their own bussines we no no need to bother what they doing. If they know already that lesbian is a big SIN so shouldn't do it