My mom
By angelface23
@angelface23 (2494)
United States
September 28, 2010 1:37pm CST
I thought about putting this under mother but it's more of a relationship issue. Last night on the phone my mom was saying how my oldest daughter who is 4 year old is a handful and she has to clear her whole day because she requires so much attention. I was pretty ticked off by this. First of all, my mom never sees my daughter. Maybe twice a month and it's usually when we need someone to pick her up from school. Not just because she brings it up and wants to see her. I brought this up to her today and she said she has a lot of things going on which is all the time.
The woman is always doing something. She is a recovering alcoholic so she has replaced that with sponsoring as many people as humanly possible and going to church all the time. I understand that she has a life but she didn't raise me so I think she owes to me and my children to spend time with them.
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@coolimrose (539)
• New Zealand
29 Sep 10
no babes she dosent own you anything.but yes as a granny she should have mellowed down after recovery.but she has not.she never wanted responsibility neither does she want now.why you want to keep your beloved child into her hands.She clearly doesn't want nor need her then why thou want to keep her or let your kid go to her.Anyways she dose not seem to be a of any influence to the kids maybe this would affect your kids Do you not think now you are using your daughter to get back at her.If she never raised you why on earth would she raise your child??
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@angelface23 (2494)
• United States
29 Sep 10
My daughter adores her though. She always asks where lulu is and when is she gonna see Lulu. So what am I supposed to say to her??
@gitfiddleplayer (10362)
• United States
28 Sep 10
I'm so sorry that your mom did not give you what every child needs, and that is love unconditionally. I would not try to force your mother to love on your child because she is incapable of it, I'm not saying she wouldn't but she probably doesn't know how if she didn't do it with you and your child is an extension of you, she is not you. I would go to church with your mom and see if some healing can take place. I know from experience that a child who does not get love will do anything to get it, even forgiving their parents for not loving them when they should. I hope things get better with you and your mom.
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@angelface23 (2494)
• United States
28 Sep 10
I meant I never felt unloved by her but even when I am on the phone with her she is always talking to someone else in the background, not even listening to me. I blame it on her never having enough time for anything.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
29 Sep 10
Hi Angelface,
I understand why you would be upset with a comment like that from your mother. I have a little 5yr old grand daughter and it is true...they are time consuming. They are supposed to be. I love spending time with her and when I am going to have her I make sure that I can give her 100% of my attention. Your mom should naturally WANT to spend time with her grandchildren. I hate to say it but I'm not real sure I'd want my daughter spending too much time with this person.
