ur best friend hates ur bf/gf and says will stop being ur friend if u dont...

If a friend of mine demanded me to that then I would have to question the friendship itself. My friends would be honest and tell me if they don't like a boyfriend I was seeing but they would never demand that I break up with him or else.

Thats actually happen to me. Except I'm married. My best friend hates my husband and wonted me to leave him. And I did thinking it was the best thing for because I thought I wasnt in love with him anymore. We were sprated for a month. Before I realized how much I truly loved him and need him in my life. I was just lost at the time. I made the desission to make our marriage work. And I told my best friend that I was back with my husband. It was the last time I saw her. We finally sat down one day at the park and talked. And she told me I desever to be happy and could be happy but without my husband by my side. So I told her how much I truly cared and loved my husband. And wanted to be with him. So in reply she then sent me a text and said she couldnt be my friend anymore because she believed I could do better for myself and my children. So I choose to be by my husbands side then friend with someone who isn't for my marriage. We are doing better my husband and myself. We take it day by day one step at a time. I find myself now falling more in love with him each day.

I think it would depend on exactly why she does not like. If its simply a case of "theres something about him" etc I would say "fine. Stop being my friend." Its plain blackmail at the end of the day and if she doesnt like him, then I cant help that.

I once heard someone say that the one who makes you choose loses. I mean, if your friend really cared about you, he or she wouldn't make you choose :| He or she would let you be happy. I'm the only one who should decide if I wanna leave my boyfriend or not (and I wouldn't, just so you know ;) ).

this is silly...if he were my best friend, he wouldn't make me choose between my boyfriend and him. he would understand that I need to realise that person isn;t good for me, that I need to make my own mistakes in order to learn. so if he puts me in this position, I would definitely choose my boyfriend, and if he really is my best friend he'll accept it, and learn how to deal with it

I'll just ignore my friend, me and my friends don't want to involve ourselves with each other's money and love problems.

Well, if my best friend doesn't have a good enough reason why I should leave my bf for him/her, then I don't think I would ever leave my bf. Plus, if the best friend is mature enough, then he/she should know the differences between a friend and bf.

When I am good to you, it should be up to certain level. When you are good to me, certainly it is the same too. No matter how, none of your friend can interrupt your personal life. Unless she is lesbian, unless he is gay. ha! ha! ha! As a good friends to you, she/he should respect to you and your friends too.

For me, i will ask my best friend why she don't like my bf...If i am contented with her best reason and she will give me a prove that all she told me is true, i will also ask my bf...i will also listen to his part.....

No need to imagine because I've experience it...my best really hates my bf...One day when me and bf went to a disco,and we meet my best there with his gf,we dance together then my best came near to me and said that we well go home together..then suddenly my bf hit my best....that's one of the reason whey my my best hate my bf and it come to the moment that my best told me that if I'll don't broke up with him...he well never gonna be my friend...and that's it i choose my best..he knows what is good for me...hes like a big brother to me....

well i wouldn't have done such stuff because is my friend tells me that you leave my gf i would have told him that i like her because she is really nice why don't you like her I have chosen her because she has some qualities so I would have mentioned it and would have made him understand...

I think your bestfriend should understand your feelings. Love and friendship is very important for us. Your friend should not let you choose between him and your boyfriend bec first of all, he cant give you the `inlove` factor you feel. Just tell your friend to make some advice but not totally run your relationship. He must respect also what you want. ^^

If I want to leave my friends, I will not be banned because he will realize how difficult making friends and if she needs someone loyal to her friends she was going to come back to us. Only a fool would leave his best friend.

wow, of course I don't think a best friend would do such thing asking me to leave my boyfriend. If he/she really treat me as his/her best friend, he/she should explain the reasons why he/she hates my bf and suggests me to leave but definitely not saying that he/she will leave if I'm not leaving my bf. I think it wouldn't make me want to break up with my bf but don't want to be friends with he/she anymore. :P

mmmmm..that's not the way to go. Unless everyone hates the bf or gf. There must be some reasons not to . Actually, it happened to me too.. I didn't like my bestfriend's partner but have never told her to stop seeing him or end that relationship. It's too personal to do that.. And then I realized, there are boundaries of being a bestfriend...you can just give options for an advice, then you leave the person to decide which way to go.so she can grow.

I noticed you called your best friend "he". Maybe he wants to be more than your best friend. Maybe he wants you to be his girlfriend!!! I'd insist my best friend explain WHY they didn't like my boyfriend & I would listen to all the reasons & then decide what I felt was BEST for me!!! If my best friend didn't have some dayum good reasons, then NO I would NOT break up with my boyfriend!!! I'd most definitely give up the friendship than the relationship!!!

i agree with you..i wouldn't leave my bf just because my bestfriend doesn't like him..i wouldn't give up..because she doesn't know how it feels..and besides,it's not them that will live together it's me and my bf's life..

if they aRe my trUe. they aRe alsO happy where I feLt happy they gUide me and prOtect. bUt I didn't ask my friends yEt if they really like my bf. I dOn't care if they dOn't like, I dOn't need their OpiniOn.

I'll never let anyone dictates me, most especially with regards to heart matter. I dont wont to choose between boyfriend & bestfriend.. I will explained it to my bestfriend this relationship I had w/ my boyfriend for sure he/she will understand it. I will assure her that nothing will change if I had him... sometimes bestfriend gets jealous, why?? because of time. For sure you'll give more of your time spending it with boyfriend and bestfriend will be set aside.. but its not true, right??! I will let him/her bond with my boyfriend so that they can be friends.

Some people are just protective of their friends and do not wish too see their friends come to harm. If the bf/gf does came inbetween you and your friend, then obviously you would have to question he/she would think so negatively about that particular person. I mean, there has GOT to be a reason... right? However, to throw away years of a relationship to be with someone you just met for a week or so is pretty silly. What if that friend's hunch turns out to be right for instance... what if your dream dark and handsome boyfriend turns out to be a total psycho, and you were just too deeply entranced to realize it? Whatever you may do, obviously you shouldn't be rash with your decisions.