How many babies do you think complete a family ?
By GoldenAsh
@GoldenAsh (290)
United States
20 responses
@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
16 Dec 10
When I got married for the first time, I wanted three children. Two boys and a girl. Well, I ended up with twice as many. yes, I have six kids, and two husbands later...I wish I would have done things differently.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
17 Dec 10
LOL! When I got together with my current husband and we talked about number of kids, we thought about six. He had two already and I got pregnant right away... so we figured that was three, why not three more. Well, we just stuck with three lol.
The only thing I wish is that we had been younger when we met, then maybe we WOULD have six.
@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
16 Dec 10
Of course, I love all six of my children very much and I am so blessed to have them :)
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@GoldenAsh (290)
• United States
30 Dec 10
Thabk you mommyboo and buggles, by the way six is not a bad idea. I really love the concept of three boys and three girls. The only problem is I cannot make sure there are three boys and three girls in my family.
Thanks for your responses and participation. I reaaly like this mom to mom talk.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
17 May 11
Me personally , I don't want any. But I think the number Should vary from person to person. There are parents that their first child and feel complete. And then there are women like my dear friend who just had her first child and she Knows she wants another. I hope you can find a way to have the 4 you want. Take Care.
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@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
1 Jan 11
I think that 2, 3 or 4 children are ideal for each family. I have got 3 children: two boys and a girl. My sister has 4 children: two boys and two girls. Before I had my children I hoped to have a girl and then a boy a few years later. If I had got just one child I would have preferred a girl. It depends on a family's wealth and size of home. If a family have a very large house I think it is reasonable for them to have many children. I am very keen on traveling. The infant airfare is hardly anything, the child fare is for 2 to 11 year old and it is about 75% of the adult fare which is over 12 year olds. At the moment I travel with my 3 year old disabled son and my 18 month of daughter. We will go on another trip before she gets to 2 years old.
@GoldenAsh (290)
• United States
6 Feb 11
Nice to meet you maximax8, yes 4, 3 and 2. These are the common answers I have got. It is good you like travelling.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
17 Dec 10
It depends on a lot of things . 'Enough' is a general term, just like 'success'. What it IS depends on who you are. To some people, ONE is too many. To some people, maybe even ten isn't 'enough'.
I have three - two are grown, one is six. If I were still in my early 20s I'd probably still have 3, and be happy with 3. As things stand, there are 22 months between the first two, and then 12 years between the middle and the last lol.
My family is small right now, there's just the three of us left at home, but it is perfect.
@GoldenAsh (290)
• United States
30 Dec 10
Thank you Mommyboo for your response, I really like your concept of "enough" and I agree that it is completely subjective. Happy mylotting.
@GemmaR (8517)
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7 Feb 11
I've always wanted to start having children relatively young and have perhaps a gap of 4 years between each of them so that they can appreciate their baby brother/sister when they arrive. I would want about 4 children, so that the eldest would be 12 when the last was born.. then I wouldn't have too long to wait for grandchildren!! He he. Sorry but I am very family orientated and I love new babies, so I cannot wait to put my plan into action!
@GoldenAsh (290)
• United States
23 Apr 11
Hello GemmaR, nice to meet you. Thank you for participating in the discussion.
I also believe in the distance between sibli9ngs theory. It is good to have a distance of at least 3 years between each of the siblings.
Three Four is great. A mother has a great responsibility to take care of all kids. By the way, I love babies too and I want to enjoy each and every moment of them growing up steadily and lovingly.
@gelayagui98 (1336)
• Australia
15 Apr 11
Hello friend, I wanted it three - two girls and a boy or vice versa, but unfortunately, all three kids are boys, I have no girl at all. They were all Cesarean delivery. My husband fears is who will take care of us when we get older? I just laughed hiding my fears too, and answer him start saving for our old age.
@GoldenAsh (290)
• United States
23 Apr 11
Hello gelayagui98, nice to meet you. Thank you for participating in the discussion. We were three too. One brother and two sisters.
Yes you are right. One is less, Two is good, Three is better. Can't say much about four!!!
I also remember the quotation when I read your response
"A Daughter is a Daughter all her life
A son is a son until he gets a wife!!!"
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
6 Oct 10
Hi. GoldenAsh. For me, four is enough. But, it all depends on what a family desires. It is a decision that only you can make for yourself. I have people telling me all of the time, that I don't need anymore kids. I three kids that I am taking care of right now. I have not gotten pregnant in three years now. I don't plan to anytime soon. Maybe in three of four more years, I would like to have another child. The number of kids that you may have, is your decision alone, and what you can only handle as being a parent.
@GoldenAsh (290)
• United States
23 Nov 10
Thank you cream97. Yes you are right, I think I will think more about this topic after having two kids. Right now this one cutie baby is enough to handle, take care.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
6 Oct 10
Hi,
For me,either one or two is more than enough to
a complete family.
Currently, I have only one child and I don't think
I am going to add for another child.It is
more than enough for me.
Due to high living standard and high expenses, we really
can't afford to have another child in hand.
And I am not capable to takecare of two kids at the same
time.
@GoldenAsh (290)
• United States
6 Feb 11
Yes shia88, I also think in the same way. Right now I have one toddler and he such a nice fella, but I think I want to wait for sometime. Likewise the high life standars, sometimes I wonder where does all the salary go!!!!!!!!!!!!
@pastigger (612)
• United States
3 Oct 10
I really think that it depends on the family. We always thought that two would be perfect but after having one and having some complications it seems like one will be our magic number. We feel complete with her. We have weighed the options of more and for us it seems our best option is to have one. There are many things to consider and I don't think that there is one right answer for everyone. I know that there are a lot of different ways to make things work and even though the economy is what it is there are always different options and sometimes we learn to live with less to have more. So I wish everyone luck with what they decide.
@GoldenAsh (290)
• United States
6 Feb 11
Very nice answer, It is all about feeling happy and complete.
@Suzieqmom (2755)
• United States
7 Oct 10
If you really want four kids, then have four. The money will come--you have your whole life to make enough money. But being able to physically and emotionally bear a child is, for most women, a relatively short period of time. You will never regret having more children, but you might regret not having as many as you would like (within reason). We have two beautiful children, and I though that would be enough, but now that they are older, I do miss having a baby, and wish that I had had a third. But I am happy with the two I have, and thankful that I have them!
@GoldenAsh (290)
• United States
23 Nov 10
Thank you Suzieqmom, you are right the child-bearing age is very limited for a woman.Advice noted.I also love babies. I have a little one who is sleeping next-by.
@starlight_starbright (810)
• Philippines
2 Oct 10
hi goldenAsh,
If I would answer your question, I would want 2 babies, a boy and a girl to complete my family. Generally, having one child is enough top complete a family. A family is composed of a mother, a father and child/children. But on the contrary, it's not good for a child to grow up alone. I mean not having at least one sibling. I child would grow well if they can see from one another how they are taken cared of. If one sees how mom and dad love the other, he would fee that, that's how their parents love them. There, they will have a strong foundation, emotionally, mentally, and socially. This is my view and this is what I wanted. :-) Happy mylotting!
@GoldenAsh (290)
• United States
11 Oct 10
thank you starlight, you are right a baby should not grow up alone, he /she should always have a sibling who might act as a partner/companion in the family.
@jrestradaC (47)
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2 Oct 10
for me, two babies are enough in a family. it because of the crisis that we've been experiencing right now and also for the sake of our children that they will live with aright and good kind of living.
@GoldenAsh (290)
• United States
9 Oct 10
thank you for your participation, i think I have started to agree with the concept that two children are enough for a family.
@wearitwell (37)
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2 Oct 10
My ideal children is two. This is already enough for parents to provide good education and life for my children.
@GoldenAsh (290)
• United States
11 Oct 10
Thank you wearitwell for your participation, it feels good to meet new people from different countries and share viewpoints on a certain topic.
@GoldenAsh (290)
• United States
4 Mar 11
Welcome to the discussion and thank you for responding to it. yes 2 are great too. I just added you as my friend. Add me too.
@wdiong (1815)
• Singapore
31 Dec 10
I think there is no fixed answer to this question. It really depends on whether one has the financial ability to raise the children that you are going to bring into this world. It is a great and lifelong responsibility. It also depends on whether you have you have a loving and stable relationship with your spouse....I do not think it is fair to let children grow up in an environment where parents are quarelling whole day long.
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
6 Oct 10
However many you can afford financially and emotionally. I don't agree with people having more children than they can actually raise themselves and financially afford to provide for each one comfortably.
For me personally, I never want any children at all.
@dodo19 (47336)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
3 Jan 11
I think that depends on the couple and the individual. If you want two kids, then you should have two kids, or at least try to. Every family is different, and every couple is different as well. I think that you should try to have as many kids as you would like to have.