Cheating each other

Hello,Doris! Lol! They will spend entire life like this?I don't think the revenge is the best solution.If she decide to forgive and forget,few years a go,why she wants revenge now?I don't understand this lol! I don't understand why they still live together,if they don't love each other anymore!Now what will be happend?Husband will revenge and has an extramarital affair again?LOL! Happy lotting!

Whaaat! Sorry for that reaction. What an immature decision for the wife to cheat her husband as a revenge. I say so because revenge is always a negative act. If she has an affair because she wanted to get even, then in the first place, she should not have forgiven her husband. It is natural for men to be polygamous, but not to women. Respect matters. When a man has an affair, it is normal and acceptable. It is different when the girl has an affair. It is about descency and reputation of the girl. Respect likewise be lost.

It's sad to witness a marriage that is not working out because all of us dreamed of having to find the one. Only to realize that sometimes, it could result that one would cheat from the other. I wish they could seek a counseling. For things between them to work out. I hope there's still a chance. As for the wife who found someone in the net, maybe she's lonely. And maybe that guy she found on the net is giving her the comfort she needs. But if they can't really fix their marriage, might as well go on their separate ways before they could prolong the suffering.

Oh I think if they don't stop that behaviour then it is never gonna stop ever, then they better divorce. that is just an unhealthy marriage. do they have kids? I can still understand the feeling for the wife though, but if she could never forgive her husband truthfully, then she should just let the marriage go. Because taking a revenge would not help them to get the romance in their marriage back.

When couples exchange their vows in marriage, they should be sure and secure with each others feelings.. I believe that if the couples are both satisfied there is no way that an extra marital relationship can exist irregardless of condition and reason.

I say that getting revenge on your husband is not the way to handle things. She needs to seek marriage counseling or just end the marriage completely. Cheating is not okay and should not be used as a way to get back at someone. What a terrible situation. I hope you have no involvement :(

Marriage is just not taken as seriously these days as it used to be. Many people just go into marriage believing if it doesn't work out they will just divorce. Cheating is one thing that tends to destroy marriages today. Because it is no longer a sacred institution marriage is broke down by infidelity. It is sad that sometimes people say they want a marriage to survive an affair and they want to work on it only to turn around and make mistakes that will cause more turmoil and problems. That couple should seek counseling if they really WANT the marriage to work. If they don't they should just call it quit playing games with each other.

Once trust is lost in a relationship it's very hard to get it back. As you have seen forgiveness just doesn't do it. People who have been betrayed carry an anger that is very deep.

we can never correct a mistake by doing another one, besides if the husband cheats it's not much a big deal to others unlike if the wife does. Though both the husband and wife must not cheat. By making a revenge this would truly ruin the relationship.

I`m not surprised at all . That kind of things i see every single day . I know a girl that is having a relationship of at least 7 years and for 3 years she is with another man too . She manage to keep bought and they don`t know nothig about it . The first man is cheating her too , i saw that , but she don`t know, or maybe they know and they are ok with that ... There are a lot of man and woman that are cheating , i belive that more than 50% and this it`s not so right ... it`s a pretty bad thing . Maybe we will change our minds too and we will do just like the others ...

If the reason she decided to go on with the marriage and forgive her husband is because of love then she would not think of even doing the same thing her husband did. It would just complicate and make things worst. If she can no longer stand the marriage then it's better to just end in a graceful way. In the end it might just backfire and she might even be the one who will end up miserable.

honestly i think that your friend is cheating on her hubby bcs she wants to and is using revenge as an excuse. also if she really has forgiven him she wouldnt want any revenge. bcs he cheated on her years ago and she forgave him. so if she wants to cheat on him now with someone online is bcs she doesnt really love your friend. also they already cheated on each other so they should get separated. how can they be happy if one cheated and now other one does the same? if she didnt forget what her hubby did she shouldnt had been with him. but now she cheats and say is a revenge thats too stupid. for sure they shouldnt be together. they are just being unhappy this way.

I dont understand that kind of revenge,everybody make mistakes in his live.Its better to forgive that kind of mistakes than doing the same mistakes which hurt your partner in the same way.Sometimes you don't have anything to loose approve that decisions.

They better call their relationship quits. it is useless to stay married and cheat each other. I also don't understand what's happening with them.

I must confess, if you had asked thid question montha ago I would have answered, well That's marriage. But that was before I learned that many marry for love. So if you marry for love, it doesn't make any sense. If you have no love ledt then leave. I see marriage as a family obligation, love may or may not be present. That's why mu first reaction is so? Isn't that what happens? I am way too ol;d fashioned. I see marriage as a way to have kids to further a family line. But once you have the heir and as spare sort of speak, each partner is free to have lovers. I know modern marriage isn't like that. I think your friends are on their way to a break up. I feel once he finds out about the other guy, He won't forgive , he'll leave. Hope I'm wrong , unless that's what she wants!

Two wrongs dont make a right. Maybe they are bored with each other. Sounds like neither were ready for marriage. If they keep doing this i can not imagine the marriage will last. I hope they do not have children.

What I can say is that a terrible actions of both husband and wife. I don't also understand why the wife forgive his husband, when she know her husband cheated her then does the same in the end... Revenge is not good because someday it will be back unto you. Those acts is a kind of sin and bad behavior that should not be seen by others... Have a nice day!

I do't condone him having an affair in the first place. If she has forgiven him I cannot see her purpose in gaining revenge either. She has either forgiven him, or has not. To my mind it would seem that they do not belong together. If they are both prepared to cheat perhaps it is better that they stay together. At least they deserve each other!

i dont like that... ok, the husband had a mistake, then wife forgive him. but if wife do an affair, wife do some mistake like husband. and worst, she do it with consent. if there no more respect (wife or husband, who cheat = no respect their mate) it been better to divorce, i think... but then, i all up to them... c u

its just how some people are who can say why they do what they do. but maybe its like they think the other one is so they do to.