Is it normal if you dont have any best friend?
By monalily
@monalily (380)
October 3, 2010 2:33am CST
A best friend is someone who will love you the way you are, help you in difficult situations and who will probably stay with you the whole life. You can share all your secrets. You can increase your happiness by sharing it with your friend and forget your sorrows and relieved while sharing.
But if you dont have a best friend or someone you can trust 100 percent and confine all your secrets?, Is it possilbe? Do you find it normal or that perso has a big loss having no best friend?
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@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
3 Oct 10
I think its normal, and a mark of good judgment, if you don't have a best friend. I have found that people who have, and need a best friend, are more indecisive and not as well grounded as those who are act as their own best friend. Those who can think for themselves, and enjoy making their own decisions do not have need of a best friend. Its a lazy way to live,(never knowing or making your own decisions, and never knowing what to do, or think, without laying it on someone else) Always needing another's advise, and never taking responsibility for ones own actions can be devastating, and dangerous to life! Humans who get the furthest in life, and make the most of life, do it entirely on their own.
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@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
3 Oct 10
Thumbs up mate! I couldn't agree more :) Have a nice day
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@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
3 Oct 10
Well dont worry your not alone..after moving to other country I lost all those close and best friend..I mean not lost the same thing as I dont consider them as my friend anymore..its just that were really far to each other..and when I need a friend..theres no one I can turn too..they were all so far away..
anyway a truefriend is hard to find..and better not to have one if they are not real.. and when you find a good friend..
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@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
3 Oct 10
I have many good friends but none of them are living close to me. even my own family are way far from me. to me, yes it is nice to have some friends to share your happiness and problem with, but it's also normal to not have best friends. I'm sure our own family members are supposed to be considered as best friend too, eh?
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@ivo_shkafov (399)
• Bulgaria
3 Oct 10
I think it's normal,because it's very hard to find a true friend.You must have certain chemistry.
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@danielashaira (86)
• Philippines
3 Oct 10
i believe that if you dont have any bestfriend its normal for us, as long as we have friends, though not as close as bestfriend but atleast there are some, that we can talk with, laugh with....we can share with, well it`s ok
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
7 Oct 10
I do not have friends. Actually I used to have many friends, for some reason and for the good of my friend, I have to leave them, and no contact. I feel this is not normal, if we do not have friends, but the longer, I'm getting used to it, and all seemed normal.
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
3 Oct 10
There are lots of people who dont have a best friend and it is normal because it is really hard to trust another person fully. But according to studies people who dont have a best friend other than their spouse is more stressed than those who do. So you better look for someone who you can trust with all of your secrets so you could release some of your tension
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@katland05 (136)
• Guam
7 Oct 10
monalily hi there...
If the person don't have a best friend it's because maybe in the past had one but when they had a disagreement maybe the friend went around spreading the secrets of the other friend, they had a falling out & the trust was lost.... It's hard to gain trust again even if they had another best friend... I think it's okay if you don't have a best friend or like me my best friend is my husband because I know him for more than 20 years & I can trust him with my secrets & he's always there when I need him... Have a great day mylot friends...
@richardjx (50)
• China
5 Oct 10
I think a best friend may not be one person, as one person have many interests he can have many different friends who may have several same interests, then he shares opinions and activities in these aspects with them. At the same time he can also count on different things with his different kinds of friends, gether all the friends he may have "one" who can trust 100 percent. While it is difficult to have only one person have all the qualities you want the one you count on most is just your best friend.
@bmlynn09 (61)
• United States
3 Oct 10
I believe it can be normal not to have a best friend, although it is nice having one. If a person doesn't have a best friend it might mean that they have trust issues because someone has not treated them well. I myself didn't have a best friend for awhile.
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@yolkspock (20)
• Philippines
3 Oct 10
It is normal. You could even have friends but not have a best friend.
It just means that you haven't found the most compatible person for you to be your best friend yet. And I know all about the sharing part, it's hard having friends who would spill out your secrets or use them against you. So to prevent that as happening, we restrict ourselves to a limit.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
4 Oct 10
honestly, until now, I can live without having a best friend and I never felt weird, because my life continues to run well. To me, a name and meaning "the best friend" just showed that we has discriminate the meaning of a friend. To me, everyone who knows me, is my best friend
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
3 Oct 10
I dont think there is anything wrong being with no Best friend---it would be good to have one to rely on at good and bad times though.you wouldn't find them now and then...it just happens and that person would be so close to you than you had expected in your first interaction.great day.
@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
It is normal not to have a best friend as long as you have friends. Maybe you haven't found one and still searching for him or her. If you don't have one I think one of your friend consider you as his or her best friend. Well how about that?
@MisterApropos (288)
• United States
3 Oct 10
I would have to say that person is missing out on something that every person should have.
It is a great thing to have a best friend.
The only thing that is inconvenient with a best friend, is their departure from the world.
But everyone ends up leaving the Earth..
@darius199108 (66)
• Lithuania
3 Oct 10
I think it depends from the person. Some people like having no friends while others can't live in company with their friends. For example I don't have many firends, and in order of that I don't share my secrects with them.