I remember being 14
By savypat
@savypat (20216)
United States
October 6, 2010 2:26pm CST
Do you remember that age? I was in my first year of High School that year and left a small grade school to join a very big High School. Even though there was only one High School in our area I didn't have any friends or even kids I knew at this new school I know they must have been there but they were not in my classes. Most of the time I was in a daze, just trying to make it from one class to the next in time. Schools in my area of California ran from 1 to 8 grades and then high school was from 9 to 12. Girls could not wear pants, we wore dresses or skirts and blouses. We wore big skirts with lots os underslips to make them big. it was very hard to fit in the small seats of the desks. Most of all I remember the smells, the gym, the chem lab, the old musty buildings in part of the school, and being all alone. Soon I found some friends and I have never felt that way again. Now if i have to go to a strange place I try to go there before I have to be there so I know where things are and I carry a book at all times in case I have to wait, I never get much reading done because I like to watch people more. But I grew up a great deal in my 14th year. How was yours?
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
10 Oct 10
I didn’t enjoy high school very much. When I was fourteen I was in my second year at high school and I lacked confidence so much all I did was admire the ‘popular’ girls and tried to be just like them which didn’t change my life in any way really! I remember feeling self-conscious all the time and extremely pressured to keep up with all the assignments and homework. I particular disliked sport because being ‘non sporty’ as I was did nothing for my popularity in fact other kids were often angry at me for not scoring that last point etc...
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Oct 10
Being fourteen was really a year of a lot of changes in my life. Just like you, I started high school when I was fourteen years old. It wasn't a huge adjustment for me though because I'd already been on the high school swim team for two years and already knew a lot of people that were in higher grades than I was. However, the biggest adjustment that I had to make in my life that year is that it was the year that my father passed away. I had to go through losing one of my beloved parents and I really think that is one of the reasons that I grew up so much that year.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
9 Oct 10
My highschool was very big too. It was a confusing time. It was tough getting from one end of the school to the other in 5 minutes and having to go to my locker sometimes on top of that. If you had to pee...well...it was a tardy..lol...My daughter goes to a huge highschool and I worry about her too. She has classes upstairs and downstairs and her locker is on the east wing while classes on the west. It's tough for them.
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@mandy8611 (154)
• China
7 Oct 10
I was in the first year of my junior high school when I was 14, I came into a new school, met new classmats and new teachers,and started to learn English as a foreign language, I was a happy girl at that time.
@jakcop091 (1)
• Syria
7 Oct 10
ya I remeber in 14 i fell in love and it was my best thang happen to me
i am now in 20 and wish to back 14
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@GardenGerty (160663)
• United States
7 Oct 10
We still put 9th grade in junior high, but I was a pretty shy person. I also worried all of the time about all the things I could not fix. I was always someone who carried a book. I kept my mouth shut, and smiled a lot, and tried to make sure that no one knew I was shy. I think I am a little younger than you. We wore mini skirts. My senior year we began to be able to wear "pants suits" but that was a few more years. I think we all learn to do certain things out of self preservation. I volunteered in the library over my lunch hour, because I wanted to skip lunch, I hated to have to go out to the courtyard for fresh air, or whatever during the lunch hour and I loved to be around the books. I made thing work for me.
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@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
7 Oct 10
When I first got transferred into a private school, it was run by nuns and it was an all girl school I never liked the school because it gave me an eerie feeling. And then it happened, I was bullied in my first two years. It feel like hell. We don't have middle school here so the school system is like, grade 1 to 6 them first year high school to 4th year then to the 4 year college. I beg my mom that I should transfer school explaining to her what happened to me but she said I was over reacting and insisted that it's the only school that gives good education. I was really heartbroken that time because she will always have this problem of not listening to me and what she wants will always be the final decisiion. Then I decided to join the school band. It wasn't that bad or boring because little by little, i began to interact with people who doesn't judge you with the money you have in your pocket. Although they are rich themselves but they are down to earth. And I slowly opened my heart to the possibilities of finding a real, true friend. I did during my junior and senior year. And that person became one of my best friends.
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
6 Oct 10
I remember as we had moved to a new town....and did my life change. I was living on a farm and when we moved to town my social life skyrocketed! I was able to join all the clubs and groups that I had never joined before as when I lived on the farm you had to find a ride home....once in town I could walk to any function. It was a very wonderful year.
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@nobbsy123 (851)
• Australia
6 Oct 10
I was in grade 8 and I remember trying unsuccessfully to fit in at school. I was constantly getting bullied and I didn't want to do what most school students think is "cool" because I have my own personality. I was in the computer group and chess club. I chose to use my brain rather than my fists. I went through school with very few friends.
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@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
7 Oct 10
Pat-
Your era sounds much like my mom's era. She went to school during a time when girls could only wear skirts and the skirt had to touch the floor if the girl was on her knees. When I went to school at age 14 we didn't have very many dress codes other than no mini skirts. We could wear pants if we so wished. I remember that era was the craze of Back to the Future so everyone was wearing jean jackets and trying to ride skateboards. My best friend at the time broke her arm while hanging on to the back of a car trying to do the trick Marty did in the movie.
I was a book worm as well in school because I didn't have very many close friends. I was way too shy and kept to myself. My mom drilled it into me to carry a book when going to an appointment and I'm afraid it's never left me. I always carry something to read be it a book or magazine, but I also tend to be distracted by watching what people are up to.
I worked everyday after school babysitting until two am for a local child so to have monies to buy things. My mom was a single parent before I turned 14 so I did what I needed to help pay bills, buy groceries and what not. I can't say I "grew up" as I had a lot to learn throughout high school but I do remember being slightly at more the advantage when it came to my human relations course later because I already knew what a budget was, etc. Made for an easy "A".
Namaste-Anora
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@chanlot (189)
• Indonesia
7 Oct 10
The first time I entered high school grade 1 was 15 years old. Indeed, those who first enter the class as a missing person, because that is where we do not have any friends who knew us. I like people who fear the loneliness and the like chicks who have lost their mothers. But after a week in. I started to get a friend. The first time acquaintance of people with whom I was a guy, because I am still afraid to get acquainted with a girl.
There is another age which I think is very impressive that at age 8 years and is now grade 2 primary school. At that time I chased a girl and the girl was crying because it scared me.
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@bautistaanna04 (306)
• Philippines
7 Oct 10
i remember it well, i can't fit in to school that time, as was in my stage of adjustment to new school and a totally different environment. before i transfered there, i was at a school with just 18 classmates and there, i had 39. so surprising for me. and the campus is almost 10 times my old school. i experienced being lost, entering the wrong classroom and i don't know what to do.
fortunately, i was able to fit in after a school year.
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@ccrreeddoo (52)
• Philippines
7 Oct 10
in the first in my 14 i can understand why i am be happy that why i am not a child there are a lot of creation friends and to communicate each other,. when i am in high school a lot of friends but i can be a being good of my grade when i was in 15 in fourth year level in high school my old friends are nothing.,,. because transfer other school am so a fried..,.
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@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
6 Oct 10
I can't remember specifically what I did at that age because it's long time ago already, I am now on my 35 years old. I only remember my first year High School as being quite at the classroom and I don't have any friends at that time. I studied in the school where I don't have any classmates from Elementary. I'm alone and from my old school so I am very quite.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
14 Oct 10
I started high school at 14 also, but we had the schools configured differently. Elementary was from K - 6, Junior High was 7 - 9, and High School was 10 - 12. We couldn't wear pants in elementary or Jr. High, but in High School we could. It was a pretty good year. Jr. High was awful, and anything was better than that!