Will you tell your partner your deepest secrets?

When I was with my ex, I felt obligated to tell him everything or else I'd feel guilty. But now that we're not together, I regret telling him everything and it didn't really make a difference if I said or not. If there is a past that is really important to me and my partner is really important to me, I may share it with him. But other things that are not important to me, I wouldn't.

I will not because I live in a country where people are not so broadminded to let go your past relationships. If I were in USA or France or other country, where people take such secrets as casual and understand such things are common and natural then thing would have been different.

i think yes^^ we must share all about our past^^ if person loves us loves us for who we are^^ and also even knowing our past. we must always share even if we stole, if cheated, if did something really bad. i think we must share and if person doesnt accept us is bcs doesnt really love us. bcs if we tell means that that person is so important to us that we even tell bad things that still hurt us from our past. so yes we should always tell^^ and im sure if person really loves us will not care for that and will loves us still^^

i prefer not to tell my deepest secret to my partner because to me that could trigger a bigger problem, especially if my deepest secret is about someone else in my past. my partner does not like to be compared and he also does not like me talking about somebody in my past. so it would be better for me to keep that secret myself than i hurt my partner;s feeling. i agree that being honest in a relationship is important but there are still boundaries about what secret should we tell and which is not..

All guys(husbands) are not ready to accept the secrets. We have to see that how our partner nature is and reveal the secret. It may hurt, disappoint, get angry to your partner. Once you discuss your secret you have to be ready to answer all of his questions and should face all situations comes after that. It is not good have the secret relationship after marriage.

Yes, i would tell my partner my deepest darkest secret because i believe that by telling the truth you will have a peaceful and good relationship with your partner. If ever your partner gets cold after you have revealed your secret, then maybe your partner does not really love you that much that he/she cannot accept you as who you really are.

It all depends on what really needs to be revealed to them or what they should really know about you I often feel that certain aspects about yourself should never be revealed ever... unless of course you were involved with the local law enforcement and were arrested for serious crimes however things that you did with past lovers, or mistakes you made as a child or as a teenager shouldn't especially if it will only cast a negative shadow on your reputation as an honorable person.. again I think weighing out the pros and cons about your decision to reveal anything about yourself should be taken into consideration esp if you expect to have a meaningful and long term relationship

i would bring it up like ''im gonna tell u my biggest secret ever'' and then wait for the reaction if it's good or bad (bad being he will go tell everyone). if it's bad reaction then i would make something up. lol

Your partner is someone you should be able to share anything with. Your deepest darkest secrets are something that should be confided in the closest one to you. i would definitely count my partner as that person. I would not be ashaned to share any secrets with my partner no matter what they may be.

I am quite a personal person, simply because I have been hurt way too many times in my life. Currently with my live in partner, we pretty much share everything within reason. If if is not something that could and will impact him and vice verse I do not see why we need to open any can of worms per say. However since we have been together we should not have deep secrets from one another as then our relationship is not based on truthfulness.

I would like us to have a relationship in which we could talk about eveything, but there are always things thta you should keep to yourself. the more a person knows about you, the more chances you have to end up hurt. I'm not saying that your boyfriend/girfriend might want to hurt you, but you never know...

Because of conflicting interest, today's relationships are so unpredictable that it could turn from good to bad and bad to worst. Your best buddy or partner (whatever you want to call it) today could become your greatest enemy tomorrow. So there is a bit of a wisdom in keeping personal secrets within the confine of its owner. Loyal and trust worthy friends or partners have become hard to find nowadays. Besides, telling secrets to someone serves no good purpose at all.

If you really love someone you have to tell all the good and bad things happened to your life, i think that will be work out so fine, but you should be on timing, if he or she is in the bad mood don't talk about the bad thing, then if they are in the good mood start and initiate the story.

I have been cheated on not the other way around. I forgave him and tries to move on. The hurt went away as time passed bu there are days when it haunts you. I made it a point not to cheat thinking that if I don, it would't happen to me. Guess I was wrong...Secrets can haunt you. If you will not tell your partner, chances are another might. It will b e more hurtful if your partner find it out from another source. If its already in the past, I'm sure that a partner who has a broad mind would understand...or maybe not..

if i am a sick person (having a serious health problem), i know i have to tell my partner or potential partner that i have this and that. both scenarios you presented are valid actually. for some reasons i cannot define or express, i think there are things better to be prayed over and asked for forgiveness (and not to do it again) than to have it exposed and be the reason of your curse from someone else all your life. or perhaps, i don't know what i should do. this is just my opinion with the question, "what if...?"

I think it largely depends on your culture and the society you are living in. In India I think it's better to keep some secrets than to reveal them as they are going to bring only problems and dissatisfaction between the couple most times. and again there are a few things that you can't hide, if you do he/she will easily find out. In that case it's better to tell before being caught. In the end what we need is peace and happiness. We need to decide on these grounds.

I actually have no secrets that I keep between my husband and myself. I choose to not keep secrets between the two of us because I've seen far too many times that there have been secrets in relationships that will tear them apart. I do believe that if either my husband or myself would have an affair it would tear our lives apart and I'm not sure that we would be able to survive the damage from the affair, but my conscious wouldn't let me keep it a secret.

I am of the opinion that we should tell all the secrets. Better an honest version - even a confession - if need be, rather than some concoction from some foes.

I agree with you, i think it's ok if you tell all the infos and secrets you have hidden from the past from others to your partner now. I believe it's ok since no matter how ugly, bad or sad the secret may be, it happened in the past so you may as well open everything up to your partner. But on the second situation, i don't think i can say it to him. I know my partner can't handle it well and even if he loves me so much, he might not be able to control his temper and might actually hurt me. So better yet, i don't do such a thing to him. I always open everything up to my bf and so does he. I believe being open to each other is a very good thing in one relationship. No secrets can be kept forever...

I choose not to tell him my secrets unless he ask me too. Because i believe that even though you share something. You still have the right to keep things private. There are also some secrets that maybe will cause hurt feelings for you partner. So I prefer to keep the secret rather than hurt him in the process of telling. Men are less curious of the women's past. And they tend to be passive. They only open up whenever the hear something from their fellow men. But girls tend to be more curious of the men's past. They want to know their exs and what happened to the them or the relationship. But then again, I have to say that if you guys respect privacy then maybe your secrets maybe kept safe. It depends on the person if he/she wanted to share. It is their secret anyway.