Divorces are hard
By kendrathil
@kendrathil (308)
India
October 14, 2010 2:29am CST
Divorces are hard to accept. Divorces should be avoided if there is a slight chance for it. It can really have very adverse impact. It is easier to get divorced but harder to start a new life again.
5 responses
@DemonicEye (105)
• Bulgaria
14 Oct 10
Divorce is hard i agree. But i do not agree the partners should stay together if thay dont love each other anymore. It is harder to live whit partner who you dont love, dont understand anymore or simply hate.
@kendrathil (308)
• India
14 Oct 10
Yes, divorces happen when the partners d not have love and do not understand anymore. But If they come together and talk it over, can't divorces be avoided?
@naokokensaku (529)
• Malaysia
14 Oct 10
Perhaps, but you will then need to ask: is it worth staying in a marriage that is killing you slowly or take the risk of living again?
@jasmeena (846)
• Indonesia
16 Oct 10
Some of my friends are already single moms, while I am still single:). It is hard for them to decide whether to separate or not from their hubby, especially when they already have kids, but why should they stay with irresponsible man for long time?Divorce is hard, but sometimes it can be better option too ( even though nobody wants it)
@carpediem17 (1315)
• Singapore
14 Oct 10
Divorces are hard as one has to deal with the emotional aspect of it. But really need to understand the reason how the divorce came about. In some countries, there are family counselling centres or family courts that couples can go to before making the important decision.
I understand in the muslim world, the husband can divorce the wife by repeating a divorce phrase 3 times. I am not sure whether the wife can do similarly to the husband also.
@naokokensaku (529)
• Malaysia
14 Oct 10
RE: Muslim
While it is technically true, the man has to repeat those words in public, in front of witnesses who can be called to attest in syariah court/in front of a judge later that he did intend to divorce his wife. However, if the man divorces his wife, he has to support her for at least one year after the divorce or three months after their divorce.
For women, they can get request for a divorce from the courts. If they divorce him simply because they can no longer live with him, then they are obliged to return the marriage gifts from their husband. If, however, they divorce him because he beats them, etc, then they can keep the gifts given.
@NemoFish (1)
• Australia
14 Oct 10
very hard to let go
espcially if they have controlled your life
somehow it feels empty, your life is gone
well what you thought your life was anyway
there is so much grief
I cried a lot during our marriage
I have cried every night about my divorce
please seek counseling if you are like me in doubt
you need to face the reality
and yes starting a life again is harder but sticking with it is allowing it to continue, it's enabling your husband - you are a person, take control
and have lots of friends to suport you coz it hurts like hell
