Help!! My sister left her baby with me? what should I do?

that is so insensitive and cruel of her to do SO! SHe has no remorse, or any sort of gratitude but only thinking of herself about her own survival! what happens then? when you have establish bonding with the child, she comes back and take it from you?thank god i have responsible siblings who have jobs and provide care for their children. this is what happens when a person is unprepared. I feel so sad for you but be strong, maybe it will serve as an inspiration. she has no right to take the baby back when it grows up.

this is really bad! may i ask how old are you and your sister? do you have parents to help you with taking care of the baby instead? or other nearby relatives? it is really hard to be in that situation.why did your sister leave you behind with her baby? what did she said before she left? it is really a bad thing she had done. well,i can see myself in your situation cause i too have been left with my sister's baby.and i am the one taking care of her.though,my sister is still going home not like yours. but i can't move freely because of the baby. sometimes i felt like i am more of her mother not like my sister does to her. i don't like to prolong this situation anymore. so i have to do something about it. well,i do hope that you'll find someone to help you with the baby. it's really hard to be in that situation,but keep calm. and you might want your boyfriend to help you instead.

You just take care of the baby and treat as your own. You need the baby sitter for her while you are at work. Give the needs of the baby like milk and diaper and more things are too costly and besides you don't have any experience of having a baby with you to take care. Well from time to time try to ask some help from your elders. Well about your bf as of now he need to understand you more that you have now a baby. You need more of his support especially love and care. Just go and takecare of the baby..

That is so messed up I cant believe that some one would do that. I would give anything to be able to have a baby again but due to ovarian cancer I can not. I don't understand how people can do that. I mean if you don't want to be a parent then please give the baby up for adoption don't leave them with family members as it causes more problems in the long run. I hope that for your sake and the baby's that the mother stays gone. I am sorry but who needs a mother like that. Its gonna be very hard but if you love the baby then and cant bear to see her go then you will do what it takes to make sure that she is well cared for. I do hope that it all works out for you. Good luck and please keep us updated.

It is sad that you have to go through all these hassle for someone else's problem. Your selfless act really show what a good person you are. Anyway, to bring up a children is not an easy task, especially when it is not your child. I think you need to find your sister and find a better solution to solve the problem. Your sister's act is really irresponsible and she don't even provide you with the basic needs to take care of the child. You'll need to find a solution out of this or your life would be greatly impacted. All the best to you, hopefully the parents of the baby will come back to take the responsibility.

Calm down! And take a deep breath! Ok. Sometimes blessings come in unusual ways. It is unfortunate for you, the baby and even you sister that she abandoned her child that way but please always look at the positive side of things. I know that you didn't bargain for this but for some reason you were given this challenging task. There is something to learn and gain from this. It's up to you to open your eyes and realize what that something is. Evidently it is not a good idea for your sister to take care of her newborn right now. Be thankful that she had enough maturity and sense to leave her child with a responsible adult as yourself. It seems that all your niece has right now is you and that is really important. I know that you weren't ready to take on that type of responsibility but it has been proven many times that things don't always go as we planned. But regardless of that fact sometimes you just gotta roll with the punches. Your niece needs you right now. Don't turn your back on her. It is still possible for you to have a fun and enjoyable life while raising a child. One day, maybe while your boyfriend is over to look after your niece for 30 min, go in a room by yourself and clear your mind. Don't have any worry some thoughts or throw a pity party for yourself. Really just clear your mind and try to rationally think of what needs to be done and make the best decision that will both benefit you and your niece. You have to do what you have to do to make sure that both you and your niece can be in a good, positive situation. Don't think for one minute that just because of how you were thrown into this situation that it's the end of the world and there's nothing that you can do about it. I suggest that you take care of your niece and get assistance from your aunt and from anyone else in you and your niece's life who are responsible and willing to help. Things get better in time. She's still new to this world and needs time to adjust just like you do. Give it some time and see how you feel later. Babies are such a joy and I promise that if you gave up this opportunity to play a role in the development of your niece that you will regret it.

First off, I admire your determination to take care of your niece. I strongly disagree with your sisters actions. In your situation, I would make a report at the local Police Department. Not to press charges against your sister (unless you choose to do so), but in order to protect yourself in case the child's bio-dad tries to start trouble, or in case your sister decides to waltz back into your life several years down the road and start trouble. you are taking on a tremendous responsibility. I think this is a great time to sit down with your boyfriend and ask about HIS feelings/concerns/etc about this situation. Because from my understanding you are considering keeping your niece (as in not asking your aunt to raise her)? This involves your boyfriend if you two are seriously in a long-term relationship. i wish you the best of luck and wish I could help you out with more advice.

You should report your sister to Social Services and arrange to have your niece legally placed with you. This would help with some of the expenses and should provide insurance for her too.

I feel very sorry for you having got into a situation that you didn't choose. I think that your sister ran away because she was scared and she might sort her head out and return. In the next few weeks maybe you could take some time off work to care for your baby niece. Then you could find a child minder to look after her whilst you work. I suggest you ask friends to help because you are so exhausted and you need some time to rest. Maybe your boyfriend could give you some support. You could ask your aunt to help you but not take full charge if she lives nearby. Good luck.

ohmy word and here you were' just awhile ago talking about marriage and having a baby. NOw 'you are finding out the cruel reality of caring for a child hehe. I have to laugh as did you not know they pee and poo, and cry and have to be fed, and burped. And since she is living with you you are to blame also as you let her stay with you.where are you parents? can not the grandma take better care of a baby than a single girl with on real maternal instincts. lol.HOw old is the Auntie and if you say shes old she already forty I am going to laugh at you.I think you should look at this as a learning experience but too you did not say how long your sister intended to leave your neice. I think she should be taking care olf her own baby, not palming the child off on a single sister with no c hild care experience

Hi, Sad to hear about this case happened to you. Your sister is so irresponsible. She has given birth to her baby and she has the responsibility to takecare of her.How can she leave the baby to you and you have to bear all the burden yourself. For the time being, you will be having a hard day. WOrk in day time and night has to takecare of your niece,but one thing for sure, your niece will be happy to have such a nice auntie like you and she will treat you well in future. You are doing something good now and you will get the repayment in future,believe it!! Have you tried to look for your sister and get her explanation? Raising a child is not easy and need lot of money.But I believe you can do it. Takecare!!

One thing that you definitely need to do is you need to get the ball rolling so that you will be able to have legal custody of your niece. Once you've done that you will be able to get government assistance for her. In addition to that, you have to realize that the problems of not getting sleep and such are a temporary thing, before you know it, you will be able to sleep through the night. I just hope that you don't get too attached to her only to have your sister come and take her out of your life.

she is terrible!!what kind of mother she is!!well if your aunt is welling to taking care or watch the baby.you can give her to your aunt,or maybe you can ask welfare about the baby,if what is the right way.or maybe there is other member in your family who wants and welling raise your lil niece.

Tess, I can imagine how hard this is for you. How old are you & how old is this baby, if you don't mind me asking? Raising a child is hard work, especially if you're not prepared for it. You have to report it to the state number one because if she never comes back no one will ever be able to put this baby in school or anything without a parent's consent, which the parent is not there to consent to anything. If you feel overwhelmed and you can't take care of her, please please give her to your aunt or someone who is willing to take care of the baby. You can help your aunt with your neice, you're not walking out on her. But honey, I see all the time where people get overwhelmed with children and hurt them and NO I'M NOT SAYING YOU WOULD DO THIS but I'm saying don't chance it. Are you able to provide for a baby? You have to take this baby's best interest at heart. My sister had my nephews and neice taken away. I had JUST had my daughter that I had prepared for and at the time my other sister took 2 of them, my mom could only handle one financially, so my husbanded and I opted to take care of one. It overwhelmed me too much. He was more of a handful than my daughter. He was troubled by his situation and it broke my heart but I couldn't do it... He understood and he was only 7. He ended up going to live with my mom and his brother. It broke my heart to shreds, but I just knew I couldn't do it. If he hadn't been so troubled and acted out so much I could have. I just know from experience. Plus she is too young to understand anything. But you have to let the state know. I would talk to a lawyer first. They probably won't remove the baby but they will have to change custody to you or your aunt. I hope this helped hun and I wish you the best with whatever you choose.

Although the situation is bad and I feel sorry for you and the baby, the only thing you can do it deal with it. The sleeping, being tired...welcome to motherhood. Babies of course are not going to sleep throughout the night. And all of that is basic for first time mom expenses. If you love her, then just be there for her as much as you can. Tell your boyfriend the whole situation and if he really loves you, he'll understand. Maybe he'll even help out and you're going to have to give up going out for a long time...sorry about that. If he wants to spend more time with you he should come over to see you at home instead of going out. As for your sister. Try to contact her as much as you can. I don't know how it is in your country, but if the parent is out of the child's life for a certain amount of time, then you can file to be a legal guardian. It will be necessary especially if the child needs medical help. If I were you, I wouldn't leave the child with your aunt if she's too old already. i get upset that my grandmother watches all of my cousins kids at her age. you can always ask the family for support in other ways like babysitting or even help with food and diapers. Babies just get more expensive as they get older. If you have a lot of family in the area it would help out a lot. But try to find out the legal maters of what you can do for your niece, there may be government help you could get like here we have programs that help you buy food and formula for your baby, but you'll have to be considered it's legal guardian. research that and sleep when the baby sleeps. That's the advice I got from my mom when I had my first child. It'll help with the restless nights.

I can only imagine what you are going through. I mean you need to live your own life, but at the same time you don't want to leave your niece. I can't believe that your sister would do that. I do hope she comes back for her child.

Leaving the baby with you was an unkind and immature thing for your sister to do. It is difficult to know what to advise you, as I could not determine in what country you live. In the U.S., you would be obligated to contact Social Services. They would try to track down your sister and the father of the baby, if known. If they decide that it is OK for you to keep the baby, they would determine if you would be eligible for food stamps (Not called that anymore, I believe), Medicaid, and other assistance. The father may be ordered to pay child support. A downside to that is that he may request custody, to which he might be entitled since your sister abandoned the child.

Do you still have parents? I think it would be best to let them take part in taking care of the baby. Also, the father of the baby should also responsible. You can also enjoy it by getting your boyfriend involved, and not leaving him out of it.

So for me since you have work get a helper in you so that you can easily go to work and burden some in you.