"Happy happy, joy joy is this really natural?"

You made me laugh, reminding me of Ren & Stimpy and the Happy Happy Joy Joy song! Stimpy made a happy helmet for Ren, who was always grumpy, and it forced him to act happy. What a hilarious episode! I haven't been around anyone who is always happy. In fact, most of the people I have ever worked with have been pessimistic and serious. I think it would drive me nuts, though, if someone was always happy and I would think that it must be an act at least part of the time.

LOL--You know I was sitting here thinking about this as I read it, and it occurred to me that I've never really known anyone who is sugary sweet and happy all the time, in fact with me, I tend to me the grumpies, the gloom and doom type of people who even if you try to cheer them up, they always have something negative to say back. The only person I can think of that was sugary and sweet all the time was that TV character on the Mary Tyler Moore Show, Sue Ann Nivens played by Betty White oh, and if I did meet a person like that in real life I'd probably want to punch her face in

Yeah, I get a feeling when I think somebody is being phony. On the other hand, nothing wrong with having a happy demeanor, kind of like Tigger. I'd like to be more like Tigger. :D

Oh for sure. it seems lately thats all son gets for girlfriends. these last 2 have just been to much to take like that. they seem to be that way just to annoy me when they are here with us. or maybe son just makes them that happy and they think i should be that way to around him? the thing is, i made him....lol.. so ive been around him his whole life. i cant just be happy happy joy joy, myself all the time. now that they are away from him all they do is call sad,sad, and miserable and crying. etc. so shouldnt they see that life not constant happy and joy? even this last one since she left has gotten something like lime disease back there and i told son, now she sees what my life is like with aches and pains every day. so, shes not happy happy joy joy all day now!

In that situation you described only robot can be happy. Because that robot would have programmed to be happy. If such program that can make any people happy in any situation would have sell in very high price. Because in this modern are all the commodity are available but no where we can find peace of mind, happiness and pleasure.

I think being happy is something which is natural. I have met lot of people who are artificial and possess a habit of fake smile.I appreciate that too. Because its really very difficult to be happy now a days. Its so hectic for everyone that happiness seems to have faded away.

Some people do not like to ever let down their mask. They feel it is inappropriate. I find myself wondering what they are hiding, though, if I never see any negative emotions. I am sure there is a happy medium, but I tend toward the grumpy rather than the sappy. I am sure I need to find a happy medium as well. Having all one emotion is boring, both for the people around you and for yourself, because you are not really letting yourself be truthful.

I've never known anyone that sugary sweet or that phoney Hatley dear. The closest thing I can think of and it's what I immediately thought of when I read your discussion was when someone answers the phoney in a fake superior tone then relaxes and speaks in their normal voice whn it turns out to be a friend of theirs. I wonder if that's where the word "Phony" comes from...that is, when people talk in their phone voice...

I do know of and know some people like this. I think in certain situations that you can be different in different places. For instance at work when you wish to have a good day and everything to go as right as it can. Be nice, smile, make the best of it. Later on in a different circumstance, you be the other part of you. People can have two personalities or more. It just depends on what is going on and what situation is at hand. I would consider it a good ting if a person that normally cusses up a storm, or like a sailor did not do this around me or other. Some of us don't speak like this and do not wish to be bombarded by it with lots of cussing in every breath. It's showing proper manners to be different from that in a different circustance. But then you do have people that put on airs. They act like they are a different person and want to make people think they are this and not that. This I consider is a person not being true. I don't like fake people.

happiness on face and happiness at heart are 2 different things...some people pretend to show their smiling smiling face whole day and that really feels mechanical...i don't like such people...instead one dry smile from the painful heart gives u more meaningful happiness...i don't know whether i am able to write what i want to...but i hope u understood

Hi there Hatley, There are some people that are more smiley and perky than others for sure. I had an Aunt whom was so very smiley and friendly that I thought, "this lady can't be for real." She was though. When we were teens a friend and me went on a mission to see if we could possibly anger her. This Aunt lived with us and shared a room with me and I swear I'd never seen her angry...ever! Oh well, mission accomplished. I would never in my life want to see her angry ever again! I think that you can tell the difference between a genuinely happy person and one that is being phony. I have people in my life that have never seen me angry and I work on keeping a positive attitude but no one is smiley happy and bubbly all the time. It is just not normal.

To me these types of people are fakey and need to be slapped out of it. It comes down to money. She probably gets big bucks for smiling pretty and not asking any questions. I have met people like this and some are just blonde ditz for the most part and brainless. Robot is a very good way of describing them.

I had Mrs.Hatley.. i can say that what you had description about me. I try to be happy to eliminated the sour in my life. and i hope by that smile, i can take everyone in joy.

HI, I still am laughing. You wrote this one really good !! I know the kind you are talking about and I cringe if I happen upon one.. That superficial crap is God awful irritating to me. I want to slap that false smile right off their faces! I don't tho.........I try to be kind to each and every person I come across but I do have to hold my tongue a lot of times !!!

I am one of those people who try to be upbeat and happy around others. I try to stay positive, and joyful. I don't come across as being fake with it. People comment to me that I always seem happy. Well to tell you the truth. I'm not always feeling happy. but if I am frowning and down and out, that will spoil my day, thats how the people around me will act. If you smile at someone chances are they will smile back. That smile you give to someone just might brighten an otherwise crappy day. I do have crappy days, thats when I get quiet. People around me know something is wrong. I have lots of crap going on in my life right now, I can't and won't let it poison me and my attitude about life. you get what you attract in life, I want positive forces not negative forces in my life. This statement pertains to my private personal life, also my business life. I sort of figure you might be talking about a worker that works where you live. They should be nice and sweet to all the residents. if they are putting on an act, when they are done acting they should make sure others don't hear them act normal. I do my best to be a lady at all times, but get me mad, all bets are off. Hehe

I used to work with a girl that had this perky little cheerleader voice ALL THE TIME!! She would always come in to the office every morning and sing "Good Morning Everyone!! Hope everyone is having a super day". Oh gosh! Her voice was so incredibly annoying and she was happy all the time...and I do mean sappy sweet happy. Now I try to always be happy, and at least fake it during office hours, however, this lady would push Santa over the edge. One Monday morning, she walked into the office singing her usually good morning speech and when she passed by my office, I said, "I was having a super day until you came singing by". I didn't even realize I had said what I said out loud ...you know one of those "did I just say that" kind of moments. I felt so bad that I actually expressed my feelings out loud, however, it apparently didn't rain on her parade, and she continued to sing her little good morning speech everyday.

I don't know anybody like this, myself. I smile a lot but it's because it's a habit. It's not a habit that I'm ashamed of, though, and most people tell me they like my smile. I hope it's not phony. This saleslady you are talking about should have realized that she was there to help you and her smile should have been more natural. I hate to have to deal with a saleslady, bank teller, waittress, etc. that seems sour on the world. That's why I smile a lot because I feel like people prefer this to looking mean anytime.

Ren and Stimpy! LOL I'd say yes-there is a happy medium..an intelligent comeback to shut them up And yes, I've seen those types-the overly superficial smile where you wonder what they're thinking behind it!

Hi Hatley, I never seen a person that are always happy, I believe if someone is happy always, he/she most probably are a great actor/actress. LOL. I am a happy go lucky guy, but yet I do not think that myself can be happy all the time, I too will feel down when there is something that not smooth in my life. I used to feel sad when something went wrong and not as my wish. I have a friend who are always feel unhappy about many things, about the family, about the husband, about how others treat her, about how her mother in-law treat her, about how her husband spend his money and about too many things that you can think of. I wonder how to go through the life like her if everyday feel unhappy.

Hi Hatley, Your description of a sappy sweet person was really funny, I imagine someone acting like a clown around me the whole day, mouth in a wide grin. I don't think I have met anyone like that. I realize that the older people gets, the more grouchy they become. Young friends that I have are the ones who can really laugh heartily and always in high spirits though their mood also changes quite fast. People I meet at work usually go around with a sad expression on their faces.