your bf/gf in a big arguement call you jerk/b*tch. do you forgive? O_O

I would, because sometimes we all say things we don't mean in arguments. My husband and I have very civil arguments, when we argue at all, and I can't remember the last time any comment like that slipped out, so there was no need to forgive. Of course, I don't think calling someone a jerk is all that bad, and my husband and I often call each other those words you mentioned in a joking, sarcastic way, when we are not arguing. Like "You forgot to take the garbage out? You jerk, now I have to do it" (but sarcastic and with a smile on my face because I don't really mind.

i think it will make me think... it is hard to decide over one argument but it will make you think of letting go of the relationship. I'd say that yoou will know a person by his actions or by what he says if he is angry... that is what his true personality is... so if he said such hurtful words to you when he is angry and has no control... that could mean like 80% of the time he thinks, or she thinks you are what he / she said to you.

i would forgive. people get mad and say things they don't necessarily mean. things could be worse.

he just blunt it out probably! he just say it because he is mad.. but me i think when i get mad i have said all the inappropriate words! hahaha im soo bad but he didnt leave me! but if he says it out of nowhere i'll be asking why? and i know it'll start a fight!

hello sweetloveforeve! i will forgive the guy. you see, when we are angry, we say things we don't really mean and if we take that against the person, then we will be on the losing end. However, if he will always say these things to me everytime we have an argument, then that's another matter. I will not forgive him should he make it a point to call me such things whenever we argue. respect is essential to every relationship and that encompass the kind of things we say to our partners even when we are angry. for my part, i will not call anyone names even if i am angry, if i don't really mean it. it's kind of plastic when we mask what we say with the anger we feel and attributed it to such when deep inside us, we really think that a person is a jerk.

I never forgive. when we love honestly, don't hurt each other. always share each other the feelings, talk and find out the way to solve. You must know how to dominate your furious emontions, never hurt your sweetheart. It will be the rank between you

It's depends on what kind of relationship environment you usually at. If you usually got a gentle relationship and suddenly change with rude words, that sudden change could indicate something not right with your relationship. For me, I never say a word like that to my girl....from the first date until now we got married and have a kid we try to avoid that kind of rude thing, it's not good for future condition if we accustomed to do that.

It's already a no big deal in our relationship if we call each other names or those not so good names..sometimes after the fight we just laugh on what we just called the other and make it as a joke. So i can say that i can forgive my bf if he calls me b**ch or any other names he wants to call me. He rarely does anyway so i don't have to worry about it. I won't even get hurt for i know we don't really mean what we say when we are angry.

hi,i would like to say anyone that when in a relationship "any relation" there is no understanding for each other then it is the best thing to do is get out off that relation.When there is no peace of mind and love for each other its better to be with the enemy than such person.Forgiveness all these arre only adjustments the thing which hurt will never go way from the heart .Its better we understand some one and then go in to any relation .

thanks God i havent experienced this. hmmmmm...i cant imagine being on that situation but if ever that happens and the guy really means what he says i might not forgive him.

no way!! If I am in a bad bad mood and we had an argument, I would rather not talk than say things I do not mean and regret after. If he did that to me, man! then he is FINISHED! What has been said cannot be reversed anymore and you cannot unsay it or take it back. When you are mad, stay away from the person for a while and talk when you are already calm and composed. Never say anything to another when you are mad.. for sure you will be saying things you do not mean at all.

hmhmmh if taht case ,, i will not forgive him,.., and i think ,, he show me the real ,, of what he is.,.

I will forgive him. Most of the times when we are angry and didn't have the knowledge of the whole story, we oftentimes utter words that we regret at the end. But I would also tell him that it should not be happening. Calling a person different names is not good.

well I would I mean thats bad but still its nothing to end a relashonship over!

There was a time when I was questioning my bf about stuff and got irritated, I heard him say "B===Sh=t!! But, I know he did not refer it to me rather because of the questions I asked him. I did forgive him and said sorry. Although, at the back of my head, my questions were not offensive. He was just irritated because he is guilty of it. Well, I love him, so I am the one humbling myself for him.

In an argument, we all say words that we don't mean to say. I would have to take those words in the heat of the moment. it may take a while and some humility, but i would forgive the words to be spoken.

my man used to call me devil everytime he will get angry and speak his own language that I dont understand...lol well me keeping quite makes him more angry the more talk more mistakes(but sometimes there are times that u just have to say it all and let go:) well when everything is fine I always told him that I hope that he will not us that words again...and then he will say sorry...

there are things that we say when we're angry and then we regret it. if I saw that he was really sorry and that he regrets what he said may be I would forgieve him. but if this thing reapeats...than bye bye baby

I have been forgiven by my gf... so i wil do the same with her :P