Children not sleeping again i could scream i am soo tired
By jugsjugs
@jugsjugs (12967)
October 26, 2010 5:27pm CST
All day every day of the last month,if not more my youngest son has been a real handful,not only to me at night by not wanting to go to sleep,but also at school.He is 7 years old and he has energy than a class room full of children put together.In the last ten days of school he was sent home for three days and that is with out all the other days that he was doing work out of the class room or should i say supposed to be doing school work,as the words were he is unteachable.Well its school holidays now,hes on the go all day aswell as nearly all night.Role on ADHD appointment in November,lets hope they can help.
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@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
28 Oct 10
Trouble is brewing for u over there, when it comes to holidays! He's going to be at home for the whole day, and u won't have any peace. Given your condition, u can't bring him outdoors too, and it's time to get some help from neighbours or your friends. Maybe it's a great chance to organise some kind of meeting up with your friends, bring your son out of the house, let him explore with his endless energy, while everybody is keeping a lookout for him and u get to pass time too.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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27 Oct 10
The ADHD nurse aswell as the dr told me what site to go on and when the gave me all the info i did go on the site.I know that the pills that he is on are not working,so i hope it is just the case of upping his med a small amount and that will help him abit.I am counting the days down until his appointment.
@hofferp (4734)
• United States
27 Oct 10
Different pills, activities, etc. could be the answer as well. It's best to start with a professional opinion and then go from there. Yeah, come on November... I just thought about this... When you were on the ADHD internet site, were there any support groups available? Other parents who have children with ADHD? Maybe other parents who are struggling with the same problem could be a source of help?
@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
15 Nov 10
I hope you can get some help both for you and your son. Children need a good structure and rules. I have a grandson who is borderline autistic. He can be a handful. Kids are hard enough to deal with. I just quit babysitting a 4 year old girl whose mother did not believe in spanking so the kid felt that she could do whatever she wanted to the disruption of the whole house. good luck.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
30 Oct 10
hehe ^_^ When u have got a ADHD kid, that's what is expected of him. With that, he has boundless energy, whether it's day or night, and he never seems to get tired at all.. haha =D YEt at the same time, u cant force him to sleep or rest because he will be irritated. Thus, the only way to control him is via medication, or tempting him with his favourite stuffs.. haha
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
27 Oct 10
I understand where you are coming from. I have three kids all diagnosed as having ADHD, ages 8, 9 and 13. For me, it was hard to finally take that step and go to the doctor about medicine for them. I tried everything I could think of first. When I did finally take them to the doctor, it took a while to get them on the right medication and to get the medication adjusted to just the right level for them. I don't know what your son is currently taking, but I know that I have one that takes Focalin and two that are taking Adderal. It seems to help them wonderfully for a while, then we have to have another adjusstment made because it seems as if it is not doing anything for them at all. The one child taking Focalin sleeps much better than the other two, but even he has his nights. Just recently, my 9 year old had to have his adjusted so he takes it twice a day, and my 8 year old had to have hers increased. Every time we have an adjustment in medicine, we have to go through about a week of restlessness at bedtime.
One thing that I have found to really help them sleep better is to keep them active after school until it is time for dinner and time to wind down for the night. My oldest likes sports, so, to help him, he plays in sports after school. Myy 9 year old likes them too, but he doesn't have as many options as his older brother does right now, and my daughter, who is 8 could care less about sports. For them, we deliver papers. This gives them a chance to not only run out some of their energy, but also to have responsibility. After papers, we do homework, and then they get to play until dinner time.
I think that not only the activity, but also the routine, helps them alot. They know what to expect next in their day.
I think that your child's teacher should look into a different profession. NO child is unteachable, some just require more patience and explaination than others. In my children's elementary school, they have a device that is used to help those kids, like my 9 year old, who have trouble sitting still. It is called a wiggle seat. It is a seat cushion full of air that allows the child to sit down, yet fidget and move at the same time. This helped my son to be able to concentrate a little more.
Another trick I have used is to really limit the amount of sugar that my kids get each day. At the same time, I have found that because caffeine is a stimulant, and my boys love drinking a small cup of coffee, that allowing them to have one smal cup of coffee in the morning actually helps them to feel calmer. There are even times in the evening that I will have a pot of coffee and they will ask for a small cup. It seems like once they drink it, they are ready to relax.
I think that behaviorally, my daughter has had the most difficulty. Part of it is just her age, being 8, part of it is seeking more attention from me, and part of it is her mind always going 100 miles a minute. The medicine has helped, and so has counselling and a lot of time management on my part.
Your son may also be simply trying to gain extra attention as well and if he has been sent home from school as a result of his behavior, he has learned that if he wants to go home, all he has to do is act up in class.
As far as you go, hold your head up and be patient. This too will pass. You are on the right track here, just keep moving forward.
Just wondering, have you ever tried getting hime to lie on the couch with you at night to watch a movie in the dark? This might help him to relax and fall asleep.
@celticeagle (166912)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Oct 10
Your son sounds like my grandson. He was diagnosed with a mood disorder about three years ago. He is supposed to take two meds in the morning and different at night. His mom couldn't get him to take the morning ones so he was a real terror at school and at home with unappropriate behavior and a nasty mouth. I just happened to ask her if he was taking his meds and got the low down. Now he is and is doing fine. The night ones are one to help him sleep with is also a anit-depressant and a natural one called melatonin. You might bring that one up to the doctor in Novemeber. It is natural and really helps you to sleep. Kids are fun.
@bestboy19 (5478)
• United States
27 Oct 10
Why not have him do chores around the house, if he has that much energy; and then take him to a park so he can run until he drops.
@marguicha (222999)
• Chile
27 Oct 10
I worry about you. Not only you have your own health problems, but your children cause you problems too.
When I was young, children were raised in another way. I will not say which is better, but I never gave pills to any of my chidren but both had a spank or two on their butt. They had to be in bed at 8 PM sharp, lights out. They had permission to talk softtly for 10 more minutes. Usually, by that time they were asleep. They woke up in the morning, at a good time to go to school. I bathed them at night as that soothed them.
I always said that I loved my girls until 8 PM. At 8:01 PM I started hating them. I don´t feel like I was a bad mother and I have good relations with my daughters and granchildren. But I´m not only a mother ot a grandmother. Before that, I´m a human being with my own needs. Never forget that. People have rights and duties. That goes for parents and children.
@pinkberryzz (189)
• Philippines
27 Oct 10
Oh I know this is hard for you. I hope you will always have the energy to guide your son always. It's not easy. I've ready somewhere that you should be firm or kinda strict in handling children with adhd. That way soon you can attain consistency and discipline. Take care.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
27 Oct 10
Maybe he just playful, and you should have patient with him. He should be rest if he is feeling tired after all. Don't worry too much, children are all like that. give them some time.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
27 Oct 10
Sounds like you are getting enough rest these days, yes I too hope the appointment were sooner so you can get some rest. In the meantime can you try and take a couple hours of nap during the day. Perhaps you have other younger ones as well. Maybe ask your hubby to help out a bit more as when hubby gets home maybe a couple hours even one day a week would do you some good. Good luck.
@zaugis (81)
• Lithuania
27 Oct 10
Hi,
Super active, a common phenomenon today. It comes with a stream of information coming to each, are just going to come into this world.
Parenting belts, as you advise, will develop, will form one of the feature fails to respond before the difficulties encountered. A child's future life met a lot of hardship. Is able to deal with it?
Employment and more information about the real-life and not off-line. Makes us the opportunity to know the surrounding environment through real work. Drawing, reading, lipdima clay, metal forge, garden planting, etc. There will also be a tendency to a child in any direction. In addition, during the hero teaches us how to achieve a good result. Work to the end, do not leave it unfinished.
Only the knowledge of your yard is not enough.
Said the hero in literature, history and ethnographic traditions to know everyone.
If you work in a form the child's thinking and attitudes. As a child and we all have to be a creator. Users - We are always users.
You have to educate and help.
Success and blessings to your family.
Eugenijus