Oh No He Didn't!!!!

You should teach parenting classes.

oh Lord hun. I just do what I think is right and fair and I thought they have people with training do those classes.

Thank your for your insight. And trust me those people that teach parenting classes don't know what's up. I've been through parenting classes. And I about choked at the hilarity of it all. I think you are right on. There are only a few occasions I've EVER tolerated my oldest daughter to be disrespectful and it was only if I felt that her actions were preceded with with someone else being more disrespectful to her. I think we should all reserve the right to defend ourselves if need be. I wasn't raised with that little out and my younger siblings weren't taught any respect. I have spent years trapped by their childish games and disrespecting control. But even with an understood out. A simple 'I'm sorry' should always come out. Like I say... you don't have to mean it, but you do have to say it like you mean it.

I'll tell you what, my daughter would have been doing some apologizing also but I don't think she would ever ever do talk to someone that I have in our home like that to begin with. I have dated men that she did not particularly care for and she will tell me how she feels in private but she has never once treated them with disrespect. 11 yrs old...dad should be all over this because it will only get worse if he doesn't straighten him out now.

His son is 11... and my boyfriend said he did talk to him. I was hoping for an apology though. I would have made my daughter do so. And she wouldn't even dare say something like that to someone who has only been kind to her.

I do agree with what you say if his son were younger and if there really were a lot of girlfriends before me. And if he were being too intimate in front of his son. My boyfriend and I have been together for awhile now and we did wait for me to be involved in his son's life at all. We are very serious about each other. But, I do agree with your idea of putting myself in his son's shoes. It has helped me see that it's not about me that he got ticked at. It's not even about his dad loving me. He just doesn't have boundries and when he gets mad he takes it out on whoever he wants to take it out on. Me included.

I agree that his dad has let him get out of control. But also his grandma has. Everytime my boyfriend does step up and give him the punishment deserved the grandma trumps him and makes him take it back. He listens to her because he is so obsessed with older people are always right. But, he needs to learn that respect and doing everything they tell you to are two very different things.

Yes, this child has been grounded a lot lately. He has taken to hitting me. And it's not like he is hitting me to hurt me... it's more like he is hitting me to get my attention, but then my boyfriend catches him doing it and grounds him. I asked my boyfriend why his son is doing this and he that he honestly thinks his son has a crush on me... I hope that my boyfriend sets him straight real soon on just who I'm dating, I don't think I can't take very much more of this.

I know he got talked to. But he didn't get any real talking to for it. He got grounded the time he decided to wipe his snotty nose on me. But, this seemed worse to me. The child has gotten away with a lot because his dad and grandmother feel sorry for him that his mom ran out on him when he was four. But, if he is acting like this at 11 I can already tell you what it's going to be like when he is a teenager.

Exactly!

He is 11. Mike and I have been together for a year now. And honestly his son has always acted like he liked me... but that he just doesn't know how to respect adults in his like. He openly tells his Grandma to 'shut up' and he cusses out his dad a lot. He gets grounded a lot, but he just goes back to the same behavior when he is done being grounded. At the time I didn't say anything. I laughed a little (you know the laugh I'm talking about I'm sure.) He dad played it off that he likes nicknames and everyone has nicknames at first. But when we left the room I told Mike that it hurt my feelings and he said he would take care of it. Like I said, his son makes a lot of comments that make me think he really likes me. Like he will say that he wants me to be his mom or that we look like a family together. When he first met my daughter he started talking about sharing his video games with her and he does not share his video games easily. Then there are the times where he lashes out and says hurtful stuff to me... but he also does that to everyone around him. His Aunt and his older cousin have kind of backed away from taking him to spend the night anymore and it probably has a lot to do with that.

Yes is was rude. He is 11. And he does know better, but he isn't taught better. He treats everyone in his family badly and he gets away with all of it unless he gets physical and then they ground him. He likes me... he likes his family... he just is a bad case of being on his way to being out of control

He did talk to his son about it later. But, I'm with my boyfriend and not his son. And his son is getting older and it won't be long until he will be an adult. (If not in attitude. At least in age. Lol) But my boyfriend is a very respectful man to me. He just is too leniant with his son because he feels sorry for him.