What do you do when a friend wants to be more than friends?

if you love your friend also you should be with him^^ if not you can be honest and say sorry i love you as friend only. and continue his friend^^ but if you love him you should risk^^ some people are afraid that their friendships end bcs of love but that wont happen. if he really loves you and you dont love him back he wont stop being your friend bcs of that. is like people say i rather have her as a friend that dont have her at all^^ so he will be near you happens what happens. so if love him back be with him

If you don't want the dynamics of that relationship to change then you have to be honest and say that you woould prefer things to stay the way they are. I have know a few people who have turned friendships into romantic affairs and they have succeeded, but some do not. I just think it is a caase of being honest with your friend if they suggest that they want to take things further and also give them the reasons why you wouldn't think it would be a good idea.

I really don't have this issue. Awhile back I had a female friend who was starting to get on my nervous because she kept writing about wanting to be with me, despite the fact that she knew I was dating my wife. (at that point she was girl friend) although my friend got very jealous and that ruined our friendship. I didn't have contact with after that, as she turned very bitter. Since then I haven't had any problems with this type of behaviour and I think if the person isn't willing to listen it's best cutting the friendship.

To me I think it can be the start of something wonderful. If you love that person enough to be friends with them imagine how much more love you can share with them as their lover. To me a relationship started on friendship is beautiful. I wish I was being loved right now instead of the one being hung up on someone.

Sometimes years I had a male friend, we had been friends for a while and to me he was just a friend, and I thought that he saw me the same way. One night we were at a party together and one of his friends told me that my friend was in love with me. Later that night most of the other people had left and a couple of us were talking in the livingroom. My friend wasn't there and during the conversation someone asked me if I was in love with my friend, and I answered that I only saw him as a friend. I didn't know that my friend was in the room next to the livingroom and that he had heard the conversation. Afterwards I was angry at myself, I didn't want him to find out that way, and I wished that I had talked to him first. Fortuneately we got the chance to talk about it later and we remained friends.

If I want to cross the friendship line as well, that would be a blessing. Otherwise, I would make it clear that the relationship we have at the moment is special as it is, and I don't want to spoil it by entering into a romantic one, which would require a different level of commitment, trust, and dedication. If we are really friends, he would understand my point of view, hopefully.

This can be very tough and it can be very wonderful. A good basis for a romantic type relationship is a good friendship. So, if I felt the attraction too then I would go for it. But, on the other hand, if I didn't i would be very tactful in telling my friend that I don't have those feelings. Hopefully it won't ruin a good friendship.

i have had friends who are like that. well,basically,they do like me because of my physical appearance. i just don't like guys who are just after the looks. i still prefer to know guys and be in a relationship that i know,my well being is their true intention. it's all up to you how you handle the situation. for me,i still tell them that i want us to be friends only. time will tell if i may develop my feelings for them or not. it's much better to start making friends and know them more rather than getting ahead and rushing things...i don't like that!

Base on my experience I had a friend turns to be my lover but the worst thing is he had already a girl friend before we become a best friend. We were so in love with each other that we need to deny to his girl friend about our affair. I felt guilty that I don't want my boy friend cheated on me.

It depends on how you feel about the friendship you already have. If you want to stay friends I think its important to tell your friend that you just want to keep things the way they are. On the other hand, if you want to explore a romantic relationship then you should take it slowly, because you wouldn't want to lose a good friend. Good luck on your decision. :)

well i must say that it is depend upon the feelings of both of you... because if you do love your friend like what he/she feels for you i think that's the only time you can decide for it,...cuz we all know that sumtymz love begin in a deep friendship. we don't know when,how,where or to whom we will going to feel that special feeling it only comes in time...will sumtymz it comes not really in a right time, but we don't have nothing else to do than to accept it.

This is hard as it would depend on how both of you feel. If the 2 of you wanted more then thats great, things could happen, the only problem is what would happen to your friendship if the relationship failed? If just one of you wants more then i would hope that your friendsship is strong enogh to work through the fact that you will only ever be just friends. It is best to have friendship than nothing.

I think the best relationships are the ones where the thoughts and attitudes of the people are involved are clearly stated...in the case of friends becoming more than friends, i think that as long as both parties know exactly what is expected of each other there won't be any major problems...matters of the heart can become very complicated when there is a lack of honest communication...be completely honest about what you want from the friendship.

My former best friend fell for me. After I turned him down he resented me.. still does.. so if u have feelings for ur friend, keep them to urself otherwise u will lose the friendship.

Hi Sender, I would just be honest with that friend if I did not feel the same way. I would tell him that I very much valued our friendship and I am flattered that he wants more but unfortunately I only look at him as a friend. It might be awkward for a little bit but if you are really close, it should not hurt the friendship.

I think i will have to pass on this..ehehe. I think if ever my best friend would say he wanted us to be more than friends, i will have to say sorry but no. We are better off as friends because in friendship there is no hurt feelings when one has to go out with other companions, no jealousy and even after a fight we will still be friends. Unlike being lovers, after a fight there will be a tendency that the other will really get hurt that will lead to break up and broken friendship as well. I don't want to lose a friend, so even after i say no, i know that he will accept it like a man and we will still be friends after.

Oh, I think it's no problem. We make friend to know more people. I believe that you like to make friend with your friends' friend. Right?

If you really LOVE each other so go ahead. Everything starts differently. You never know if he/she is your destiny. Face the fact that if that relationship doesn't work your friendship will be broken or just bring back your friendship. Try it! Love is so amazing. You dont see them always, You can feel it only once.

It is depend on your feeling about she/he fully. It is really things that friendships are valuable relationships,but,friendships become loving is more well things,if you love she/he ,isn't it? There may be a choice or may be not,deciding on your attitude.I suggest you that talking with her/him,if you dont love she/he,just wanna retain something like before,and i think she/he will understand as your fridend. Take it easy ,not big deal... Finally,give you a tips that if you are a boy,getting along with a girl as friend, only two result of your relationships that lover each other or normal fridend,not best relationships of friendship between both .

If you have a good feeling,you maybe have a try.