Have you ever felt tired of being with your partner?

I think it is very common feeling any one would get when we as a couple stay together every time so long. This is basically because of monotony and boredom. Some times when we are agitated with work load or tensions by the work at office or business the normal talks of our spouse sounds like disturbance and we get irritated and this sparks the hostile situation between the couple. Now at this age of 50, having experienced so many ups and downs of life, I realised one thing that how so irritating your spouse may be, I bet it is very hard for one to spend life without him/her, One may feel happy for a day or two but eventually we realise that we are not comfortable and there is a big vacuum in our life. Our Spouse is a life time companion and he/she knows each and every thing about us. The spouse is your best friend and she shares your happiness and sorrows along with all the ups and downs of the life with you. So like in friendship there can be temporary break ups or misunderstandings and these things in my opinion makes the bond more stronger and stronger. Thus in nut shell what I want to say is you and your spouse are two different individuals with different thoughts and identities and having known this fact you have accepted your spouse as your life partner. Now having to stay together there will be many occasions where you tend to have difference of opinion. I feel at such instance it is the interest of the family one has to behave wisely and maturely to tackle the situation and if needed some fresh changes in the form of going on vacation or going to some loving places or having some time together which is liked by your spouse should take care of the situation! Thanks for the thought provoking topic of discussion, indeed it was a good one !

Hi! I don't know if tired is the right term. I used to complain to my partner for being obsessed with me and asked for a space for me to enjoy my time and do things that i always wanted to do like watching television because most of my time spent in telephone talking with her and i missed those simple things that i usually do. But now i missed those old times that she used to spend more time with me. Everything was totally changed after i asked her. If i were you just enjoy the quality time and attention your partner giving you even though you feel exhausted and suffocated. It's part of the relationship.

I left him. I was with the same guy for 12 years. We lived together for 11 years of that. But for me it was more than just being sick of him or tired of him. Sure I felt those as well, but I felt even more. He was totally controlling and wouldn't let me have a life away from him. He even moved me, had me convinced it was my idea, to another province to get me away from everyone I knew so he could have me to himself. He never abused me physically, never hit me or hurt me in anyway physically, but mentally he hurt me almost every day, after the first couple years together. When you are with the right person you won't feel those things like you talk about. When you are with the love of your life those things you do together are special moments and you never get sick of them but instead you treasure those moments. You wouldn't feel trapped with them even when you are fighting because you would love them so much you just wouldn't feel that way. If you are with someone and are feeling these things then you need to talk to your partner about it and maybe get some professional help to fix it. It doesn't have to mean the end of things if you feel this way, it just means that you need to change something and fix it. Good luck my friend, let me know how it worked out for you as this discussion is a year old, and I am wondering if you are still with the same partner since you posted this and if so if you worked it out and are feeling better about your situation. Cheers and Happy mylotting my friend Chris

It's different with my situation, i am tired being 'away' with my bf. We are not yet living together so i won't really be tired of that. It's just that we are always away. And i really feel so tired with this kind of relationship. I have read from a book, i forgot which book or even the one who wrote it but it really stuck me. "It is better to wish that you were together when apart than live together and wish that you were apart" It is true somehow and i know that my situation is much better than yours.

I've felt that situation before. So do you need some space at the moment? Well, you need a break for that one. Not the typical "break". You just need to talk to your spouse and explain your thoughts. Simply is that.

Yup, I been through with this stage. I even posted a discussion to enlighten my mind and to hear any other ideas and advices. Many respond that it is normal for a relationship to go through. Is your partner a husband or still a bf? But believe me you will get used to of the feeling of him being around. When time, when he stop doing those things I 'm sure you will surely miss and look for that. All I can say is treasure you're moments with him together. Never get tired of the feeling him being around you for the time. Good luck. Gobless

i ever felt the same as you, but if that happened i just thought if i am olf i fell only my partner who will accompany the rest of my life until i left this world.

No , but then again I am not with my guy 24/7! We both give each other space. That way when we get together , we have missed each other and we cherish the time together.

When we find that special someone, we want to be together. we do need to learn to give each other space as well as togetherness. When we find the balnace, it can only make our relationships better. I would never say i was tired of a partner.

Yes, I think everybody gets tired or maybe just needs space away from their mates once in a while. I am with my husband day in and day out, so little things like going out to the store by myself or being on the computer working alone makes all the difference. I love my husband and I do enjoy being with him, but there are times I need to spend away from him in order to have my own sanity and to just have time for me. Its healthy in any relationship to have time to be your own person and not allow your partner to define who you are.

luckily even when in relationships i have made sure that i have some "me time", a time with the lads to have a night out, or to play on the console, etc. That way im not always with my partner and so we don't invade each other so much, it also gives her time to be with her friends, this is healthy for a good relationship.

i used to all the time when i was with my ex and the best thing i did was leave him

I had marriged with my wife for 3 years , sometimes we will quarrel , but it will be well soon

Hi, Being together does not mean losing freedom.Being together also If You like to sleep alone you should be able to do it.That is the kind of freedom that should exist between you and your partner.Anyway you will go for work for at least 10 hours.Then what is the big deal like,If you both keep seeing each other 24 hours you will be tired. Have fun

i can honestly say that i have felt tired of my relationship.. i feel we are going nowhere.. i feel we are leading to no where and we are just wasting time being together.. we're bound for failure... =( he won't accept my breaking up with him but he does not make an effort anymore.. i just do not know what to do anymore... =( this makes me sad lately... i feel my relationship is not healthy anymore.