Others grew up not knowing who their father/mother is... / myLot

Philippines

November 6, 2010 9:11pm CST

Yesterday I was watching this show and in there, a celebrity shared his life about his mother living him in a neighbor's house and he never knew who his parents were. It is sad and he felt alone all his life.. not knowing who his birth parents are just always puzzled him and kept him wandering who and why they left him at the care of other people... he was saying that if they could just come forward and get to know him... I felt that though my life feels empty -- knowing who my father and mother is... i still feel lonely at times wondering why my life has turned around soo much that i am left to strive hard... but i feel more for those who have not met their parents.. who grew up without their love... it must have been really hard, sad, wondering what was your fault, wondering what the story behind all these... is really something that could break someone's heart isnt it? in your opinion... do you think knowing your birth parent could really help build one's confidence in life, help give closures, and give answers to life long questions or doubts to these people who were left behind? Is it important in all of us humans to know where we came from? or is it more important to just live life forwards?

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lingli_78

@lingli_78 (12822)

• Australia

8 Nov 10

definitely... i can't imagine myself growing up without knowing who my birth parents are... it will be too painful for me and i will feel so lonely... and it builds up my confidence as well knowing who my birth parents are because they are the one who continuously support me all these times through my hard times... take care and have a nice day...

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@bunnybon7 (50973)

• Holiday, Florida

7 Nov 10

of course its important to live toward the future. but its also important to know from where we came. which helps in showing us why we do certain things a certain way and how to overcome things we do wrong and strive to be better then the bad or wrong in our parents.

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maean_19

@maean_19 (4655)

• Philippines

7 Nov 10

I have a friend too with the same situation. She has thought that she has known everything when her "mom", not her biological mother told her about the story of who were her parents. To her dismay, there was another story and that the facts she knew are not the true facts. She actually never had the interest to know the truth because everything went as lies, then her aunt again make a new story that her true mother was a sister of her aunt. It was very complicated and confusing story. As for my opinion, assuming that I am in the shoes of an adopted and became successful. I would not perhaps intend to know who are my real parents are. Unless, my parents would want to know me, then I would of course take that opportunity to meet them. But it does not mean that I have to go back to them because my life was molded because of my adopted parents hardwork.

bingskee

@bingskee (5234)

• Philippines

7 Nov 10

i believe it is important to know where one came from, ie, to know who the parents are. but if i am in that situation, i'd rather not pursue seeking my birth parents especially if i am living nicely and filled with love with my foster parents or my guardians. i don't know but it will make me very afraid of what the encounter could bring. i also believe that it is not the child who has to pursue looking for the parents. the parents, even if they had decided to have their child adopted, must have that desire to know their child's status and welfare. i watched the movie Seabiscuit in HBO the other day. the rider was Red Pollard who was left by his parents to a horse racer. it must be truly painful to witness your parents sort of like sell you and live you alone with strangers. it was enough to make a child feel anger and be mad. their promise to Red that they will call each week did not happen. what could be more painful than that. it is better for a child to be away from parents that do not care... harsh words maybe but i believe it is better. some strangers are even better than the true parents. you had me thinking about this discussion. thank you.

Azaerus

@Azaerus (820)

• Philippines

7 Nov 10

Well, in my opinion I think that knowing who your birth parents are will help you clear out the unanswered questions you have in your mind. It will help a person have an inner peace in his/her heart and mind. Knowing who your birth parents are, sometimes affects what the child will become of when he/she will grow up. In most cases, abandoned children ends up being a rebel at their teenage years. However, in some cases, the abandoned child just accepts everything and would rather choose to live life without knowing his/her birth parents. Sometimes, not knowing who your birth parents are becomes ones inspiration to strive harder and work harder. Sometimes it also becomes the inspiration for one to do their best to mantain a happy family of their own. I think that the answer to your questions really depend on how one would face his life. It depends on if and how one would accept the facts wbout his/her life.

@nangisha (3496)

• Indonesia

7 Nov 10

Hi chiyosan!. I am not expert in this case because I grew with my mom and dad beside me. I think most case in child who doesn't know their parent because they been abandon its rejection feeling. Feel thats they not wanted and not loved. Because of thats they feel there is no place as their safe nest. Thats not always the case because I see many adopted kid live happily with their adopted parent.

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