why do guys lied if they are drinking with friends?

The real question is, why are you still with this loser?

We know our girls will be mad if we are out drinking rather than staying with the. They might say "Are you more happy being with your friends drinking rather than being with me?" The reason may be that he is just preventing any fights

Maybe that is the one thing he wants to keep for himself. Even in a relationship, we still have that certain level of independence and liberty. Maybe he doesn't want you to worry and think too much. As you said, you think of many negative things when he's with friends, so he is opting not to say it to you so you won't think of those things. Anyway, I really don't know the real story so I am just assuming what could have been the reason of your boyfriend.

well, most guys know their girlfriends don't like them drinkin' and get mad at them if they are drunk so they lie! its that simple! in my case, i don't lie or hide most of the times. also we hardly go to bars and so she knows i'm not hangin' out with those naughty girls! if at home, me and my friends hang out at one of our places so that's obviously not much of a problem to her (except maybe for the drinkin' though cause she too don't like me drinkin', lol!). and even if away from home (which happens most of the time), i seldom drink outside my place of residence like in bars, etc. so i guess i don't have much to hide from her about drinkin'. it's not that she likes me drinkin' but i just don't hide from her more than 90 percent of the times that i drink.

it sucks to be a good girl really bcuz u get paired with a bad guy. guys are very good liars but for me, my boyfriend will be havin a problem with me cuz i could drink alot and hangout with friends and lie to him bout it. there were times he would monitor me he keeps calling and texting but i wouldnt reply. women are also like that sometimes. there was even a time i was with another guy but he never know about it. hes with his business im on my own too. i dont like butting into his business but he interferes into mine. if he can cheat and lie, i can do the same too...

You didn't trust him in the first place that's why he lied to you more. When men feel pressured and when men are controlled in this way, they don't like it and the more they lie and cheat on you. But if you trust them so much, the guilt of making a mistake is there and he would never dare do that. Sometimes we also have to ask ourselves if we might be doing something wrong too.

Well... If you ask to me about lieing to my GF while drinking then it has never been happened as I use to say exactly how much I have druck and what's my plan ...as after my drink she also suffer some time when I ask her to meet me infront of her home in mid night after getting much booz... Thanks ...

hello,well iguess that is the problem is with your friend not with all guys,and may your friend was telling the truth but you dont believe him,about guys why lying about drinking and this story,may be to avoid discussion they feel useless with girl friend,a discussion creating problems

Hello, This is not related to gender. It is a very common psychological phenomenon. When a person gets resistance from his surroundings while doing something, he adapts himself to it. Now there are several different methods by which a person would do that. The same things happen for children too. When the children get discouragement without any reference to any logical foundations then the children starts lying. For example, if a child gets extreme punishment from his parents for scoring bad in his class test, then he will probably start lying about it someday. It is common nature of human beings to avoid stressful situations by keeping things secret. Now the more resistance you put to your boyfriend about this, the more inclined he will be to drinking. You can't change a person by going against him, right? You have to make him understand that you're actually at his side on this. Form a group with him, and help him to do the battle. Use the reinforcement strategy. Read http://www.bukisa.com/articles/358162_childs-psychology-how-reinforcement-helps Though this article is based on child's psychology, you will get a fair idea on how reinforcement works. Don't just discourage someone from doing it, help him instead to learn how not to do it. That's the strategy you have to adapt here dear. Thanks. God bless you.

well i'm just glad my girl let's me go out to drink with my friends cause she knows i'm just going to be with my bandmates and we'd most likely end up in a coffee bar than in a strip bar plus i don't drink as much as i used to if a guy lies.... expect more and i hope you'll never ever find out

Hi dear, If you are sure of the same, be cautious about him. He needs to drink and at the same time he want to be true to you and be a ‘good boy’ with you. Some people are like that. He might have a thinking that he would misunderstand and at the same time he don’t want to miss his friends and company. Such people want to be most time good with you and at last finally, when you deny, he will come with arguments once you prove it. It may further lead to worsen the situations. So, understand him, well and find how much he is true to you. Sometimes he may be true also. In such cases, you need a confirmation with this and if caught, tell him openly the fact how you want he to be. If he prefers his own way, think it over what to do. If you think a that an open discussion is required and mandatory, do it. Find his problems and in his good time, ask him how better he can be with you and what you can do for him to divert him from such nature. If still he wants to go for it, believe that it is his nature and he would like to do that and go for it. So you take a decision what to do next. Regards, Thank-s

Oh yes there are many like this and my ex-husband was a pro at it. He use to get off work at 2pm and not make it home many times until like 11pm with lame excuses that he had to help someone out. Eventually I could not take this along with a great many other things so eventually you will have to think what is best for you. I hope things will change for you as it has to be stressful so Good luck and I wish you well.

I think that most men have a complex about freedom. They want to know that they are free to go out with their pals an no woman can't stop them. But there is the problem with the drinking. They know that women usually hate this so they lie. The question is how often he does this. If it's from time to time - let him do it. Yuo may try to go with him to a bar. But if he is hanging with his friends all the time, then you may follow some of the advices of fellow myLotters here.

Why do we lie? thats because we don't want you to think crap about us. All that we want is you to trust us. Initially, you are not okay with boys drinking, which eventually turns out to be one of the reasons to lie, all we need is some space of our own. So don't go all NO NO NO NO NO when we tell you that we are about to drink. Sure, you can still check on us and ask us not to, but that should be later sometime and not that very moment. I hope you understand where I am coming from.. lol So give your boy a little space... All the best....

When guys are with their friends, it is a different world for them. It is one you are excluded from. /when they are drinking together, it is how they are bonding with each other. it doesn't mean he cares for you any less. They may lie to you about drinking with their friends so your feelings won't be hurt.