Can you sacrifice family affair for work?
By mayrah
@mayrah (1144)
United States
November 9, 2010 11:24pm CST
Your work is very important to you. Let's say you're a career man or woman. You did everything just to reach that top. And now you have reached it. You have a family that always need your time and presence in some special occasions. That's the only thing you can show them love. You never failed to give them gifts and money that they want, now the only thing they ask from you is your devoted time since you've been busy for work for a long time. What will you do if you are just starting to work in your new position as manager in a large corporation, (which is a dream come true for you because you have worked hard to get there),and a family affair which you're the one who planned will have a schedule conflict with your business appointment. How would you handle this? which would you prioritize, your family or your job? Why?
14 responses
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
10 Nov 10
I think my family is very important regardless how high my position in a company they will never replace the love of my family.
I will not sacrifice my family affair for work for sure :)
@TheAdvocate (2392)
• Philippines
11 Nov 10
Sorry, but I cannot fathom why I would schedule two important events at the same time. But supposing it happens, it depends on what the family affair is and the business appointment. As a good manager, you should be able to prioritize. Plus, my family understands how important my career is to me, and will not mind if I miss a few affairs if it is important. My family does not expect perfect attendance from me, and I don't think I have ever had a family event that could not be postponed or delayed. And if I had a career that did not understand that I am a human being with a life outside of work, then I don't think I want to stay there.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
11 Nov 10
no i will never do that... for me, God is number 1, family number 2 and work comes as number 3... that should be the order... so i will never sacrifice my family for work no matter how good the position and the pay of the job is... i love my family too much and they are irreplaceable with anything that this world can offer me... take care and have a nice day...
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
10 Nov 10
It depends on the situation, if you think that you have a meeting with clients you will only meet once and for all to discuss business, then attend to it and tell your family that it is just for once and special occasions such as birthdays happen always and you can always be with your family after your work.
Maybe you can attend to your families needs and at the same time be with them but they need to understand your kind of work. But for sure, never schedule an affair with family and work in the office at the same time because that is really unfair.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
10 Nov 10
I can always reschedule the family affair so i'll prioritize my work first when it comes to that. I know that family should come first. That's why i'd do that cuz of my family. If i lost that job then i wouldn't be able to support my family.
@crimiloilo123 (77)
• Philippines
10 Nov 10
Well its hard situation to be in.I think it depends on what kind of family affair is it.So far I did not sacrifice any affair of my family versus my work.Time management is my weapon.I f its a very important affair like a family reunion,and birthdays of any member of my family,I used to take a leave at times.Since then we are a family oriented family,my elders used to tell me some sort of words that made me feel and hit my conscience alive.
@sincere4frdship (2228)
• India
10 Nov 10
Well...
I know some person who has sacrificed their family, friends and their love for their careeer and job. They have been relocated without giving a thought about for the effect which has been on others due to that. Some of my friend don't visit their home at time of holiday also due to fear of loosing some bucks.
But I know myself that...I can't do anything like that and who ever is related with me matter for me and job also comes under that... I try to balance all things ...and I believe if some body will try to do then it is possible ..
Thanks...
@SangsTurks (1444)
• India
10 Nov 10
In that case it is very important for the fanily members to understand that you have worked hard to reach to the top and that now it (the job) needs your time to keep it in that position. It is the family who should support you in times like that and not the job!
@hanni711 (243)
• Philippines
10 Nov 10
For me, I cannot sacrifice work over my family. But if you said that this position is a dream come true. Maybe i need to consider about it since it's also for the benefit of my family. Material things cannot replace the love they needed. But in this kind of situation wherein the price of commodities are getting higher and tuition fees increase every year. Maybe, I have to talk to my family and explain to them that this opportunity comes once and it's for their benefits too. We can always set apart time for our family whenever there's an opportunity for a quality one. We just have to be balanced in setting priorities and aim to develop a healthy relationship with our loved ones.
@kuaixueshiqing (161)
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10 Nov 10
Both work and family affair are very important to us, but if when I encounter situation you said, I would preffer to family affairs, because if I lost my job, I could get a new one; but if I lost my family, I would be regretting it for the rest of my life.
@pankajgarg (797)
• India
10 Nov 10
well i care a lot about my work and i always dream of working for nation in future and if i got a job in the research center i will be obsessed by my work and hardly be available for family. i prioritize according to the need of time.
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
10 Nov 10
My basic answer to this situation is talk your family how importance this position and work, I believe they understand your situation (that's the next). Cover up in other time which you are idle (meaning time management). Also need you to have understand the feeling of your family which they love with you before. See to it not to give your family a situation to choice.. see you around..
@sheonline27 (69)
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10 Nov 10
That is a tough one since each of us has this dream of becoming successful someday, and if you already reached that dream because of your hard work, I'm sure you will do everything just to prove that you truly deserve the position and to simply impress your boss. But if I will be in this situation, I would definitely choose my family over my work. Most especially if that is such a special celebration like birthdays or any special gathering that my presence is really valued and appreciated by my family. This is only once in a year so I would definitely not miss that celebration, and to show them that they are my priority in life more than anything else.
