Nothing justifies cheating in a relationship
By raynejasper
@raynejasper (2322)
Philippines
November 12, 2010 11:48pm CST
..hi fellas.. In most relationships most especially married couples, when cheating is involved, one would try to reason out that it was because the other partner is always nagging, or always doing like this or like that. Usually, men tend to cheat more than women and the blame is put to the woman because according to the man, she does things that annoys him. But is that enough reason to cheat? I don't think so because issues between husbands and wives are supposed to communicated by them so that problems will not arise. We should understand that we have individual differences and when we love a person, we just don't love them because of their good characteristics. We have to love everything about them including their weaknesses. More often than not, instead of understanding the weaknesses, we take it against the person and make it as a reason in doing something bad. I do believe that whatever the reason is, nothing justifies cheating because in the first place, there is always a solution to each problem that couples should meet. we just don't realize it. This is why many marriages are ending up in annulment or divorce because we easily give up and we think that we can find a better partner. Then when we start having issues with our new partner, we also resort to having a divorce or annulment and so, life goes on like that. When we think we cannot withstand it anymore, we flee and look for another refuge. Maybe we can't accept this but its the reality.
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7 responses
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
13 Nov 10
When we truly love a person, there's no way we will cheat. No matter how unbearing he/she is, we ought to put up everything. That's because love requires us to accept their flaws as well. Love is about accepting everything about them, including their problems, friends and family. For people whom cheat, they will find lots of excuses to cover up, making it seem like the fault of victims. That's also why, if my bf were to cheat on me, i will forgive him, but the relationship is definitely over too.
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@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
13 Nov 10
..hmm.. yeah.. maybe other people deserve a second chance but not everybody because unless the person who committed the mistake humbly accepts it and try to make things better, then maybe, just maybe, they can be given another chance.. it will depend on how we feel and what they show us..
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@sundaesoda (42)
• Philippines
13 Nov 10
I also believe that if a person really loves his/her spouse then there's no need to cheat. I really dont understand why cheating is getting rampant to the extent that it is common. I also dont understand why they get married in the first place.
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@deriellevc73 (982)
• Philippines
13 Nov 10
hello raynejasper!
i could not agree with you more, nothing really justifies cheating in a relationship. i guess, many cheaters attribute their offense to one thing or another that their partner may have done or failed to do but it's just basically wiping off their conscience than actually than being able to rationalize their deed.
a cheating is simply what it is, a cheating, a betrayal.nobody could really goad someone to cheat if the cheater has no mind or heart for it. In other words, these cheaters will cheat, no matter what the circumstances with his/her partner is or what kind of partner he/she has. It simply runs in their system, its the way they think, they live.
i guess that this stem from the very innate nature of man, that of being insatiable, of always finding something else, never being able to be satisfied with what she/he have at the moment. Or it might simply be for the reason that the person has no sense of Cheating as a sin, as a misdeed. It has become the way of life for some, that doing it simply does not tickle their conscience and the exhiliration it offers is way too much tempting to bypass.
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@rarcntvrx (98)
• United States
13 Nov 10
I think we need to justify everything before we love some one. Also truly share everything to your choose person. If he/she understand you. I think never breakdown relationship and will enjoy they life. if not accept your choose person will not love him/her anymore. Because A real lover will understand your weakness and never cheat with you
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@vangie26 (445)
• Philippines
14 Nov 10
In every problem, most people, rather than look for a solution, they will look for an outlet to escape. That should not be the case especially for married couple. Cheating actually in a bigger issue is like having an affair with others. The so called "third party". It depends on the one cheated if she/he will accept the cheating with the reason given by the cheater. if that is the case, it is justified because the case is closed, they are still together. If not, some resort to divorce, in that case, probably the cheating is already much for the cheated party. then the relationship becomes irreconciliable. :-)
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
13 Nov 10
I also think that nothing can be justified in cheating in a relationship. Marriages are build with trust and I think people should show faithfulness in each other's relations. When we truly love someone we will never cheat the person and respect their feelings.
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