Struggling over the loss of someone you love. How do you survive?

Just hold on to it. You're meant to lose them. It's part of life. The test here is how you will handle it when it comes. Will you waste your life dwelling in the past or will you move on with your life?

My dad passed away nearly 3 years ago and i still find it very hard without him.My dad was very ill for a very long time and we were also told that he only had a few weeks to live.Even knowing that he was ill did not help when he passed away, however i think back to all the good times we had,as well as he is not suffering in pain any more.

I can relate with you pain my friend! For you to stand to lose both your parents within a short time, it requires a very strong heart to cope. Not many people can easily come out of this unscathed-but I want urge you to face this extraordinary situation with courage. Pray if you believe in your God-at times like this only prayer is the answer.

oh that's great you were there for your father and took care of him so well. you know some family members in certain families don't even bother to check in on their loved ones ,or its either all about themselves and not their parents. you got to remember you have been their for your parents and i know they really appreciate that. it can be a very sad experience when a loved one passes away. you got to remember though they would want you to move on and live your life.

It is a constant struggle to get over someone we love. i know this from personal expereience. Each day we miss those we love. yet we do have to go on. It will not bring them bck for us to give up. We honor and cherish their memory by how we continue to live. Take each day one at a time and remember them well. it is all that can be asked of you.

I am so sorry to hear about your father and now your mother'condition. I too lost my father. When I lost my father I went into a depression but I was able to overcome it. My brother helped me and I also helped myself. I tried to read inspirational books and the Bible to help me get through that difficult time and one of them is this. This is for you. (Lindsay Newman-Author) When things seem difficult,remember To solve each problem one at a time, to take each day as it comes. To stick to your goals, no matter what happens, and press on towards your dreams. To keep your attention focused on the future, as you consider the solutions at hand. To look for the bright side, even though it may be temporarily covered by a cloud. To smile often, even when a frown feels more natural. To think of those you love, and know that they love you,too. No matter how difficult it may seem, you have within you the power, the ability, and the knowledge to make things better.

I can't even imagine what you are going through. I'm going through some tough stuff with my own parents. My 51 year old mother has Ahlzeimer's, and two months ago my dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer. It has been overwhelming. Yet, I still have them here with me. I can only tell you I'm praying very hard for you.

So many of us understand the pain that you are going through. I for one lost my mother an few years ago, but just this week, because of the holidays, lumps of pain starting rising in my throat. We all would like to say that time will heal your wound, but it won't. Time will allow you to cope better. You will miss your father and all the things you loved about having him around, but over time you will be able to smile again. So sorry to hear about your mother as well. Please stay strong. God bless

So very sorry sweetie to hear of all your troubles. Your dad is resting and you need to keep his memory alive in your heart. Speak about him as much as you can as this will give you reason to chuckle and tear. But what it will do is thrive his memory and as time goes by it becomes easier for you. As for you mother, so sorry as well to hear about this, it sounds like there is nothing that will cure her of the illness, so please pray to God that she remain as comfortable as possible, so that she does not feel too much discomfort in her last days. Be there for your mother and show her how much you love her, and please pray to God for strength as she is going to need you the most, and that God give you more faith, hope and strength in your future days. I am truly sorry to hear of all this and although I myself have never had parents, cannot imagine the pain you must be undergoing. Take care of yourself please. Welcome to myLot as here you will soon make many fiends.

That is the most devastating event one has ever to face their lifetime and I pray that God will give you more strength and courage to face it. Though reasons behind it may seem unclear for now, rest assured that He will show you great wonders and miracles in the future. I admire you for being strong enough to share your story which is heart breaking. I may not be in the same shoe as you because my cousin is now an 8th year cervical cancer surivor, but the pain of losing someone somehow every one goes through is something we could all share and remember all the days of our life. God bless you!

I am saddened about your loss, larlarajkumari. I too have lost my sister years ago, at first, you will really be down and quite at loss on what to do with the experience, there is nothing wrong being sad though, you need to let go all of your emotions and in the long, you will be able to accept the reality and just be thankful for those happy moments that you have shared with your loved ones.

So sad to hear your story. I think you only need some more time in order to accept the reality that your father has already gone to a better and brighter place; a place where he can't feel the discomforts and pains of cancer anymore. And as for your mother, I'm praying that God will give you more strength to surpass this another ordeal in your life. I believe that the best thing you can do right now is to continue to pray for guidance and help. Be with your mother and spend the remaining days of her life showering her with your love and care.