Too young/too old or too dependent to move out of parents house?
By Azaerus
@Azaerus (820)
Philippines
November 16, 2010 12:28am CST
Here in my country, it is very common to see a whole family living in one house, starting with the parents, their children, their grandchildrens and so on and so forth. One would notice that in most cases, a son/daughter at the age of 30 is still living with their parents. Sometimes one would wonder why parents would allow these kind of things happen.
Poverty is the main reason for this, not all people in my country would be able to afford to rent or to buy their own house. They think, living in the same roof with their parents is more practical and would help them save more money. However because of this, chidren became more and more dependent to their parents until such time will come that they don't even realize they're old enough to move out and support themselves. Not only that, some even start their own family and still live with their parents. I think starting your own family while still depending on your parents is a big NO! No! 
In my opinion, a person should have plans on moving out as early as 20. I'm not saying that they should move out at the age of 20, I'm just saying that everything would be better if a person has a plan for his future. Isn't it better to think that in the future you will have your own home with your own family and to think that you did it all by yourself. One should never get scared to face his/her future.
In my opinion, a person should have plans on moving out as early as 20. I'm not saying that they should move out at the age of 20, I'm just saying that everything would be better if a person has a plan for his future. Isn't it better to think that in the future you will have your own home with your own family and to think that you did it all by yourself. One should never get scared to face his/her future.2 people like this
8 responses
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
16 Nov 10
Hi,
For me, It is best to stay with parents together as one family.
Unless I have got married and have my own family,then only I will
consider to move out and have my own space with my family.
But if my parents are providing me enough space for my family,then I may
consider to stay with them too and takecare of them.
But most of the youngster prefer to have own house after got married and
especially the daughter in law may not want to stay together with their in-law.
aCTUALLY, i also prefer to stay on my own rather than with my in-laws.
I can have more space and more privacy at my own house.
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@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
16 Nov 10
Ofcourse it is always better living with your parents, there's nothing more comfortable than living with them.
Talking about in-laws, may I ask you this, how come most girls doesn't get along well with their in-laws? My girlfriend gets along well with my parents and so do I. I just don't get why some people have difficulties in having a great relationship with their in-laws.
Talking about in-laws, may I ask you this, how come most girls doesn't get along well with their in-laws? My girlfriend gets along well with my parents and so do I. I just don't get why some people have difficulties in having a great relationship with their in-laws.1 person likes this
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
17 Nov 10
in my culture, the children won't move out of the parents' house until the child is married... that is the only time then the child will have to move out and set up his/her own family... that goes the same for me... regardless of my age, i still stay with my parents until when i get married and then move out with my hubby... take care and have a nice day...
@pratiksanghvi (1278)
• India
16 Nov 10
I am Indian and for us we never think of moving out of the house.WE live with our parents for our entire life.Its just that for the start years of our life we are dependent on our parents and after that we earn a Income and support our parents for the entire life.
I have a feeling that for the past many years when i was small my dad supported me,He provided me Education,Helped me learn Business and gave me a position so that i could Stabilize myself and Earn my own income.
How could I ever leave him and move out with my Wife??
For Indians we have the same thinking like this and we stay with our family for the entire life.Thats our culture. Other Western countries people do move out of the house but i Don't Like that and i am Against it too..
I have a feeling that for the past many years when i was small my dad supported me,He provided me Education,Helped me learn Business and gave me a position so that i could Stabilize myself and Earn my own income.
How could I ever leave him and move out with my Wife??
For Indians we have the same thinking like this and we stay with our family for the entire life.Thats our culture. Other Western countries people do move out of the house but i Don't Like that and i am Against it too..
@rovered777 (649)
• United States
17 Nov 10
Dependency is a persons shortfall and such people need to work hard to correct it. Parents should care for their young children, but when kids reach a certain age, they should learn the ropes of trade, and be able to support themselves. The things that made your parents family so special need to make your future family so special and unique. The success of your finances depends on being a dependent thinker who earns enough money to support a living. Being scared is a stigma and weakness, as many adults use this to stay extended amounts of time with parents. Moving out is a big step, but lots of work needs to be done before hand. A person with a successful career and living usually moves out with less worries than the average Joe.
@tedeng06 (60)
• Philippines
17 Nov 10
Azaerus chances are you are from the Philippines am I right? Because here in my country I'm already like 25 but still I prefer staying with my family. I'm planning to get my own house and leave my family for good when I get married. There's nothing wrong with being with your family even though people might think it's wrong as long as you are comfortable and happy with your life. Do not let anyone decide for you or dictate your actions because every decisions or actions you take you are accountable for it. You blame your parents, friends, relatives and the others. By the time you stand before god you cannot say that you are told by others to do thus, or that virtue was not convenient at the time. These will not suffice.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
16 Nov 10
This is true and very sad too.
Children having their own family and still living with their parents is not really good,unless if they really have a big house to accommodate two families,but it's the real reason.
They can't moved on because they don't have enough money to rent a house.
My kids are still young and i don't want them to live independently when they reach 20 or something.
If they have their own job and can afford to rent a house,i won't allow them if possible.
Our house is big enough for them to stay and it's only us in our house,i will be lonely if they leave.
I will allow them once they had their own family.
Have a good day
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
16 Nov 10
my brother has gotten married with kids. that makes me the only person need to take care of mom. i believe there's nothing wrong with staying with my mom since i don't want bad things to happen to her if she's alone. besides, my brother was here he didn't make any difference knowing they were more expensive into things while my MOM ends up paying Most
I won't have a family nor move out knowing everything that is considered as an expense had increased.
I won't have a family nor move out knowing everything that is considered as an expense had increased.