afraid to fall inlove again

Philippines
November 16, 2010 11:01pm CST
I'm 28 now and everyone's pressuring me to get married soon.. How can i, when i don't have a boyfriend and i am so single?? It has been 2 years after failed relationship of 8 years.. I may say that i have moved on but i don't know how i'll ever fall inlove again.. It's hard when i also wanna get married someday but i just have not met the one..
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20 responses
@ipenk1000 (207)
• Indonesia
17 Nov 10
you must be patient.. because i'm sure you'll find someone who loves you
• Philippines
17 Nov 10
i haven't really given up yet but i sometimes just loose hope.. but thank you for that
• Philippines
17 Nov 10
i haven't really given up yet but i sometimes just loose hope.. but thank you for that
• Indonesia
17 Nov 10
okay..keep trying
@johndur (3052)
• Pasig, Philippines
9 Feb 13
at that age your still young. im sure you can find the right one for you just be more friendly and go outdoors more.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
18 Nov 10
Well, do not be afraid to get into relationship friend. Me too am single and still looking for something that love me for what I am. Love should not afraid off. I think someday you find the right and good with your life. Be patient and don't pressure to anyone because you are force to have someone that is not really for you and what you choose best for you
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
24 Nov 10
You should not be afraid to fall in love again. Just because you have a failed relationship in the past does not mean you won't find someone else to love and be loved by. Don't let anyone force you into doing something you don't feel right about. When the time is right for you, love will come your way again. don't be afraid to take it.
@Punkiee (139)
• India
18 Nov 10
You can fight everything but cant fight time, it mostly happens that when we were not expecting anything something happens which becomes serendipity of life. So, wait and watch & respond cause its not predictable that whats god have in store for you, wish you good luck & good life.
@Ritmon (118)
20 Nov 10
I can feel the pain of breaking a relation of 8 years....its really a painful blow,i also face a mind trouble like you,my relation was 3 years....just want to say you please try to say yourself,my love dump me,leave me and now he may be fine with an other girl...why i spoiled my life for a guy who leave me alone in a difficult situation of my life.....if he will leave me after marriage,where i will go????? please think and try to feel my words.......
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
17 Nov 10
the best medicine to heal a broken heart is time... people can pressure you to get married... but if you are not ready, then nobody can force you as you are the person who will go through the process... just tell them that you are not ready to get into a relationship yet and would like to be alone at this time until you are ready... take care and have a nice day...
• United States
17 Nov 10
Start going out on dinner dates or movie dates ect. Hey it take time but 2 years is enough. Time to move on . You will never know if you dont get moving. Love broke your heart but love will mend it again.(somethin my mom use to tell me) but it's not gonna happen just sittin and hopin. http://www.zazzle.com/guitarist7
@emerillus (467)
• Philippines
18 Nov 10
You can't say you are afraid to fall in love because falling in love can't be helped and you can't just tell your heart not to. So when that time comes, don't hold yourself back because that person might just need your love, given that he's not committed to others or he's still single like you.
• Philippines
17 Nov 10
Hi, I wonder why your forced when you can have your own freedom. It is never too late though. I am sorry about the break up, despite that you moved on easily i assume. I do not know why you're afraid to love again. I only know people who aren't afraid to be inlove again, but to the same person maybe I'll be afraid. Let's say I break up now, I might have someone knew tomorrow. I'm afraid of being loveless instead. Relax, there's many out there waiting for you, just pick the right choice. Don't be in a hurry as they want you to be.
@tudorm (85)
• United States
17 Nov 10
First of all you are still young and you can fall in love.Don't do it because everybody is pressuring you because you are going to do it for the wrong reason.I say wait and somebody will come along when you don't even expect it.Be prepared at all times don't let any opportunities go by.
• Philippines
17 Nov 10
all you have to do is to wait for someone. don't push yourself because everyone pushing you. wait for the right.
• India
17 Nov 10
fall in love baby...
@Freezole (246)
• Malaysia
17 Nov 10
you look lucky them me, unless you got some relationship in the past but for me is different i never fall in love yet also don't know how to start that kind relationship and i ready to accept if the right person appear in front of me. by the way, i think you need to be patience and let your future guide you. wish your dream come true someday and wish you got the right person to share everything forever. Have a nice days.
• Philippines
17 Nov 10
Well, your not alone and I though only ugly or those who are heavy weight have n love life. But i think that is not so true since even those lovely people whom i know have no love life. Even some like you to get married or have a similar life just like what other people push you to do you could not do so. In your own situation I understand it cause i know the feeling of being pressure to do things which you have not pass to your liking since it hard to regret or be sorry to jump to hook with another person because the time is ticking fast. I may have regret for not agreeing but at least i am happy because i know it could not make me happy to get married without love and I know for the fact that you should follow your own mind if you think it is not yet the time then do not pressure your self..Everyone have their own match and I myself believe on it when time comes it does not come at least I could divert myself to do more important things to focus rather waiting for something that never would happen. Eventually when the moment comes you meet the right man you could just feel it.
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
17 Nov 10
i think falling in love should be done by force..it's supposed to just happen...naturally and spontaneously...without you knowing it's coming... i had to wait for years before finding someone , after getting over bad exes and relationships.... but it was worth the wait cause the waiting was worth the find... i think it would be meaningless to enter a relationship unless the two of you are in love, so it was never my plan to enter a relationship just for the sake of helping me to move on and get over my past, and just for the sake of having one...i think that's not a good attitude. just keep your eyes open, make yourself good and look good, be lovable, and in time, at the right time, you will be attracting the right one for you. good luck!
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
17 Nov 10
try to work on that cause what you feel like it's what it happens meditate and try to find out why did you became like that also have in mind that fear is an ilusion, you are thinking about the chances of that something terrible that happened in the past come to be again, but what are the chances for that? very small, it's like light doesn't strike at the same spot twice that eazy
@bokal2703 (802)
• Philippines
17 Nov 10
Don't be pressured about what other people expect u to do. Marriage is a lifetime commitment, if you are not ready for it, you don't have to be in it especially it is your happiness that is stake there. Things happen when it is bound to happen. You shouldn't force yourself to be in an "in-love" mode if you really don't feel the way you are expected to feel. 28 isnt that old...relationships do not define a person...there are other ways to make life worthwhile...career, friends, family and hobbies.Single is not a status. It is a word that best describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others...enjoy the present...
@calpro (930)
• India
17 Nov 10
Just accept what comes in life, forget about the past and hope for a better life and better future always. God has given us humans a wonderful boon of forgetting the past. In this world no Individual is alike, Hope full you will meet your soul mate. Whatever happens life has to go on. Cheer up and start a new blissful life. Good luck.
17 Nov 10
I think true love is come one time in a person life. And second time doing adjustment. you don't waste your life for a person who had no care for you. I hope you Mr.Perfect, who loves you much more than other is must come in your life. So, just wait for your perfect person.