I am refused once again

China
November 17, 2010 6:35am CST
Today is a bad day,the weather is cold and I feel very depressed.I just want to cry. In mylot,I have said that I like a girl not long before.When I acquire her telephone number,I try to invite her to dinner with me.To my sadness,she tactfully refused my invitation.Today,after having class together,I invited her again,but she refused me and she said that "I have some thing to do".When I heard her words,I do not know what I should say.I only said that"when you have spare time , I invite you to dinner with me".Then,I went away sadly.What is wrong with me? I do not know why she refused me over and over.
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15 responses
@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
17 Nov 10
Hello my friend i think i will have to agree with the other people who posted in you discussion that theres nothing wrong with you. Its just that sometimes we meet people whom we like but the sad reality is they dont like us in return. When faced with this kind of situation first you have to find it in yourself to accept the fact that she dont like you and maybe she already have someone else in mind that she might want to go out with. If thats the case i think its better to offer friendship to that person instead because forcing way too much of yourself to her might not get you no where. Finding someone else to invite is another option well yes its true its not that easy to find another but the reality is you still dont know this girl that your asking to go out with. So losing her is not a big deal. Try to talk to yourself look in the mirror and you will find the answer you should try to assess what is it that you want and what is it that your capable of doing as well. Friendly advice is you should aim for something you know you can reach. Im sure one of these days you will find someone willing to go out and feels the same way like you do. Cheer up life is full of surprises you should learn how to go with the flow and appreciate what life has to offer to all of us. Have a great day my friend
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• China
18 Nov 10
Thank you.your words is reasonable.
• Malaysia
17 Nov 10
Nothing is wrong with you I guess.But if she kept resisting you over and over again,maybe she doesn't like you.In my opinion,getting the girl that you like sometimes could not be that easy.Even I myself,I found it hard to get the girl that I like before.After a number of tries,then only I succeed.Be patient man.
• China
18 Nov 10
Thank you!
• United States
17 Nov 10
Okay, seriously, take break from this girl for a while and go find some other girls. Work on your personality and work on who you are, and then go get this girl. Like I have told you before, she may not be the one for you, or she might be guarding herself, you never know. Don't hurt yourself over this girl, she's not worth it.
• United States
19 Nov 10
You need to learn to move on. I have had my heart broken before by the quarterback for my high school football team. I had a massive crush on him, and one of my friends told him that I had a crush on him. I told her not to say anything, but to just let it be. She had to go and tell him. He rejected me in the worst way possible, in front of the whole football team. They even laughed at me, it was so bad. It was humiliating, but it taught me a lesson. Football players can be jerks, and I don't need a jock, I need a man that truly cares. If you know Spider-Man comics, "I don't need Flash Thompson, I need Peter Parker." I will tell you the happy ending. The quarterback joined the military, and he and I are friends now. I have a boyfriend who truly loves me and cares for me. I realized that the quarterback wasn't the one for me, and that I deserved better. I also realized that he was hurting inside and that I would have never gotten through to him anyway. This girl knocked you down, but you will bounce back. She may be in a bad place right now, or she's just not into you, either way, you won't get through to her because maybe it's not meant to be. There is someone out there for you. I was 22 years old when I found my someone. You will find her one of these days.
• China
18 Nov 10
Thank you.Maybe she is not worth for me,but the main problem is that I like her.
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@icehut (508)
17 Nov 10
Take the hint... She's most likely not interested in being more than just friends. Some like to play hard to get. Just let her be. Treat her like a normal friend. If she's interested in you, she'll make it known when she realises that you've stopped asking her for dinner.
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• United States
18 Nov 10
Oh honey please do not blame yourself. Sometimes people simply do not see us for who we are. You have to try really hard to up lift your positive thinking and tell yourself there is someone out there somewhere perfect for me. Give this girl some time and you continue to be you. Perhaps one day she will see you for who you are and accept an invitation. If she doesn't do not give up, try hard to keep your mind busy on other things and maybe you will find someone else soon. We all deserve love, sometimes it is a matter of time.
• China
18 Nov 10
Yes,I appreciate you words.thank you!
• Portugal
17 Nov 10
dont be so sad is nothing wrong with you. just maybe that girl isnt interested in you like a boy. i guess that she just like you as a classmate. but she shouldnt had give you her number if wasnt interested. bcs that way she made you dream. anyway sorry for it just dont be sad ok im sure that all girls will love you^^ you are sweet, cute and honest. you want even to cry bcs she refused you. you really like her and we all girls want a boy like that ^^ trust me any girl would love to be in her place ^^ me too i wish to find a boy like you
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• China
18 Nov 10
I think you are the best girls in the world.Why she is not?
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
17 Nov 10
if the girl refuse you over and over again, then it is an indication that she doesn't like you... i'm so sorry to say this... but i think you should give up on her and look for other girl that really like you... one sided love is very tiring... unless if you are willing to be rejected by her and suffer the heartache over and over again, then i suggest you give up on her... take care and have a nice day...
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• China
18 Nov 10
It doesn't matter.Your words is true.I need time to forget her.
• United States
21 Nov 10
There is nothing wrong with you , she just isn't interested in you. I know it is sad and I Know it hurts but you have to move on. There is a woman out there who will love you, For you!
• India
18 Nov 10
hi keAebryant, friend this is life and don't get depressed. Everyone has to face this kind of events in life so you are not alone in the planet. However you have a chance first confirm that is she really busy or she is just ignoring you. If she is really busy then you have a chance and you can invite her later. But if she is ignoring you then please respect her feeling and leave her. Please if you leave her at this time you both have sweet memories of this this event.
• China
18 Nov 10
I appreciate your words "you both have sweet memories of this this event".
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
18 Nov 10
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you koAebryant, it just may be that you are not the one for this girl and she may not be the one for you. There is nothing wrong with that, it’s just life. You should not take her rejection so personally, tell yourself it is just not meant to be with this person and there more than likely will be someone else that is just right for you. You are better off letting this girl go because she may not be the one who will make you happy in the long run.
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@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
18 Nov 10
She is obviously just not interested in you and she does not mean to hurt you and make you sad. She is just simply not wanting to. Sorry to say that but I'm also a girl and I know I would do the same if I'm not interested with the man. You should just move on and make friends with other girl because the more try and invite her, the farther will she runs away from you. Good luck and have a nice day
• China
18 Nov 10
I do not know what the girls think.In my opinion,if it is me,I will not do that like her.
@Jiabsa (511)
• India
18 Nov 10
Why did you call her for dinner? It is not a safe time. At night girls don't like to accept their boy friends' invitation. Instead of calling for dinner, you can call her for lunch or for having snacks or ice-cream. If she loves you, she will of course come with you. Otherwise leave her. Hope that somewhere somebody is waiting for you.
@zeraeign (163)
• Philippines
18 Nov 10
Poor guys. I don't know what to say. I am a NGSB guy or No Girlfriend Since Birth. I've never tried courting a girl before.
18 Nov 10
Hi.. Buddy i also agree with others. actually nothing wrong with you. i want to suggest you that don't matter this incidents in your life and don't get upset for this things. remember the girls are not like us they are usually having a lot of problem. i want to ask you that who is she in front of you your friend of your beloved? & I'm sure she is your beloved, so you think like this, i understand your feelings, some time I've also feel the same. don't worry man just keep a faith, a trust, and if possible just talk with her & first of all aware her about your love behind your friendship........
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• India
18 Nov 10
don't worry my friend you trying honestly don't worry weather she refused or accepted you are trying honestly one day she will realize and she only come to you but never stop trying.