Giving in to a partner

Communication and mutual understanding play important role in relationship. In term of who should give in in times of quarrels or arguments, I think this is hard to define. It is depending on which party is more understanding and who can see the bigger picture. To avoid arguments,i think both must talk things through,and get mutual understanding,instead of make own assumptions. Things will get worse,if both assume they are right and make own judgments.

If I am who's fault but if I am the one right i will never give up the pride will enter but some I give up if their for right reason

Hi there Sammy 14! Well, a relationship should be a give and take one for it to work and so that both parties be happy and for it to grow. Every time my husband and I argue over something, we would take some time being quiet, try to control our emotions and try to see the other's point and we just say sorry and make up. It depends upon the argument though, if it gets really big, then we just wait to calm down and then talk about it after some time especially a decision should be made about the issue.

Hi sammy14, All relationship will are couple that will disagree or quarrel at some point. The most important thing to do is to learn to fight fair, knowing that you have the right to disagree, but you still have to love and respect each other. I don't give in when I am in a disagreement, so we just agree to disagree and we sometimes laugh and move on to something more pleasant to discuss. Now I know all relationships are not easy. However, if you don't want arguments to tear you apart then you have to find a way to compromise.

I am usually the first one to give in to my partner. i never like there to be any drama between us. It only takes one moment of misunderstanding and hurt to build into something bigger that will soon be out of control. I have to be the bigger person and be the first to say I'm sorry. the relationship means too much to me not to.

both of us. it is funny how both of us end up giving in and blaming ourselves. but the misunderstanding rarely happened that maybe to some people it is not a misunderstanding. hahaha it is because both of us are just so sweet with each other. it's like we are competing who between us is the sweetest. hahaha =) miss my partner so much...

You are right; it is a matter of give and take. Your discussion reminds me of a Dr Phil quote I heard from him not long ago while talking to a constantly arguing couple. “Do you want to be happy or do you just want to be right?” It was one of those statements that struck me as so true because I knew that nine times out of ten whenever my husband and I had a disagreement I was more interested in being right than resolving our issues. These days I make more of an attempt to focus on the problem at hand than winning the dispute.

Hi, When comes to arguments between couples, They must have someone who is willing to give in,then only the arguments will stop. When it happened to me, i will depend on the cause of the argument and who is starting it first. If it is really my mistake,then I will just keep quiet and walk away and I really need time to cool down myself. After cooling down,then I will start to talk to my partner again. Probably few hours later or maybe it will take even a day for me to cool down. But if the mistake is not at my side,then I won't start the conversation until my partner approached me first. I have my ego too...and since I am not in the wrong side, I won't be taking the first step to talk to each other.

hello sammy 14! relationship should be symbiotic, for it to prosper. However, there are instances when giving in to the other just to avoid a fight is a far better opinion than initiating a fight which is just not worth it. People are different and reacts to a particular situation differently. As much as i love my guy, i do try to reason with him when i know that i am quite right. however, sometimes, it doesn't matter who is right anymore.. the way you graciously back out of a fight is what matters and the feelings that lingers after the fight within you has long been gone. Fights are like spices, they make the viands more tastier and so yummy to the taste. However, if we know how to bow out of it graciously, without evoking any ill-feelings..the better.

Hi. Before, my hubby most of the time gives in everytime we argue. But, he made me realized that it is not always the man who should always gives in during arguements, but woman should also learn to give in, especially when it is really her fault. And I agreed his correct. So now, i learned to apologize to my mistakes.

if you understood there feeling means you will be best one in the world and no problem will comes with in your relation. don't fight be potions and that will improve the relation between any one.

Ideally the one who's wrong should be the one to admit and say sorry. Concede to the other and well accept that he/she was wrong, but most of the time the one who cared so much about the relationship is the one who concedes regardless whether he/she be the one wrong or right. Yes, it's true that relationship should be something like that, "give and take" because I believe that a relationship is made and meant to be shared and not to be owned and possessed. It is not something for an ownership and possession, it's something meant to be enjoyed together with a partner. And one thing, during conflicts and quarrels, I hope we should be aware that there is more to the relationship than the conflict. Don't ever allow a conflict or quarrel on something so trivial or minimal destroy a good relationship. The essence of a relationship is enjoyment, security and happiness. That is meant to be shared together. And lastly, in a relationship SELFISHNESS is not a WORD! It shouldn't exist in the world called "in a relationship". God bless you!

I think, it depends on the type of quarrel. If you right at your place then you should not give up. Try to resolve the issue. Try to be straight forward to put your points. Don't create another quarrel from the one you are trying to solve. Relationships work two way, so be patient.

yeah thats right! give and take...thats the best for the relationship..like in a way of misunderstanding, you must talked about the problems if there's something wrong to both of you..cause if you don't talked about the problems happening, no one will give way or accept the mistakes..not only a guy will give way also the ladies too..thats the good relationship will it takes for...