What would you do if you love a girl who have a boyfriend?
By koAebryant
@koAebryant (358)
China
November 18, 2010 6:54am CST
Recently,I have told my mylot friends that I am going for a girl.
Until now,I know that she has a boyfriend.I very like her.I do not know whether I should continue to go for her.She told me that "I have boyfriend,there are many single girl in our class,you can contact with them".I do not know why,I do not want to give up and continue to go for her.I am very depressed.
If you is me,What would you do?
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25 responses
@Freezole (246)
• Malaysia
18 Nov 10
I think you should go for it but don't rush. Please be prepare to let it go if it doesn't work. For your safety please don't create unnecessary trouble because that boyfriend must take some actions that will make thing worse so be prepare if you start. in other case, if the women is really love you..i think you should fight for it.
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@koAebryant (358)
• China
19 Nov 10
If the situation is the same as you say,I think I will defeat him with doubt.The main problem is that he is not in here.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
19 Nov 10
If I were you, I would definitely let her go. If she's not into you, what's the use of going after her? And she's not only into you, she has a boyfriend. If she showed you any signs that she's interested in you then you can still go after her, but if there's not even a single hint, she absolutely doesn't like you at all.
You'll just be getting yourself into more depression if you allow yourself to continue falling for her. And she's right, you should find another girl. Look around you, there area plenty and who knows you might find love here.
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@koAebryant (358)
• China
19 Nov 10
Yes,she do not assuredly gives me a single hint.Maybe you are right,just you say "she absolutely doesn't like you at all."But I was unconvinced by her refuse.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
18 Nov 10
i think you should give up chasing after her because she already has a boyfriend and had made it very clear to you to look for other available girl... i don't think chasing after a girl who already has a boyfriend is the right thing to do and you will end up getting hurt deeper and deeper... so i think you should give up... take care and have a nice day...
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@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
18 Nov 10
Nothing. It is very clear with what she said that she doesn't want your attention and that she has no plan of breaking up with her boyfriend. So, if i were you, I will leave her in peace even if it hurts...
Sorry to be very straight with my answer but for your peace of mind, it is useless to pursue her right now. Just imagine if you are in her boyfriend's shoes, would you like it if there's some guy who keeps on bothering her even if he knows she already has you for her bf? I don't think you will like the feeling of it, too.
Wait for her to be free again, if ever. Then, that is the time to pursue her and try your luck. Right now, she ain't giving you any hope and that is clear....
I hope you can find peace, dear...
@koAebryant (358)
• China
19 Nov 10
Yes,your respond is very reasonable.But I do not want to give up like this.Not only loving her,but also I want to prove that I am better than her boyfriend.I do not know why,I can not control me.I realize that I am wrong to apart them only because of my selfish if I continue to chase her.I think the main problem is that she has some offense to me.The more she refuse me,the more I want to get her.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
18 Nov 10
Sometimes we can not help when our hearts pitter patter for others. We can try and refrain but when that heart is so demanding it becomes quite difficult for us to avoid it.
I would say that if already has a boyfriend that you try really hard to avoid further pursue, however being yourself in your nice and caring ways may some day show her how sincere and caring you are. Which in turn at some point she may want to be with you.
In the meantime I would suggest you try and refrain from only thinking about her as you will continue to hurt and not have really hope if she is in love with this other person, then you will continue to hurt.
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@koAebryant (358)
• China
19 Nov 10
Yes,I know that it is difficult to leave her,maybe not only because of loving her,but also I want to prove that I am better than her boyfriend.
@saqi78 (1402)
• Malaysia
18 Nov 10
HI Koaebryant
Nice to hear from you but I think you should think of it, if she already have boyfriend then how can you still love her, it is an offense in my mind, for your own satisfaction you want her to leave the other boy, it is just nothing but selfishness. So try to leave her alone and move for some one else, it ll be good for you and for her too.
The world is big and you have many choices, if you cannot find any one in class then there would be more and more around you, so change your choice and look for another one if you really want some one.
I think this is the best suggestion which I can give you, dont waste your time on her and be sincere with your self...:)
Have a nice day...:)
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@shaggin (72131)
• United States
19 Nov 10
Its ok to long for someone but with what she said to you she made it clear that she is not interested so now its time to leave her alone. Trying to get with a girl who has a boyfriend is wrong. Its wrong to tempt her and its wrong to the guy who you are trying to steal her away from. If she breaks up with him then you may have an opportunity but if she sees that you are obsessed with her it will never work. Let her go if she comes around then cool if not leave her be.
@koAebryant (358)
• China
19 Nov 10
Why do most of mylot friends advice me to give up and leave her?I think I am right even that I continue to go for her.
@Freezole (246)
• Malaysia
19 Nov 10
I think you should ask that girl what she really want. she want you or her boyfriend..if she want you, than you should not give up, go fight for it till her boyfriend let it go. Anyway, should should ready to face anything happen and don't make your life suffer because of girl.
@mysticmaggie (2498)
• United States
19 Nov 10
To continue harrassing a person after she/he has told you she/he is not interested, is considered stalking and if continued on a regular basis, can be a criminal act. Best to let her go since she has already said she's not interested.
@vicereine (451)
• United States
19 Nov 10
Well I am not sure but if they are in a bad relationship go for it. I mean does she come to you and tell you all her problems with him or is he a bad guy? I guess it just depends on how much you really like her. If you think it is worth getting in a fight with her current boyfriend then go for it but does she feel the same about you? I guess it is hard to tell though but just make sure that she is worth it and that she cares for you before you go breaking them up or getting into any trouble. Don't rush and take things slow you never know what could happen.
@lindsiko (355)
• United States
19 Nov 10
I've been in a similar situation where I had a boyfriend and another guy really wanted to date me. I liked the guy, I honestly did, and had I not already been in a committed relationship for the last two years, I would have considered dating him. What was most important to me was being loyal to my significant other. I believe that relationships have to have a sense of security where you know the other person isn't going to cheat on you or leave you for the next person who comes along. I wouldn't be able to date someone who asked me to leave a committed relationship for them and I would definitely never ask that of someone else. I sincerely think that there needs to be time spent single between relationships in order to fully recover.
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@anil78650 (177)
• India
20 Nov 10
HIIIIIII BRO.........you got a common problem for most boys.If I were in your position i simply pick another one and if you like really like her very much then you should stuck with her and try to you best to win her heart but not doing something that heart her........So I think you should continue to go for her.....
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@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
21 Dec 10
If she has already said straight to your face that she already has a boyfriend then you should respect it. If you really love her, just prove to her that you are worth something you are asking for -- to leave his present boyfriend for you. Which I think will need a lot of work.
@zeraeign (163)
• Philippines
20 Nov 10
You know, whenever someone got a boyfriend, it seems to tell me 'Don't go for her'. I don't really know why.
You know what? Maybe, I just treat those who are in a relationship as married. You know, I definitely don't want to ruin someone's marriage.
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@ashter27 (10)
• Philippines
20 Nov 10
It's best if you leave her alone.. She made it clear to you that she has a boyfriend.. For me, I think if she's available she'd accept you based on what she said "there are many SINGLE girls in our class, you can contact with them".. but unfortunately, she's taken already and it means to me that she seems not interested to break off her relationship and be with you because it's not a good thing to do.. If you continue on liking and expressing your feelings for her, it will just make things worst for the couple (she & her boyfriend)and most especially to you.. If you two are really meant for each other it will come and if you two are not meant for each other, someone out there or by your side is meant for you.. Just look around.. Good luck..
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
1 Dec 10
If I fell in love with someone who already had a partner, then I'd have to move on and find someone else who was single.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
19 Nov 10
If she told you point blank she has a boyfriend , then you Have to move on. Try for someone else. If you Keep persuing her , you won't get her. In fact you may get hurt . She could tel her boyfriend about you and he could hurt you. Instead of being a guy in love , you will become her stalker. I know it is hard when you love some one that doesn't love you but you Have to walk away.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Nov 10
Please kobebryant do not pursue her as she w ill feel she is b eing
stalked and from the way you sound it is just about that now, she told
you she is not interested as she has a boyfriend. heed her wishes and
'leave her alone. a man who pursues a girl who has told him she is not interested is in all essence a stalker, she can call the police if you
'pursue this. forget her and find someone who is not taken. do not stalk her, its not worth it at all. You can find someone who is not taken.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
19 Nov 10
You would stay away from her and respect the fact that she is with somebody else! She has made it quite clear that she does not wish to be with you so why on earth would you keep on torturing yourself this way? It doesn’t sound as though this girl is just playing hard to get; she just does not seem interested. Why don’t you back off and give yourself a chance to meet someone who will care for you as much as you care for her...Good luck to you...
@craigy123456789 (1759)
•
19 Nov 10
If she is already with someone then you should stand back and not involve yourself in a relationship that does not involve you. If you read what she says she is politely telling you that she is in a relationship and is happy in that and if you want a girlfriend then there are many other girls around that you can contact, but not her. I am affraid that you will have to give up, for a relationship to work it takes two people to want each other. You want her but she does not want you, that tells you all you need to know. Why not listen to what she says and see if you can find someone else, someone that is single, you could be happy if you met the right person. Never involve yourself in somebody else's relationship, it only causes problems, especially when you now know that she isn't interested in you in that way.