Expectations are what making people disappointed...

Right now I am facing more disapointment in another person than I ever would have thought was possible in my life. The reason for that is because of the fact that I've always lived with the maxim that I should treat other people as I would want to be treated. Well, this person obviously doesn't want to be treated well in their life because she ended up treating me like dirt. I feel like I'm nothing but dirt or a doormat and it really is something that makes me sick. It is because I expected to be treated fairly that is making me sick about the entire situation.

I think if you have expectations for people, you're setting yourself up to be disappointed even if they are close relatives. I learned this the hard way by trusting a relative too much, when all she did was lie to me. I think if you expect less, and get less you won't be disappointed then.

I think we all can say there are times we have held High Expectations on someone and then had them disappoint them. Anymore it is hard to put your whole Trust and Faith in someone without God allowing it to be there, and they believe in God. Only thing I can say is many times you have to be cautious and hope for the Best.

Hi Lingli! It sounds good to hear that you have learnt your lessons over the period of time. Expecting from others sometimes becomes painful because others don't bother to think, what our mind thinks and expects. People (even close relatives) go their own way because they think that they are doing the right thing and do not bother much about returning favours. It would be safest, not to expect anything from anyone, if one could be self-dependent, as much as possible, one should be. PS - Have sent you a request for add, please add me.

Indeed, expectations can really lead to people just setting themselves up for disappointment. There are times where I really do hope for the best. However, I expect the worst, because in life, there can be times where the worst can really happen. Therefore, I don't hold life and other people to a high level of expectations. Not a low level either, but something that is achievable.

As what William Shakespeare said, "Expectations are the root of all heartaches" There is total truth in this statement because if we expect too much out of something or someone and in the end, it didn't turned out as what he have expected, it breaks our hearts, disappointments sink in. That's why never expect too much.

Yea I'm glad that you turned your life around by limiting your expectations. Expectations are what makes people pressurized. Even for me, I also feel stressed. Especially during or before exam periods, my mother always tell me and expect me to get good grades, which really stresses me up. I told her not to talk to me about that before exams but she just wouldn't listen.

I am the same way. I also used to have high expectations on people, and I have been disappointed by many. Specially from so-called friends. When you try to extend them a lot of help, and they just end up using you. Sometimes friendships have its limits. And sometimes you just have to say no.

I am glad to hear from you that you have learned a lot now. And yes I TOTALLY AGREE with you that we are not suppose to expect as we will be challenged. My experience was also similar as yours like I am being good with other people so people will also treat me like that but then I was wrong. I realized that I am already pleasing other people as we can't really make it. I was been frustrated that there are people who can't accept me or even rejected me for no apparent reason. But now as I learned that we can't please everybody I already accept the fact that there are people that will do anything to put you down even if you are not doing anything wrong with them. And yeah I have also learned that our help must be with sincerity that we should not expect for the change. I mean I admit the fact that I have that kind of mentality but now I learned if we want to help then give our hand to them without projecting to them that we are helping. I also realized that expecting will make us disappointed since I discovered and observed that we will be more challenge if that is our mentality. I already observed that with many people or even re-enact on dramas. But the point is it is actually TRUE! Because from being disappointed we must already learned that world is just round that goes around and it is not flying or even flying everyday. Like for example if there is intelligent kid the parents will expect him much like his grades must be high and he must always be on top. But then we can't avoid the fact that we are going to face the competitions and challenges. Then if the kid fails the parents will be very disappointed BIG TIME as if their world ends. Instead of having expectations then our motto and mind set must be ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN.

Hi lingli Lol i fully agree with you, disappointment comes because of over expectations. As human being, we have high expectations always, but all expections never come true, many remain unfullfilled.. I believe we are facing our karma each moment, if we had done good, we are getting more good, if we did bad, we are getting more bad..It is the law of destiny, reality is always different from dreams..I never feel disappointed and take things rather lightly. Thank you so much for sharing your real life experience. Professor. . Cheers have a lucky day ahead. God bless you. Welcome always.

I remember my best friend..she also doesn't expect too much so she wouldn't be disappointed. I'm quite the opposite, I'm optimistic and expect that good things will always happen. And I've been disappointed a couple of times, but there are times that people and other stuff do meet my expectations and it makes me happy. I'll continue being like this..

I definitely agree with you that expectations would cause you so much disappointments in your life. Since then, I always make sure to be good to others so that they would also treat me the same way. I've been trying to be very friendly, help them as long as I could but at the end of the day, I heard someone questioning my being good to them. I am a sweet person and childish at times. Other people misunderstood that. They think that I am superficial to them. I was really hurt. I then realized that you really cannot please everyone no matter how hard you tried.

Reading this is just like reading my own self. Like you I have high expectations of people especially when they're the ones who made me expect those things to them. My sister for example, who is a very successful doctor, made me believe that she could never do wrong in her life and she was better than the rest of us. I looked up to her and when she got pregnant with a man who's just a driver and married at that, I was so disappointed in her and even lose my respect for her, in fact hated her. Until now, I still have that bitterness and hatred in my heart and I just don't know how to get rid of it.

Expectations could really be a source of expectation. And yes, I have the same experience before, expecting to much on something or someone and well, when my expectations are not met I have been disappointed, I was broke, but I learned to move on, and said to myself, from this day on, I wouldn't expect anymore, but I would hope. Because Expectation is different from Hope. Just HOPE don't EXPECT. God bless you! Hope in the LORD!

It is hard to expect things from people because indeed they will disappoint you in one way or another. I think it is better not to expect anything at all. Just let them please you the way they are. If they deliver good things then fine if they don't then take it as just part of their imperfection. Don't ever expect anything from others because that will certainly make you unhappy. For all you know you are also failing the expectations of others without you knowing it.