Do you talk a lot when nervous?

@saqi78 (1402)

Malaysia

November 21, 2010 10:23am CST

Hello Dear Lotter

I have observed during different sessions that people talk too much when they are nervous and there are also some people who just remain silent when they are nervous. Stress and fear of the unknown can trigger some interesting human behaviors, including the need for incessant nervous chatter. There are some people who cover their nervous feelings by filling the air with words. For most people, nervous talking serves as some sort of calming mechanism in reaction to certain stressors. Not everyone talks too much when they become nervous. Some people tend to shut down verbally when faced with a stressful situation. Other people talk excessively when nervous as a way to establish a bond with others, albeit an imperfect one at times. A nervous job applicant may spend her time talking to other applicants in order to calm down before an interview. By expressing her fears and making small talk, she may be able to gain enough confidence to handle the interview better.

In my case, I always remain calm, never want to show my expression but it is really hard to control my self when I am nervous, so I ll eat some thing or ll remain calm and ll start thinking about different things or the situation. What do you do, when you got nervous and how you ll define your condition of being talkative or silent...:) Have a nice day...:)

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@babyjingwei (4)

• China

22 Nov 10

when i feel nervous i usually eat a lot of food and then have a sleeping,maybe it is harmful for body ,but itis good way for me

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@saqi78 (1402)

• Malaysia

22 Nov 10

Hi Dear Baby Jing Wei Thats very nice to hear from you, first of all a very warm welcome to myLot Wow you really have a very nice strategy of eating food and then sleep, it is nice to hear, you know its demerits but you still practice it, why? For me, it is hard to sleep during my nervous time, because again and again the same situation ll appear and it ll not leave me sleeping but very good for you that you get some sleep during these timings...:) Thanks for response, see you around Have a nice day...

@saqi78 (1402)

• Malaysia

22 Nov 10

Hi Dear Baby Jing Wei Thats very nice to hear from you, first of all a very warm welcome to myLot Wow you really have a very nice strategy of eating food and then sleep, it is nice to hear, you know its demerits but you still practice it, why? For me, it is hard to sleep during my nervous time, because again and again the same situation ll appear and it ll not leave me sleeping but very good for you that you get some sleep during these timings...:) Thanks for response, see you around Have a nice day...

@saqi78 (1402)

• Malaysia

22 Nov 10

Hi Dear Baby Jing Wei Thats very nice to hear from you, first of all a very warm welcome to myLot Wow you really have a very nice strategy of eating food and then sleep, it is nice to hear, you know its demerits but you still practice it, why? For me, it is hard to sleep during my nervous time, because again and again the same situation ll appear and it ll not leave me sleeping but very good for you that you get some sleep during these timings...:) Thanks for response, see you around Have a nice day...

@JudgeIronFist (2472)

• Singapore

22 Nov 10

I'll just calm myself down my thinking of happy things that are going to happen and if I see someone familiar, I'll also talk to them. Usually when I'm nervous, I'll calm myself down and sometimes clear my mind of any thoughts that will corrupt it.

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@saqi78 (1402)

• Malaysia

22 Nov 10

Hi Dear Judge Iron Fist Very nice to hear from you, really very good response, I appreciate this, the best thing is to remain quiet and calm, it is always helping in getting confidence and talking to your friends or familiar one is also a good strategy. Thanks for response, Have a nice day...:)

@Bernadeth (32)

• Philippines

22 Nov 10

When I got nervous I didn't talk a lot. but when I talk I got tongue tied. X.X

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@saqi78 (1402)

• Malaysia

22 Nov 10

Hi Dear Bernadeth Thats good strategy that you keep quiet and calm but how you get your tongue tied, in between you teeth? Thanks for response, Have a nice day...:)

@vicereine (451)

• United States

21 Nov 10

Well I do the typical girl thing like giggle or play with my hair a bit. Of course that is only if I am on a date with a guy for the first time but usually just getting to know someone I stay sort of quiet. I hate it though because people think that I am being rude but really I am just so nervous I don't want to blurt out something absurd or anything. I really try to stay calm and over the years I have gotten a bit better about not being nervous but it is really hard sometimes to not be nervous around certain people.

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@saqi78 (1402)

• Malaysia

22 Nov 10

Hi Vicereine Nice to hear from you that you remain quiet while on your first date and see things around you and observe things, I think this is very nice strategy to observe things and then speak, I think you are good problem solver Thanks for response and Have a nice day...:)

sweetloveforeve

@sweetloveforeve (13120)

• Portugal

21 Nov 10

yes i talk a lot when im nervous^^ one day in school i had a presentation in front of my teacher and my classmates and i started to talk so fast ahah

also when im irritated and want to say everything im feeling inside. i talk so fast too bcs i feel i have to say all im feeling inside. thats why i talk so much. is good that you are calm^^ that way you feel better and dont get so nervous about things. i wish i was like that ahah

have a nice day too

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@saqi78 (1402)

• Malaysia

22 Nov 10

Hi XoXo Cat

Thanks for appreciation, Yeah, I have noticed this thing around me, that when people want to show their feelings they ll talk too much or they ll talk very loudly, and I think both of them are not much impressive, because for the time being you ll get the reward but for long run if you points are not valid then it ll not be rewarded but in your case, I know you are good in writing and so as you ll be good in speaking too, so I think you always have valid points when communicating, like my girl friend, she always have very valid points when she talks and I like it very much....:) Thanks for such a nice response...:) Have a nice day...:)

@aeiou78 (3445)

• Malaysia

22 Nov 10

When I am nervous, I just try to keep myself quiet. I shall scream if I can not take it. But after my scream, I shall make myself quiet again. Talking too much will just mess up the situation. It will make me panic and worse. The best way to handle such situation is just to calm down yourself and think about the solution to resolve the problems within the shorter period.

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@saqi78 (1402)

• Malaysia

22 Nov 10

Hi aeiou I agree with you that talking too much ll make the things worse so the best way is to think and remain quiet, it ll help you thinking about the situation and your next steps. Nice to hear from you, Have a nice day dear...:)

@cher913 (25782)

• Canada

21 Nov 10

i actually, especially when i go for an interview or something like that. i end up saying way too much.

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@saqi78 (1402)

• Malaysia

21 Nov 10

Hi Cher Thats good thing to release your nervous and get confidence, talking helps you to get the confidence in you...:) Have a nice day..:)

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@williamjisir (22819)

• China

22 Nov 10

When I feel nervous, I don't talk much, but more calm. But I could be easily seen to have the feeling of being nervous from my uneasy mood. I think that it is somewhat the same with some other people. Take care.

@saqi78 (1402)

• Malaysia

22 Nov 10

HI William Nice to hear from you, yeah, you are right, most of people tend to remain quiet when they are nervous and dont speak too much, because speaking too much may harm you by exposing your weaknesses or may you speak some harsh words so it can hurt others Thanks for nice response...:) Have a nice day...:)

@ersmommy1 (12588)

• United States

22 Nov 10

Not not really. I usually do the exact opposite and get quiet. If I am more nervous than usual, I tend too giggle. Once I get comfortable I am fine.

@saqi78 (1402)

• Malaysia

22 Nov 10

Hi Dear

Nice to hear from you, it is always advisable to remain quiet and calm and get your confidence when you are nervous and I am glad that you do the same practice Have a nice day dear...:)

Keep in touch..

@bingskee (5234)

• Philippines

22 Nov 10

hello, this is such a nice discussion. i am never actually aware of my exact actuation when i am nervous but most of the time, I find it hard to utter a word when i am nervous. it is like even my tongue is nervous. but i had witnessed others who are almost loud when they are nervous. they sound like their nervousness are uncontrolled.

@saqi78 (1402)

• Malaysia

22 Nov 10

Hi Dear BingsKee Nice to hear from you, it is really very hard to control your feelings and emotion during time of nervous but in fact it is really very good to control your feelings and emotions. You are right that remaining calm and quiet is good in this condition. Thanks for nice response, keep in touch Have a nice day...:)

hardworkinggurl

@hardworkinggurl (37063)

• United States

21 Nov 10

I am a big talker in general.. LOL.. But find that if I ever get nervous, I tend to repeat my sentences. I am pretty good about catching that after it is done, but don't know why I do it to begin with.

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@saqi78 (1402)

• Malaysia

22 Nov 10

Hi Hard worker Yeah, we at lot know that you are big and GOOD talker, you are always positive in every your every suggestion and I like it most. Repeating sentences in nervous is good strategy, because of it you ll know that what are you talking and it ll keep you calm also. I like repeating the same sentences...:) Have a nice day...:)

@sjlskl (3382)

• Singapore

21 Nov 10

I don't talk much when I am nervous. The reason is that I will stammer. So talking much will make it worse and expose to everyone of my nervousness.

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@saqi78 (1402)

• Malaysia

22 Nov 10

Hi Dear Nice to hear from you, yeah, stammering is good while you are talking whether nervous or not but too much is not good in my mind. Any how thanks for nice response, I appreciate your strategy during nervous times Have a nice day...:))

@stanly012992 (241)

• Philippines

21 Nov 10

Hello saqi78, When i am feel nervous i talk lesser words because i don't want to show to them that i am feel nervous. It is really hard to control your self if you feel nervous its hard to speak and your whole body is shaking but i try my best to avoid feel nervous because i know it cannot help you to make your work better or other activities. Have a nice day and Happy mylotting

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@saqi78 (1402)

• Malaysia

22 Nov 10

Hi Stanly Thats very good during nervous time, in this way you can hide many things and weaknesses, because at the time of nervous when you are talking, you never see that what you are talking, even you give you weak points to the listener, so it is better to be quite and calm Thats great dear, thanks for response Have a nice day...

• India

24 Nov 10

when i m nervous i like to sit in a place were none can distrub me

@saqi78 (1402)

• Malaysia

29 Nov 10

Hi Vicky

Thats really good and this can help you to concentrate on the things which are making you nervous...:) Thanks for the response...

Have a nice day....:)

@academic2 (7000)

• Uganda

22 Nov 10

I agree with you that Stress and fear of the unknown can trigger some interesting human behavior-as for me, when am nervous I choose to remain silent or choose my words very carefully!

@saqi78 (1402)

• Malaysia

22 Nov 10

Hi Academic Thanks for appreciation, I am glad and appreciate your strategy that you remain silent when you are nervous and try to control the situation by speaking carefully, this is really very good to think before you speak and during nervous time we normally dont think and it can hurt the other person...:) Thanks for response Have a nice day...

@SimpleBB (1329)

• Philippines

22 Nov 10

It depends. If I'm nervous because of fear, I'm very silent. But when it is a job interview or presentation, I think I talked too much.

@saqi78 (1402)

• Malaysia

22 Nov 10

Hi Dear Yeah, it depends on the situation, some time we need to remain quiet and some time we have to talk. Nice to hear from you, thanks Have a nice day...:)

@aaronfyzeon (1920)

• Philippines

22 Nov 10

Yes I still talk everytime I am feeling nervous. It is my job to talk so I will still talk to customers even though I don't feel like talking or even when I am feeling all the jitters inside me. During those times when I feel nervous, I just pause for a short moment and ask the customer if I can put her on hold then I will be able to regain composure. If I get back to the customer, I will then feel renewed and ready to talk to her again. Nervousness while talking is a sign that you do not know what you are talking about. You should always be confident and should know what you are talking about so you wouldn't feel nervous. Thank you for bringing up this topic which is I will be doing in the next couple of months. Have a great day.

@saqi78 (1402)

• Malaysia

22 Nov 10

Hi Thanks for response, I respect your feelings, yes it always happens and the best thing is to give a break and keep your self calm Nice to hear... Have a great day..

@Jiabsa (511)

• India

22 Nov 10

How is it possible to talk too much if one is nervous? They are great. I can't speak a single word if i'm nervous.

@saqi78 (1402)

• Malaysia

22 Nov 10

Hi Jiabsa Nice to hear from you, Yeah, they are great people who can talk too much in their nervous situations, people have this habit and they are really good in tackling such type of situation, it is some time good and some time it really worsen the situation. Thanks for your nice response dear Have a great day...:)

@mrpoker0112 (243)

• China

22 Nov 10

it's quite a great topic to talk about . as for me .when i am nervous and when i feel out of comfortable .i won't talk too much ,and i think i am not so mature so i can't keep calm exactly in that case . maybe i choose to go to bed ,little considering what has made me nervous .sometime i also listen to music i love to relax myself . in reality we all could met with things that may make us nervous ,we are supposed to have our own ways to release our bad mood .no matter which way to make it we choose . glad to share with you !

@saqi78 (1402)

• Malaysia

22 Nov 10

Hi Mr Poker Glad to hear from you, your strategy really impressed me, and also you are right that it depends on situation and according to situation you tackle with it. For remaining calm thinking of the reasons is necessary to find out that what is the things which made you nervous, listening music is great to divert your attentions. But all this depends on the situations of being nervous, which differ from situation to situation. Thanks for nice response, see you around Have a nice day...:)

• India

22 Nov 10

Hey..well i always try to remain as cool as possible when i am nervous, but it can be done everytime.In some situation we feel really nervous and in such situations i am very talkative..the reason being if i am silent everybody asks what happpend for being so silent and they can guess my condition, so i try to hide my nervousness by talking about other matters or to divert my mind for some time..and beleive me thats a good trick.

@saqi78 (1402)

• Malaysia

22 Nov 10

Yeah, I agree with you, some time remaining quiet can expose your nervousness and others can easily feel about you, so I think you are right that it depends on the situation and factors responsible for it. Thanks for a nice response, have a nice day...:)