Make it, Break it...It's Now or Never...

Hi Eurekafemme, I haven't made any huge decisions for the upcoming year. My happiness and peace of mind have always been important and not just for me but for my kids as well. I think I was a better mom when my spirits were in the right place. It sounds as if you've had enough and are ready to make some changes. Wishing you the best!

Hi! I have not made any decision about year 2011, as yet. I have an important task in hand, which I have to execute by December end and am working for it with full zeal and determination. As regards, your resolution, to me it appears, it is easier said than done. It will practically be very difficult for you to make it or break it, though I honestly wish, it could have been easier for you to take a 'decision'.

At around Easter time in 2010 I had enough of living in a two story house. I found it challenging to carry my disabled son up and down the stairs. I looked into the possibility of selling my house and buying a bungalow. My son's occupational therapist said he needed a downstairs bedroom and bathroom. I put my house on the property market with an estate agent. The second person that saw it made an offer which I accepted. The conveyancing took many months and my buyer was getting very fed up with it. Finally all went through and we moved into our bungalow in August this year. Now I have a much easier time now all it on one level. Though my disabled son's condition is stressful: all the different appointments with medical professionals. He is going to have a hip operation in 2011. Good luck with your ideas of how to improve your life. I hope it all works out for you.

Wow I admire you for breaking the chain of wanting to break away free form your old self. Sometimes people stay in their situation for a very long time because something is forcing them to do that. But in the end of the day nobody really knows and care for you except for your own self. It's about breaking out and starting to love yourself more than anybody else. I have done that long time ago and trust me I have no regrets whatsoever. You need to be brave or else you will be left behind always asking yourself,what if? We will never know what will happen tomorrow if we will not try to do things differently today.

Glad to hear that you are starting to think of yourself sweetie. I made mine and will stick to it. Once we know what we want and why we want or need that, nothing on this planet can change your mind for you. Luck. TATA.

Before you jump to any decisions,just sit down with your family and have a talk.Communicate between each other.Tell how you feel and don't stress out so much.Do tolerate.Just don't make any decisions that would affect your life in terms of worseness later on.I've make some decisions for the year later.I planned to just moving on with what I've done so far in this year. Cheers.:)

I am pretty happy in my life. Some things are not the way I want. But that has more to do with me. I am considering going back to school. I hope your husband decides to move forward with you. Everyone deserves happiness.

I don't know much about your story although I have read many of your posts... I am really glad that you have finally decided to stand up for your own. As far as I can remember, your husband have treated you more like his personal house maid than a wife (that's how I thought about your relationship)... now is the time to show him that you are above anything else, a human being with rights and with needs. Stand up girl!!! I'd love to hear how things goes on with your plan. I am praying that at the end of all this, God's plans will be done. Pray for His divine intervention. God Bless

Hello Eureka, I think I know some of those stories I don't know but I will make an effort to apply for a job. maybe despite of the thriftless we still tend to be late in the payments of the bills.am not sure what's much to move on except that i already did since my former college friends have moved on with out me literally. AS for the decision next year, i don't know. i couldn't some of my promises.Probably i would need another set of inspiration to drive me into my goals again.

Hi eurekafemme, Someone recently wrote, "2010 is about to end, what kind of year has it been? No matter how it ends, next year is your chances to begin again." Hint, hint, you can always start anew. Don't you think a new life you are due? God Bless

im very happy that you decided to have your happiness also^^ is good what you will do. if your hubby wants to be with you then you give him a second chance if not is ok. you are very young yet and can meet other guys^^ but keep with a man that makes you feel lonely and unhappy is a big NO. about me i decided that for now i wont follow any guy. bcs me when a guy likes me and i accept him when he starts to act careless i cant stop caring for him is very hard really. so for now on, if a guy likes me i will just accept him after he gives me many proves that really do love me. otherwhise i wont. i need a true love in my life and not loves that are careless. we deserve to be happy always and we cant forget about our needs for no guy in the world. if we feel that is bcs the guy isnt the right one^^ so im very happy you made this decision. i really am

I haven't thought of any decisions for the coming year, but I love reading your post! It's so empowering women and yes I'd love to encourage you to look after yourself this time. Most people believe that once women are married they should only look after their family and try to forget their own selves. I totally disagree with that. As a mother and a wife, nothing has changed with what we are or who we are except for our priority but that doesn't mean that we have to neglect our own needs and happiness. Go for it and i'll be supporting you all the way!

It's a good thing to look for your own happiness to. You deserve a good future and happiness too. Life wouldn't stop because you already have children and a husband to take care or look after. Because, you have a life too. But here's the thing, before moving on and finally decided on the thing that you would really want to pursue, have you consulted your husband about it? And have you raised the burden issue to him? I believe personally, that communication is very important in a relationship. It makes the relationship stronger and go further despite the fact, that it is inevitable to have petty quarrels and conflicts at times. You are in a relationship, because of a decision, and being married is being one with your husband right? So if you have something on your mind that you really want to pursue, consult and talk to your husband, as a sign of love, care and respect to him. I believe you deserve to be happy, and you only desire for your family's happiness too, while you enjoy and be happy with your life. So go talk to your hubby and communicate what's on your mind. God bless you, your plans and your family! Have a happy life!

I already don it first i also was that i give every engergy from me to athers and i also think that you must have done that, but now i am already relax i have more time for my own and i love it i can see more good things in a human live and let the bad things behind me i hope you also can do that and make the new start before 2011! But dont make the choice to fast but think about it!

i admire your will and determination for the year ahead... i haven't really thought yet what i want to do next year... but definitely i want it to be a better year compare to this year... good luck with your new year's resolution... hopefully you will be able to achieve what you want next year... take care and have a nice day...

O no, you are feeling that you are living a stressful life. it means that you are very sensitive. life it self is stressful if you feel, you think. you should have positive thinking about life. There are many plus things in our life. we should seek and enjoy them. you has your own home. God gifts you twenty four golden coins on every morning. it means you are not weak or poor. daughter is sick. try your best to rectify this problem. otherwise don't worry. This is also a shape or kind of life. there are many people having much many negative things in their live. you feel your husband is not compromising, you should compromise. surrender as he is your husband. laugh, laugh, laugh on the worries are testing you. you would get through this examination with everlasting success. last night i was going to join my radio duty. road accident wounded my little finger. i went on air with bleeding finger as it was my duty. I rushed to doctor just after my radio duty dressed and stitched the wound. and now I am sitting here in front of my computer ans talking to you. i am ignoring my pain, working on key board. friends are sending dozens of sms, i am paying thanks and enjoying the pain. face and fight with worries and keep playing smile on your lips. this is first and last solution of your every and each problem. wish you best of luck dear eurekafemme. God may bless your home.

Hi eureka... I have only one plan for the coming year. I must have to complete my doctorate degree on the very first months of the year. Have a nice day.