should I move in with my kids?

First of all, please make sure that the new place that you plan to move to is big enough, for all of you... From the point of view of family, I would say it is a good idea.. Your daughter n grand baby definitely need you... Your son needs his sister... Family members need each other... It may sound a little old idea, but it is true...

For two years my daughters and her family lived with me. We split the bills and I would take care of my granddaughter while my daughter and my son-in-law went to work. I loved being with my granddaughter and thought the arrangements worked out good. I think its good if you put a time period on it and not think its going to be like this forever. We said a year to two years and then I sold my home and we went our separate ways. They rented a home and I moved to Puerto Rico. I loved it while it lasted but you have to make sure everyone follows the rules and everyone helps each other. I think it has great benefits. Especially saving money, and always having help around that taking care of your son can be shared and not all on you. Good luck in your decision making.

What a difficult situation; so many pros, but a lot of cons as well. Yes, that is what family is all about, but you are still individuals and you need to be sure that you are compatible living together. It's not going to be the same now as it was when your daughter lived at home. She has had her independence and does things her way, which are not necessarily the way you do things. This alone can be a source of tension, if you each don't like the way the other does things. It is not just the concept of living together that needs to be thought about, it's the practicalities as well. I love my mum dearly, but there is absolutely no way that I would want to live with her, or have her live with me, she would drive me around the bend!! This is such a big move and there are so many things to take into consideration. Like you've said yourself, if you go ahead and do it and things don't work out, what happens then. Whatever you decide to do, I hope it all works out. Good Luck!

Sorry about your son! Well yes thats what being a family is all about BUT, we all need some "me" time also. It would be nice for you to have her to help you with your son and yes you can help her also with the kids. I would recommend you make sure you both have some "me" time and a place all to yourself to go to and be on your own or you'll get on each other's nerves!! Hope it works out for you and your family.

I think you should move in with your kids if they desperately need your help. Plus, your son was in a car accident, and he needs you at the moment. Kids will needed care too, so, it is a good idea to consider. If I were you, I would not hesitate on it. Like what you said, it will be much cheaper to share the rent and the food too.

money wise it is but if your privacy is your priority I think the idea will not work. Besides if you are used to living alone and you have your own schedule of everything, when you move to someone else house there will be adjustment because they have their own timetable.In most cases, moving to someone else house is difficult unless you are really used to be together and you know exactly their attitudes, routines etc. The decision is all yours. Good luck.

I would really think it out. Will it benefit your son, or maybe cause him to go backwards. Will it be more work for you, or give you a break. Can you make it now, or do you need her help? Will all the commotion going on bother your son? I would really weigh up the options. Does your daughter realize what she will have to help with?

moving in together would definitely save you a lot of money, plus some chores can be easily managed under one household. but before you decide on it, it would be best to lay down the cards first (chores, space, schedules, etc). big decisions often come with some compromise between the parties involved. sometimes we give up a few things so we can accommodate other people's needs. but if it's going to benefit the majority (and on a long-term), then that would be great. also, when it comes to family, we know that distance and being there for each other whenever necessary is never an issue. so, whatever your decision, just make sure you'll be happy with it. good luck!

That's a tough one. Have you sat down and discussed the issue besides the helping with expenses? Maybe have a trial/test period to see if it would work.Sounds like you each have a lot on your plate.

Well I was always raised around extended family in our house. My mother's father lived with us while I was growing up. My father was always at his parents the last 10-15 years of their life and I would usually go with for the car ride. I loved the fact that I always saw my grandparents all the time as I am sure your grand kids would love to see you all the time. Now that my parents are older, I go over to their house all the time, I often wonder if we all should move in together...LOL Of course there are 5 in my family and then my parents, would make for a VERY crowded household.

It would definitely be something that would help you to save money. However, if you aren't entirely comfortable with the prospect of it, then I really don't think that it would be a good idea to go with the situation. I'm sure that you don't want to enter into a situation that though you are saving money, you are under more stress than you were under prior to the change in living situation because of the fact that there will be some times that you but heads with each other.

The situation sounds very complicated. It must be so hard to make the choice. God bless you.Hope miracles befall to your son and give him a recovery.

That's a tough question to answer.. I would sit down and make a list of the pro and cons and see if there are more pro or cons then decide then. For me, I don't think I could deal with babies, theres 3 kids in the house, crawling, walking, crying would probably be a HUGE distraction for me. If you want the best thing to do is maybe have you and your son go to your daughters house for a week or weekend and see how the environment is and see if it is adaptable or not. Good luck!

I suggest to live with your kids. it is really important that you still monitor what's happening to them and guide them in all their deeds. Not really mind about money all i think is more important is that when you see each other. In that simple way you can express your concern and time with her kid and your son. I think it still more money to save if you will live together as one. In that case better to talk to each other. What would be the best to do.

Well, there are ups and downs to this situation. But ultimately you guys should weight the ups and downs and see for yourselves which would be better. If it is worthwhile, they should, but if it's not, then perhaps you shouldn't do it.