To Have A New Baby
By Toni
@toniganzon (72517)
Philippines
November 23, 2010 11:57pm CST
My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for the past few months without consulting my doctor. My doctor 2 years ago told me it's okay for me to have another baby because my son is already of age. She said I'm perfectly healthy to do so and I don't have any problems with my reproductive system.
We've been trying for a couple of months and every time I get delayed I also get disappointed. I'm 32 and will be turning 33 in February 2011 and I think I'm not too old to have a baby, but it seems that it's a little bit difficult to have one nowadays and I don't know what seems to be the problem.
13 responses
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
25 Nov 10
i had been trying to have a baby as well and have not been successful so far... and i am 32 already this year and not giving up hope... i think 32 is not too old to have a baby... please don't give up hope yet... i know how you feel because i am in the same situation like you... i believe one day you will have another baby and i believe i will too... keep on praying... take care and have a nice day...
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@toniganzon (72517)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
Thanks so much for making me feel better. I just wish it'll happen soon! And may the Lord grant us both with beautiful babies!
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
24 Nov 10
Just take your time dear and don't stress out too much because that delays everything. I do wish you will also have another baby. Besides you already have a son so it will happen also that you can have babies, just at the right time, keep on praying.
You can also ask your doctor to check you both if there seems to be a problem if you have been trying for more than a year. Baby dust to us all who wants to have a baby.
@toniganzon (72517)
• Philippines
24 Nov 10
Thank you for sprinkling that baby dust and I hope it will bring me good luck!
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
5 Dec 10
I had my second baby when I was 34 years old and my third baby when I was 36 years old. My sister had her fourth baby when she was 39 years old. I suggest you eat a healthy diet and do moderate exercise. When a lady is stressed it can prevent her getting pregnant. I suggest you try to relax and have an enjoyable happy sort of time. You could try to get pregnant every other day. It can take some ladies in their thirties 6 months of trying to get pregnant. Good luck with your dream to get pregnant. I have the feeling it will soon happen for you.
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
24 Nov 10
Hi toniganzon,
I think having children is one of the most beautiful contribution one can make in the world. You sound as if you really want to have another child and I will believe with you and your husband that you will succeed before you get too old.
Don't worry, women older than you have pulled this off. Believe, relaxing, and enjoy trying. You will be pregnant before you know it.
Good Luck
@toniganzon (72517)
• Philippines
24 Nov 10
Thank you and I'm hoping to have one too now that the number of well wishers are increasing.
Thank you so much!
@astreadido (608)
• Philippines
24 Nov 10
Hi! Don't worry you're not too old to have a second baby. If you know the calendar method in family planning maybe you can schedule a second honeymoon on days you are most fertile. The vacation can also relieve stress which sometimes makes it hard for us to conceive. Good luck!
@toniganzon (72517)
• Philippines
24 Nov 10
Thank you! I do know the calendar method but scheduling a vacation is a little bit difficult for us.
@Jamie322 (12)
• United States
24 Nov 10
I'm not married and don't have any children of my own, but it sounds to me like you're trying too hard. It's like others have said here about how you shouldn't stress yourself out about it. I've heard for years and years that when you try too hard and focus too much on it and then get stressed out all of that makes it take longer. But once you stop trying and just enjoy being in love with your husband that's when you'll get pregnant.
I know of several people this kind of thing has happened to. For instance, one couple I know tried for like 6 years to get pregnant. The doctors told them nothing was wrong with either one of them. But I remember hearing the wife say that something must be wrong. Every time I was around her she would mention how nothing was working and she didn't think she could get pregnant. So finally they decided to become foster parents to a child they might be able to adopt. As soon as the adoption went through, she found out she was pregnant a week later!
I think it was because she had herself convinced that she couldn't get pregnant. She said it wasn't happening and focused so much on that and as a result it didn't work no matter how much they tried. But as soon as she relaxed and decided to just enjoy this life she and her husband were going to have with this little boy they were adopting, she let go of even thinking about getting pregnant. Now they are a happy family with their adopted little boy and the little girl she gave birth to.
I'm not saying you should try to adopt instead. I'm just saying you need to try to take your mind off of it for a while. Tell yourself that it will happen when it's supposed to happen and then let it go. You might be surprised how quickly it will finally work for you. :)
@toniganzon (72517)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
Well i took my mind off it for 6 years dear and if you were reading my earlier posts then you will know better.
But thanks for this comment anyway and we're really not pushing it hard. I just wish it could happen as easily than my first one!
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
24 Nov 10
Hi,
Having a baby need the right time to get it done and
don't put too much pressure on it.
Get yourself relax and let's the nature takes course.The more
you nervous,the more it will not done.
Since both you and your husband are pretty healthy and in good condition
to have another child,then it is just a matter of time. Just be patience and
sure the good day will come. Or you guys can consider to get some advices from your gynae. Probably it will helps to expediate.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
24 Nov 10
Hi dear,
Hope you are engaged at the time fertility period only. As you may be aware, the best time is to be selected and (physically fit to get pregnant). If everything is alright, you should get pregnant. After several trials and best combinations if it is not yet happening, you can go for a checkup and find out where the problem is. As you are aged enough to have a second child, don’t get delayed any more. Hope all will be alight and best of luck.
Regards,
Thank-s
@phong1040572 (672)
• Thailand
26 Nov 10
Don't worry about that dear. You just try in double of month that is not a much time dear. You must try for a while maybe in 6 months if there are no result, then you should see your doctor to review some advice from their. Hope you could have a happiness soon!
@preppydezza (309)
• Philippines
24 Nov 10
There are many reasons why some couples are having difficulty in getting pregnant. In some cases, maybe both of you have so much stress in your system that it affects the hormones and all. Or maybe you copulate more often. I mean, if you do it everyday, maybe there is not enough sperm cells that is ejaculated so it would be very difficult to get a fertilization. ;)
@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
28 Nov 10
Sorry that you're having trouble, just take it easy, don't stress out too much. Your age could be a factor but I doubt it because there are lots of people your age and even older having kids and it's fine. And if it continues like this you may want to consult with your doctor.
Good luck! :)
@mbokratu (22)
• Indonesia
28 Nov 10
Don't too focus your mind in having a baby, just relax. Be sure that baby will come because you're not too old to have a baby. My neighbor has a baby when she is 40 years and everything run smoothly. To make you more sure, it's better to come to the doctor again. I hope you will get your baby sooner. good luck!