How to keep your husband interested?
@marapplestiffy (2182)
Philippines
November 24, 2010 7:40pm CST
I'm not yet married but my partner and I are planning to do so on the year 2013, and I know it's too early for me to worry about this but I would like to ask those who are married and have children already how to keep their sensuality even when they are mothers already, I'm a planner, so as early as now I plan on the best possible actions. I worry that I might lose my partner's interest in me when I'm already a mother, because I aspire to be as great a mom as my mother is, I'm fairly able to multi-task...but, I saw my friend losing time for herself because she has a daughter already and though she's still beautiful, she just looks so wholesome now, like someone's mother. Am I worrying over nothing? Why? If not, can you give me some pointers on how to retain being sensuous and still be a great mom?
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8 responses
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
do you know that there are men, i cannot really generalize, there are men who fall in love more with their wives when they already have kids? because loving you kids more is unconditional, and you will see your husband fall in love with you because you are also loving your children. there is no point in worrying unless you will taking care of your husband. there are no tips from me to give, because it is only you who will know how to keep the spark alive, i can only say the general things like, spend time together as much as possible like maybe an hour a day just the two of you..or having dinner together...stuff like that. plus i can also tell you that you will also fall in love with your husband a hundred times when you see him with your kids because i have been with my huby. i have seen how much he loves our children and it made me fall in love wiht him more because it is never easy to give everything they want material or not. plus when you become a mother, you will loose a part of yourself, it wont be like when you are still single. a part of you will always be worrying on what they are doing when you are at work. and a cry of "mama" will make you run as if something is wrong when in fact there is none... i have been through this and i have lost a part of myself, i was never the easy go lucky person whom i used to be. i changed but for the kids and for the better and i have seen how much my husband appreciated it all, i may not be in makle up all the time, i might be messy at times at home but we sorted it out and things are going great. goodluck and do not worry..enjoy every moment. you will learn how to segregate precious things from pressing things.
@marapplestiffy (2182)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
Hmmn, I printed out your comment,)
I hope you don't mind, I'm going to place it in my notebook...
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
just read my post again and realized there are mistakes in it like "unless you will tking care of your husband" that is supposed to be unless you will stop taking care of your husband.. sorry for that
@celticeagle (167017)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Nov 10
We are all subject to ruts. It is hard to be in any relationship and when kids are adding to the mix it only becomes harder. I am adding afew articles I have written that might help you:
http://www.ehow.com/how_4614001_keep-man-happy.html
http://www.ehow.com/how_4591680_be-attractive-man.html
http://www.ehow.com/how_4492037_be-romantic-everyday.html
http://www.ehow.com/how_2263340_be-happy.html
I hope they are of help to you.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
26 Nov 10
i am already married but i'm not a mum yet... so i don't really know what to advice you on this... but i advice you not to worry so much first because usually we can retain back our figure after giving birth as long as you exercise and watch your diet... that's what i heard from the mums who had just given birth... take care and have a nice day...
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
25 Nov 10
It is true, that having children will take some of the romance out of being married, however, having children does not have to ruin a good marriage. It will take some effort on both parents parts to see that the children are taken care of and their relationship as well.
You must find ways to keep the passion and intimacy in the relationship. Sometimes to be able to do that the couple must have a date night at least once a week and they should also have family time including the children.
Making it work can be tough, but a multi-tasker, like yourself, will see to it that the home fire keeps burning high.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
25 Nov 10
Try to always keep your relationship new and exciting with your husband. it is so easy to drift apart as a couple once the children come along. the romance does not have to end there. Treat your husband like a lover and keep the romance alive. he will be sure to stay interested.
@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
yes, one should really keep their "sensuality" to keep their husbands interested. So, you should exercise and eat the right and healthy foods all of the time. And never lose time for yourself, go to spas and salons once in a while. Have an open communication too and no secrets to keep your love alive.
@huqh123 (182)
• China
25 Nov 10
you are a good planner. we ccan see that. you have make a plan to go to marriage. and you think what may happen in future and what you worry now. we wish you can find the ways to refresh your feeling between you and your partner. you know, when two being together for a long time, it is easy to say that they may feel tired and could feeling the love. so we two shoul dtry to create romantic atmosphere to mak eyour life together beautiful.
@merry22 (23)
• Philippines
25 Nov 10
you know what, I am not really married but someone advice me on how to keep our man interested to us, my sister tells me that, you have to do everything that man finds you interesting, she tells me that you must be his wife, his lover, his best friend, his best cook, and most importantly you must be good in bed...because man like surprises and interesting things, and so you must do all these to make him stick with you, well my sister tried it and it was very effective...