don't they learn?
By hushi22
@hushi22 (4928)
November 26, 2010 2:23pm CST
hey mylotters! =)
it is 3 am here. we are awakened by my cousins' fight. still the same the younger and older sister.
the older sister who has a complicated pregnancy and has no bf or husband to take care of because the guy couldnt financially support so he suddenly disappeared. her only sibling or support left for her that is so close is her younger sister who is a nurse like me. i've talked to them the night before and the younger sister said she will leave her sister for a while to borrow a book for a report. i already thought it would be her alibi. now she really went out late at night and just arrived home at 3am. her older sister was awakened by her and she somehow told the young one advices or something about relationships and going home very late like an older sister does. she got angry and they had a fight. they talked back to each other again and again. they woke up the people in the neighborhood including me and my family. the younger sister cursed her older sister and the baby inside. the older sister was hurt and told her she has no right to do that. they talked back again and again and the younger sister packed her things up leaving her older sister saying she doesnt care if her older sister and the baby will die. she counted the times that she accompanier her older sister to the hospital and the goodness she showed to her. aunt, cousins and i went there to make sure they wont kill each other and to advise them, but younger sister is very tough.
in fact, i told her she is being unfair. she is a nurse. we had so many hysterical pregnant patients before who couldnt manage themselves without support systems. we were so good to them no matter how mean they were and now she is treating her older sister like a crap.
the younger one is my bestfriend, but even though i dont bet for her because i believe she is morally and socially wrong this time.
i feel sad. i shed tears seeing them fighting. their parents are abroad. they are already old. the older one is 27 and the younger one is 23, my age.
i really feel sad. i wanted to go back to sleep but i couldnt. i wanted to talk to anyone but i couldnt find my bf online and my parents went back to sleep. so i though i could express my feelings her in mylot. im really sad.
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12 responses
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
28 Nov 10
I do notice that we tend to be easily angry with those that we are really close to than those that we aren't. With those that we are close to, like family or friends, we easily get angered 'cause we seem to have more emotional investments in them compared to other people that we get to meet in our lives. Perhaps we seem to have more patience with those that we really don't know due to how we are usually distant from them. We are not really familiar with them so, when they tend to be unsettled or upsetting, we sometimes get to brush it off until we just can't take it anymore.
Then again, its quit ironic that we would get angry at people who seem to be close to us. We have spent a lot of time with them so, we should at least know how to get along. Of course, we are just people and with things that we get into, often complicating and a bit irritating, we sometimes give in than maintaining our tolerance.
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
29 Nov 10
Yes, every family is different and many factors can contribute to this. From how the parents took care of their children to outside factors like friends or different kinds of media.
Arguments among siblings is part of growing up, I suppose yet, there are chances wherein things don't get settled and would be reason for such bonds to be broken.
Sometimes, things can be resolved while there are other disputes that can't be resolved as long as the parties involved don't yield.
@hushi22 (4928)
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29 Nov 10
yes you really have a point there pal.
we don't understand why their family is different. as in like every sibling will offend and hurt the other. they are all silly!
sometimes we say we get tired of them, but at times we realize that is why they need more of our understanding and advices.
thanks for the response pal. =)
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
27 Nov 10
well, obviously they haven't learn from their previous mistakes because if they do, this kind of thing won't happen again... i believe this is not the first time they argue like this with each other because you use the question 'don't they learn?' as your subject... also, the fact that they argue early in the morning like that and disturbing everyone's sleep including the neighbor is just not right regardless what the reason is... i hope that they can sort out their differences soon and this kind of thing won't happen again... take care and have a nice day...
@hushi22 (4928)
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29 Nov 10
that is right pal!
and now the younger sister (my best friend) is doing the same mistake again about guys...a new guy that will just cause a trouble.
it's frustrating for us, the support system, to keep helping them. we really hope the older sister would learn her lesson, too.
thanks for the response pal. =)
@ladysakurax (1161)
• Canada
27 Nov 10
The young sister must of been tired from work and had alot of stress so maybe it's the cause that made her angry. Once home, her old sister had to give her a speech. I am pretty sure the little sister said that out of anger but that she didn't mean to hurt her. Sometimes when you are angry, you can't think straight and just say hurtful things. I hope that she will realize that she was wrong because there is no reason to talk to your sister, mother, or anyone like that. The older sister was probably just worried. I don't see anything wrong with her giving some advices. The person she is leaving behind is not some random stranger but her own blooded sister.
Just leave it like that. Wait after a couple of days till teh little sister is coolheaded and then she should apologize.
@hushi22 (4928)
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29 Nov 10
oh...now the younger sister is back and telling me stuff and another guy again. she noticed my face wasn't really good. hahaha...i had to do that so that she would learn. i had to be firm so that she would understand that no one even i her best friend was happy with what she did. both of them are self-centered. that's the problem. but now the older sister wanted her to understand that this character will lead her failure but she is stubborn.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
27 Nov 10
Hi,
SOrry to hear that your cousin's fight has affected your night.
Probably you can have a good chat with them and try to calm
them down.
Or another way is to ask them go outside for the fight ,so that you and
your family member can have a good rest.
Since it is middle of the night, they should be having a rest ,instead of
fighting.
@hushi22 (4928)
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29 Nov 10
ahhh...no pal. they fought in their house but we live in a compound so everyone heard them. everyone was awakened. we were worried because before they ran after each other with a knife so when we heard them fighting again we immediately went to calm them. but the younger sister was so strong and vicious while the older sister was catching her breath crying because she is pregnant.
@larrychen (165)
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27 Nov 10
Perhaps they fight because they were both angry, after all we human beings are emotional sometimes. Time will solve the problem, when they both calm down,
Please keep a good mood, as you have done your best.
@icehut (508)
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27 Nov 10
So, the hypocrite who's in a state with her own relationship and pregnant without support from the father of her unborn child tried to give relationship advice to the younger and immature sister. Then the immature sister acts like a child with the cussing and cursing. Sounds like they're just regular sisters who'll argue today and make up tomorrow. I'm sure your parents went back to sleep because they knew it's just another episode from the sisters.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
Sometimes fights like that can affect you in so many levels. I'm so sorry your sleep was disturbed. Try counting lambs. Maybe it'll help you fall asleep. :)
@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
your older cousin seem to be under the influence of superstitions so she did it. well that is part of our culture and with poverty there is less modern way of thinking. no matter what happened, still to be pregnant at an age like that is more decent than those who have been pregnant by their teenage years. it would have been more peaceful and no fights between the sisters of one had shut up her mouth.
@akari77 (123)
• Philippines
26 Nov 10
don't be bothered. It will soon subside. They are still family no matter how bad the fight went through. The siblings have parents to settle the issue so try not to be bothered. it's not healthy to be too much affected and i know you know what i mean. happy mylotting. :)
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
Yeah sometimes some situation would challence us how to be patience. In such situation the good gesture is do something out of the situation meaning doing something that can express your feeling like in mylot or somewhere. Sorry I'm so far to offer my shoulder to cry on, just joking. So in the next morning your not in the mode for sure because lack of sleep... see you around... wake up
@fl0rencia (414)
• Philippines
27 Nov 10
The younger sister did wrong. She shouldn't do that do her sister. And besides, her sister is right. The older sister was just giving her some advice because it is possible that what happened to her older sister might happen to her as well. And if she should have told the sister where she is going then maybe they wouldn't fight like that. That's sad. And she chose to leave her older beyond her condition. How can she do that. Maybe she's feeling so much angry with her sister that's why she was able to do that.
