Apoligizing to a friend.....the hardest yet the best way to do
By apm_montejo
@apm_montejo (25)
Philippines
November 27, 2010 7:26pm CST
I have a friend who I may have unintentionally hurt because of my post in a social networking site (initials F.B.). Last night I tried to chat with her but she immediately went offline after i sent the message.
I realize I really did hurt her. Though I want to explain myself in person, I figured I'd send her a personal message and apologize to her. Though in the message I told her that I would like to personally see her to explain more if ever she is ready to face me.
I'm glad that I made the move. I'm not a person who easily says "sorry". But I know when the word is needed to be uttered especially when I really do feel sorry.
Has anyone of you ever apologize to a friend? Or have you experienced wanting to but did not have the courage to say the words?
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7 responses
@Gorillafootprints925 (3586)
• United States
28 Nov 10
Don't say sorry, say 'I apologize' it is easier to say. I learned that from Hotforwords. Here's the clip: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ToZS-I47zAs
@ch3llelynae (1)
• Philippines
28 Nov 10
It is really hard to say sorry or apologize. But if you mean it i think she will forgive you.
@apm_montejo (25)
• Philippines
30 Nov 10
Have you experienced apologizing to someone and yet you are not forgiven by your friend.
@toniganzon (72553)
• Philippines
28 Nov 10
My best friend and I had a misunderstanding before she made an account in facebook.. When she did I never added her as a friend. But last year, before December, I realized that it didn't matter who did the mistake. So I added her up and sent her a letter of apology in facebook and by January she sent me a present.
@apm_montejo (25)
• Philippines
30 Nov 10
Yeah i agree, it doesn't matter who did the mistake. There is no use having too much pride.
@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
28 Nov 10
True friends are the easiest to apologize to. That's the thing about family, no matter how bad you screw up, you can always come back home. Me and my two best friends had a rough falling out a few years back. This stupid guy tried to turn us against eachother, and I'm sorry to report that he was successful. We didn't talk for probably about a year, perhaps longer, and one day I just texted her (luckily she did have the same number) I told her that I didn't know why we stopped hanging out, but I wanted to be friends again and it's all good. Saying sorry is so much easier more rewarding than fighting.
@apm_montejo (25)
• Philippines
30 Nov 10
Wow, it's a very long time to have a no-talking relationship with your friend. It is so nice to know that even how long you may not be in good terms there is always a very bid possibility that things will go back to the way things were by just one text or recognition of what happened.
@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
28 Nov 10
Sorry for some is just a mere word, having no real signifcance. it is easy to say "I'm sorry" and not even mean it...much like a child that is forced to say I'm sorry...it means nothing. I come from the theory that actions speak louder than words. If you are truly sorry, then show your friend how sorry you really are. Of course, I realize this might be a little harder on the internet, but seeking advice of others online is a step in the right direction.
@apm_montejo (25)
• Philippines
30 Nov 10
I kinda believe in action speak louder than words. I don't say "I love you" because I would rather show it. But of course I don't know how to show that I am sorry. I guess a person's sincerity is determined on how often and how easily the words are uttered. I rarely say I'm sorry that is why when I do, I really meant it. Sincerity can also be tested by just the look of one's eyes while apologizing...I guess.
@pogi253 (1596)
• Philippines
28 Nov 10
No friendship goes without its shaky moments, and too often we tend to upset the people who are closest to us, intentionally or unintentionally. Admitting that you were wrong and just apologizing to a close friend can sometimes seem like the hardest thing in the world to do. But with a little planning, you can make the process easy and successful.
@apm_montejo (25)
• Philippines
30 Nov 10
I agree. I believe that those shaky moments will help strengthen one's character and solidify the relationship between friends if handled in a mature manner.
@gabbymg (127)
• United States
29 Nov 10
I think apologizing is the best thing to do. Not only does it help the other person feel better but it helps you feel better. To me, apologizing is admitting that you recognize something went wrong, you're not exactly saying you were in the wrong but you're saying sorry for hurting the person. Another thing about apologizing is that sometimes it's okay to admit we made a mistake and an apology is our way for asking for forgiveness from our friends or whomever we wronged. I've apologized to my friends a lot because I have the tendency to take things the wrong way and get all bent out of shape over things.
@acrossnation (773)
• Malaysia
28 Nov 10
Women is very sensitive, thus you must choose your words all the time. I dont really know if you just frens online or not. If it is then perhaps you might just know that the damage is already done. Theres a will theres a way.
