I'm marrying him! Not you!

I think a long engagement is a good thing. I also think that you two being afew months apart in age is a silly reason for your family to raise a problem. And good looks is very little of what makes a man marrying material. Yes, I would be angry if I was in your situation. I would never let my aunt,especially, tell me I could or couldn't do something. And my father wouldn't come in between me and my loved one. You are of age and can do as you please. I got married when I was 19 and my mom or dad never said anything negative about my decision. And my aunt would never horn in and say anything.

Why don't you talk to your aunt. She's just really concerned for you that's all. Maybe she doesn't know that she's already overdoing it. At the same time, talk to your fiance about your aunt. Maybe he's already being turned off by her. Reassure him or something. Also, it will be great if he'll also put more effort in making your aunt like him :) If it were me, I'd be angry too, but like you, I'll also wait for my breaking point before I tell off the person. I hope everything will turn out well for you. Best wishes

i will ignore her if i am you... it is just not worth it to get annoyed over something like this... especially she is not your parents... as you say, you are the one who is going to marry him and spend the rest of your life with him... so as long as you are OK, then just go ahead with it... take care and have a nice day...

Thats sad that you have to wait until your parents ok it before you can marry this person that you love. Gosh I got married when I was 19. By the time I was 21 I had a daughter who was a few months old. In the United States it is legal to get married at 18 without your parents permission or as young as 16 I believe with your parents permission. That is a horrible way for your aunt to act pointing out your fiancees lack of good looks in her eyes. Thats just mean she shouldnt say things like that to you. Thats not what love is about.

I think your aunt is unfair to judge him by his looks alone. However, I agree in a way for your parents decision to wait a little longer. You are young and you still have a lot of things to be enjoyed first before settling down. Getting married is totally a different world which sometimes wouldn't permit you to do things unless you are still single. Much more if you become a mother. I got married at 22, yes I am happily married with 2 wonderful children. But sometimes, I get to think if I waited a little longer I could have explored more into my personal world. I could have traveled to the world and not tied down to responsibilities. Those were just some of my regrets. I'm just glad that my marriage worked and still working after 8 years. But some of my friends didn't, and we got married almost at the same time. It was because they have realized that they still want more in their life. If you are too much in love you couldn't see these things because you are only focus to what you feel. Try to talk to your parents about it and try to open your eyes as well and not just too focus on your emotions now. There is more to it my dear. Sometimes the feelings just erode after so much number of years so before getting married you really have to be sure. Especially here in the Philippines that divorce is still out of the picture and annulment is just too expensive and difficult.

Well, with time it should get easier. I mean, they don't have to LIKE your decision of who you want to be with, they just have to SUPPORT and RESPECT it! And like I said, with time, they should come around.

Since you are the one getting married, you should be making the decision of when. Getting advice is always wise and helpful, but you shouldn't let the opinions of others rule your heart. Only you have the right to do that.

I agree with all the responses and just wanted to add that you follow your heart and never let anyone dictate what is right for you, as it will be you living with the person and not the others who oppose it. I know I too would be angry as well, I see you two use to very close so I would simply try to evade any discussions about him with your aunt and one day perhaps she can look back and congratulate you on your love accomplishment.

Hey young lady, In my point of views, your father and your auntie can be right, but they are not necessary to be right too. No matter how, they are more senior than you. You should calm down yourself to sit together and discuss among three of you. At the moment, you are fully fascinating to your fiancee and it is very hard for you to accept a comment about him. This is true. Love is actually Blind. In my advise, you are still young. You are not so hurry to marry. Let's the time to show the fact to you. The final decision is still your liberty. Good Luck to you, Young Lady.

we'll that's normal at your age that parents will dis agree coz they think your still young.despite of everything,they're stil your parents.

A Boy & A Girl.......A Man & A Woman.....even to an Old Man & Old Woman, if youre meant to be, you and your partner will face the altar w/ God.....even the whole word strongly disaggree to your Love......Your love will be done happier and happier forever.