Do you feel that some people magnify their difficulties and problems..?

I'm not sure I comply with your attitude of smiling off others' problems, but of course to each his own. According to me, why we might feel people magnify their problems is because we only see their problems secondhand and don't get to live them through; just as how a firsthand car hurts you more when it gets scratched than does a secondhand one, so does a personalized problem inflict more stress on the mind as compared to a distant non-personalized one. I'm usually sympathetic to such distressed souls and offer them solace the way I best see fit.

When a friend confides to me a problem which to her is so big, i first empathize with her. After which, i would tell her honestly if it's not that big , not to fuzz so much about it. However, some of them would simply want someone to comfort them or maybe empathize with them, which i would do by encouraging words.

yes, of course... there are the ones that are called drama kings and queens... i usually just ignore those people and walk away from them... or i just simply listen to them quietly and not give any response... take care and have a nice day...

I do think that there are some people who like to make their problems seem bigger than they really are. They want to show the world what a victim they are. they need to the sympathy to encourage them on. We all have problems. The way we reolve them tells so much about us.

Yes I always feel that way especially the person in front of you is just asking something after you've been carried away on their stories.

Hi, nice topic. I for one believe that the problems we have are magnified by the reactions we make to the different situations we encounter. Some people I guess find it easier to vent out problems in the open than dealing with it alone. It's one way of how they cope with problem however instead of solving the problem oftentimes it becomes bigger because more people got involved. As for me I listen to my friends problems if they seek my help, I just don't smile away and not take them seriously since they're my friends and they need help. If he/she wants me to suggest then I would but not to the point of solving his problems for him.

Some will magnify their problems and some will understate their problem.Between the two the person who understates his problem is preferable as he downplays his difficulties and has an optimistic outlook on life.The more optimistic or positive one is it is likely to attract others of similar nature.Overcoming difficulties are easier as when one is positive the solution to our problem can be found.I too smile away when i meet such people.But if they are close to me i tell them that exaggerating difficulties won't solve their problem.

Hi chiyapatis. I do believe that we magnify our problems by telling them to others. It's wise to just keep it to ourselves and solve it by ourselves if possible. I only tell my problems to those people who can help me, like a neurosurgeon.

Hi chiyapatis. I do believe that we magnify our problems by telling them to others. It's wise to just keep it to ourselves and solve it by ourselves if possible. I only tell my problems to those people who can help me, like a neurosurgeon.

Hi chayapathys. People do not have the same level of tolerance when confronted with a problem. There are those who had been sheltered too much from life they never learn how to face, much less overcome problems. As a result of which, what is a small problem becomes magnified. And there are those who need attention and who thinks that one way to get this is to magnify a simple problem. The most that I encounter because of the nature of my job are those who magnify problems to justify neglect of responsibilities and obligations. You are right in saying that we can detect one from the other. So I simply listen to them (for a minute or two )and when an opportunity opens, try to end the discussion without offending the problematic person. Sometimes I succees, sometimes not.