Do you share all your big news on Facebook?
By katsmeow1213
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
United States
December 2, 2010 9:17pm CST
I was having a discussion with an old friend awhile back, and she was complaining about things on Facebook. Like she found out that her niece was adopting through FB. She was mad about that.. she would have preferred a phone call. So when that same niece eventually got pregnant, she called my friend before posting the news on FB.
Yesterday a different friend called me to let me know she was pregnant. The first thing she said was that she hadn't told everyone yet. Her husband knew, and her mother in law.. but she didn't want to tell her sisters yet because her sisters are condecending and would just complain about my friend's lack of money, lack of stability, and the fact that she already has 3 rowdy boys (all have ADHD). My friend was nervous about telling them.
Well, tonight she posted on her FB that she is pregnant. I think this will be the first time her sisters hear the news.. as most of her post was about people keeping negative comments to themselves (yeah she's a little dramatic).
Personally.. since she's only my friend, I wouldn't have cared that I was only just hearing about it on FB.. but if I found out through FB that my sister was pregnant.. I'd probably be ticked.
So do you share big news like that on FB or do you tell all the important people first, then post it? Has anyone ever been mad at you because they learned your news through FB instead of getting a phone call? Have you ever learned something through FB that upset you because you weren't told directly?
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
3 Dec 10
I've learned stuff through facebook instead of in person. I've learned that a few friends were pregnant that way. But they weren't super close friends so I wasn't really bothered by it. The only time I can remember being a little bothered by something was finding out my sister was going on vacation and I had known nothing about it. I guess it upsets me that she and I haven't been close. It's just the two of us and I had hoped for a closer sister relationship. We were getting closer till she met her husband and he kind of isolated her. Now she does nothing but sit at home with him. She lost all her friends too. Anyways, I guess I can understand being a little hurt not finding out except for on facebook if you felt your relationship was close enough for a more personal way.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
3 Dec 10
Well as I said, I personally am not upset about it.. because I did get a phone call and even if I hadn't we're not like super close. I've never learned anything on FB that has truly upset me.. except for one of my friends who moved away keeps coming back to the area for visits once or twice a year, but has never asked to meet up with me for coffee or anything like that.. and we were BEST friends in high school. Every time that she posts that she's in the area or planning to come to the area I ask if she has time to see me and it's always "No, just a quick visit with family.. next time, I promise"
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@hstoyanov (11)
• Bulgaria
4 Dec 10
I don't think that is good to share everything from your live over the web. Facebook is a good way to get in touch with friends and to meet new people but you have to put some limits for what you can say and what you can't.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
3 Dec 10
I really don't share too much on FB...but if there were something important like a pending baby I'd probably share it with my family first...however...my daughter lives in Germany..she posts important things for all her family to see so she doesn't have to send a bunch of emails or make those expensive calls!
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@camposkat (306)
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3 Dec 10
I've learned that I shouldn't post anything personal on facebook. I have been hacked last 2009 on my previous account and I didn't had the chance to recover my facebook account. I don't know if it was due to the fact that I actually opened my facebook on a public computer (Those internet cafes) or someone hacked it because I have this very addicting application with rare stuff in it. I used to broadcast what I am going to do or what I did on facebook, the big news as people call it. But I've learned that some people (especially those that are not related to you in any way at all and you've just added because of games) will try to be nosy about these things or like what happened to me, hacked me and even tried to ask money from my real friends. I was shocked to hear that from my real life friends and good thing is when they tried to talk the hacker into meeting them so the police can talk to the hacker, he/she chickened out and completely shut my account.
I haven't had anyone get mad at me for not telling them something in person before posting it on facebook though. I think it's still best to communicate through calls or texts to personally spread the news to the actual people who cares about what you're going to say instead of broadcasting it on a social network site. If you're really far away from these people, an email would be the best option to share big news to them not on facebook.
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@jer2911 (57)
• Philippines
4 Dec 10
I'm also one of the avid fans of this social networking site, not only it features the best ways to connect with your pals but it always keeps you posted with the most recent happenings around you. I would say yes, most of the time I do. I think it's one way to let your friends know what's happening in your life and it feels good when they are happy for whatever you have and at the same time share with your thoughts and feelings.
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@chelseabelle (197)
• United States
3 Dec 10
I do actually post ALL my news on facebook, but if it's important news I tell my family first then I post it on facebook. If it's little news I just post it on facebook because it's more convenient for me personally instead of having to call everyone up and tell them the same thing.
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@GardenGerty (160708)
• United States
3 Dec 10
Well, I am not on Facebook, but even if I were I would not put my news on Facebook. I do not put it all on MyLot and I do not put it on SideTick or Gather. I would and do send private messages to friends by way of those websites, though. In the case of your friend it sounds as if she and her sisters have an strange relationship. They are not nice to each other and supportive like they should be.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
3 Dec 10
I haven't posted anything super personal.. but I do post my pics, and my kid's milestones. Like I posted on FB that my kids got good report cards and raving reviews from their teachers. I'll also post little tid bits about what's going on in my life.. just so my friends know what's going on here and know what we're up to.. but any major event (not that there will be any major events anymore until my kids start getting married and having kids) I'll call or e-mail the important people first before posting on FB. But 90% of the people on my FB are real life friends, not just people I've met while being on the website.. like here all my friends I met here.. know what I mean?
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
4 Dec 10
I am connected to most of my family on my Dad's side, on Facebook, so unless I've told them off line first, I don't post anything on Facebook. I don't want things to be blown out of proportion before I let them know what is going on.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
3 Dec 10
No not really. I'm actually quite bored of FB. Though a group of gals started our own lil group on their like we used to have & I've posted some news on there but out of 16 people involved only one commented. So... I guess then no I don't post big news publically, but I don't see what the difference is if I post or not if no one reads or comments KWIM?
But I agree if I was family and found it on FB before being notified directly by you I'd be a lil upset that her priorities were to tell everyone on FB before her own family
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
3 Dec 10
I notice a lot of times people will read the stuff, but not comment. I know I'm always mentioning to friends about things that happen and they say "Yeah, I saw that on your FB" and I'm thinking why didn't you comment on it then? I tend to comment on everything I see just so my friends know I'm paying attention.
@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
15 Dec 10
I don't really share all my big news on facebook. I might share somethings, but definitely not everything. If it's a big news, then I'd probably write it in a private message. There are just some things that I don't necessarily want everyone to know.
@gunagohan (3414)
• India
3 Dec 10
I would send a text message personally to all my friends and i will post it in Facebook that all of my friends out of reach would see it..
But, personally, i am not interested in this during the past, but now days most of my friends are using FB and sending all updates from them through it, so i got adapted to it and started using it in a big way..
One day a friend of mine got mad at me because of this...
@JudgeIronFist (2472)
• Singapore
3 Dec 10
Nah...I seldom frequent FB and so there's nothing for me to update. Also, it's also risky to put all the personal things there and information as you don't really know when you'll get into trouble. I just heard on the radio today. They said, one guy didn't want to go out with his friend and lied that he had a headache. However, when his friend went to FB, he then realized that his friend had lied to him as he posted something there about him going somewhere else with another friend. That really soured their friendship. That's the risk.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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3 Dec 10
To be honest with you there are too many people that air their dirty linen on face book, they tell people all kinds of things on there and put things up as a status and then later regret it.I feel that there are alot of problems that are caused by people putting their private life on there.
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@Jennlk84 (4206)
• United States
3 Dec 10
I use to share a lot of "big news" on Facebook. Now I have learned to just kinda keep to my self. All too often I see people sharing every living moment of their life on Facebook - things that really don't need to be shared, and it has really made me shy away from sharing as much. People don't need to find out everything through Facebook. That of course is just my personal opinion!
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
3 Dec 10
Hi,
I would say I am addicted to facebook and I am very
active in Facebook. No day without facebook unless I am
super busy or my son is sick,then only I will be absent from
facebook.
I do post about anything I want on my facebook..sometimes
when I have something interesting to share with my friends,I will
post them in facebook.
It is kinda fun especially when my friends are responding to my
updates.We are like chit chatting over in Facebook.
@Jacobus1919 (1683)
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
Well, Facebook is really big right now. And almost everyone has it. Oddly, people treat Facebook now like twitter and broadcast everything that is happening to their lives on it all the time. But, for me I like to be low key and avoid all those postings about anything that I think other people should not know.
@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
3 Dec 10
I hardly put big news on my facebook just because I don't want people knowing! What is the point of telling the entire world... it spreads around but people who post stuff like that want to have attention in my point of view!
