Lack of support!

I always thought it was that easy...just get up and leave if it were like that. But personal experience has shown me...often there are reasons beyond ones control preventing one from leaving a relationship like that. can't afford it, can't take the kids...things like that. Often, just giving up on a dream is a small price to pay for a roof over you or your kids heads and food on the table 3 times a day.

Hello, Sarah.;) THe hardest thing in life to deal with is the lack of dreams. Without dreams there could never be a future. It is not easy to look forward when there's nothing to look forward to.... So, when that partner of yours can not or will not support your quest for your dreams, then, it is going to be a misery... However, try to evaluate why he isn't supporting such dream. Maybe, it will affect your family. When you are married and got a family of your own, sometimes our personal dreams must be put on hold and focus on something that needs to be prioritize like kids welfare and well being. Then, when they can be on their own, you can go back to pursuing such dream. I am, more or less, in that situation. I wanted to have a life of my own outside my kids and unhappy married but hubby is often saying 'what will you do with the kids?'. So, i am foregoing that dream first. When they are old enough, i'll try to pursue it again... i hope it isn't too late when that time arrives... Goodluck to you..:)

I certainly would do it for them so I would hope they could find it in themselves to do it for me. My ex used to make fun of me when I wrote poetry...he doesn't anymore...he and his new finance stopped by my area at the most recent craft sale I did....he wasn't laughing anymore!

I think it is so important to have a supportive partner. I don't think I could be with someone who acted as though my dreams meant nothing. That would mean that I meant nothing because my dreams are a part of me and who I am. I have always had ambition. I know that I can be quite the hand full but I try to be just as supportive as I expect my partner to be.

Hi sweetie. I have been living with a lack of support for quite a while now. You cannot live without that support. What's the use then? It must be something to bring you closer. At least this one is very supportive and loving. TATA.

I think it depends on what your dream is. Let say my gf dream is to be miss universe but she is short....I don't think I will support her because it's impossible... Or If her dream is to be a Mafia head-master....I won't support her... So the bottom line is if your dream is possible and not hurt somebody else....Then your partner should support you. If not, it's time to find a new one. :)

Not a chance!! My husband and I talked about our dreams, and goals before we got married, and we are doing our best to encourage eachother in those dreams. Occasionally something will come up that we will question, but we ask, as opposed to dashing. Example: I want a dalmatian puppy. My husband asked me how i was planning to have one in this tiny apartment. My response? No way in hell! If we're getting a Dalmatian puppy, it will be after we've come into some money, and gotten a house! He was relieved. LOL We are never afraid to question eachother's dreams for the sake of our own education, but we won't dash them.

I agree with you Sarah... Without support it is impossible to hold on and go on... People will choose to move on, instead... ;)

my husband and I have been married for 10 yrs and we always support each other although we are really 2 different people I am all for freedom and achieving my dreams if it brings money, good. If it doesn't, good I don't fear poverty or homeless. Life on the physical is only temporary anyway. hubby is all about comfort and material success so it was kind of hard to see each other's point of view in the beginning but we love each other and none of us wants to see any of us fails also, both of us appreciate the value of hard work and integrity so none of us wants things easy and fast, not like some immature people if he isn't supportive, I will not be supportive at him if he destroys my dream, I will destroy his life is complicated as is, I won't make it much more complicated

hi, sarahruthbeth22, I think it will be a big blessing if your partner supports you to achieve your dreams/goals. Well, it depends on which is more important for you. For some people the partner is more important and in some cases the dreams are more important. And it depends on the partner and dreams too.. Good discussion.

Having the support of your partner in a relationship is so important. It could mean all the difference in the world to its survival. if your partner is not giving you the support you need, you may drift away from each other. you may look to someone else for the support. Where would than leave your relationship then?

Haven't been with someone like this but just imagining it makes me angry already. I don't like people getting in the way of what i want. It very annoying that way.

Hi Sarah Yes, if the person / partner is that way - never supportive and the relationship is just started it would be better to stop and look for a new partner. But if the partner is someone you really care about and/or it has been a long time you have been together and this non-supportive nature has just started, re-think - maybe your visions and dreams are headed the wrong way. Cheers, theSids

I will left that kind of man. It's no good to stay with a person who even can't understand you, thus he can't support you in your dreams. That's total mess.

There is no way I could remain in a relationship that did not provide me with moral support. We all have dream, goals and ideas. If the person that I was romantically involed with couldn't support my dreams or goals, I wouldn't see the need to contine the relationship. Love is part of accepting a person and encouraging them with their life goals and dreams. Often times when you are involved in a relationship you have similar goals/and ideas.

My answer is same as yours, this would be a temporary relationship if partner does not support your vision or dreams. If I do not get support, will part my ways and try to do things on my own instead of depending on someone else who does not respect my dreams or vision. Thank you for sharing.

I would rather let go of my partner, because I am a man of my dreams, I would do every effort to make it happen. I think it would be best to have a partner who would support you in your dreams. I can't imagine myself being always in a fight with my partner because of my dreams. I'd rather quit in the relationship than getting my dreams. :D That's my own opinion mate. hehehe :D God bless you! Have a happy life! :D