Silent treatment: are you okay with this?

That's what I always do with my partner. But sometimes, she gets angry with me and tell me, hey speak up. She usually do the talking, until she realized that she'd said enough, and she'd said things that she wasn't suppose to say. Then, she'd only say sorry, and feel guilty for what she'd all said. And told her, sometimes, it's good to think first, and stay quiet. And well, if you really need and want to talk, just stay calm in communicating, don't get hysterical... Recently, she haven't been nagging, and she's learning to stay quiet at times. I know she's making a move to change. As to do I agree? Absolutely, YES! Thanks for the post! God bless you! have a happy life! :D

I absolutely agree with you. That is the wise way to cope with problems in relationships.To do better, you ought to learn how to restrain your temper.

I can't agree 100%, because I don't anything can be resolved by giving someone the cold shoulder. If couples can't communicate, then they should be seeking the advice of a marriage counselor. Communication is the key to any successful relationship. Sometimes by keeping quiet and not speaking up or letting your partner know how you feel, you sre setting up a pattern of miscommunication.Often by avoiding issues, you will end a marriage and nothing will ever get discussed.

I have never been happy with the silent treatment. i don't like to receive and i don't like to give it either. It really doesn't solve anything and just destroys the relationships you have.

I get what you are saying. I used to be in that kind of relationships before. But my current boyfriend completely changed me. He just believes in coming up with a negotiation instead of giving each other attitude. Also he thinks that the silent treatment creates more issues later which can lead to breakup. So when we have an issue we just talk to each other in calm manner instead of arguing. Also he is so adorable that I can't yell at him. My parents use the silent treatment. It never does anything good. The problem is that many people cannot really take the issue out of their heads. So even after a small break of silent treatment they keep remembering it. Last year, my boyfriend's room mate was dumped by his girlfriend because of this similar problem. They had an argument after which he used the tactic. After several months he thought things were fine. But then after Valentine's day she dropped the bomb on him by saying that she really did not get over that issue and thus she wanted to break up with him. He for one last time tried to talk to her about it, but she hung up the phone. So basically, that was the end of them.

I always do the silent treatment, but my partner's not ok with it... He wants to resolve our conflict as fast as possible, and that's why I love him ^^

I don't really like the silent treatment, especially when it goes on for so long. I'd rather hear words. When someone doesn't talk to me, I think a lot and the longer it goes, my thought goes crazier and make no sense at all. So I'd rather be mad in the moment than keep it to myself.I know it sounds a little crazy, but I'd rather have it that way.

I think this is just a petty excuse to get away from the argument. Arguments can induce a lot of stress so it's a way to evade it. Not talking about the problem really does make it a little easier but it's better to talk about it and hopefully resolve it.

silent treatment's not for me. im not the type who would yell at my partner when im upset but i make it a point to clear my opinions and make them known. i dont want to sleep over something that wasnt said and i feel bad not having to say what's on my mind. seeing this discussion is timely for me as hours ago i am having this major disagreement, argument, fight, whatever you call it with my boyfriend. i wouldnt give in, he wouldnt give in, and after all the sorries and explaining i did he wouldnt stop being upset at me so i finally stopped and decided to tell him i need some time off to let my head cool. i wont leave saying nothing because i dont want that done on me.