If you really love him/ her but he/ she loved someone else, what should you do?

I think there are some things that we must know before we go into a relationship. For example, make sure that the guy doesn't have any affair with someone and/or if he has a relationship before that still he can't forget, you should take time until he overcome his feelings for his previous girl. In this span of time, while he is in "healing/forgetting moment", you can make friends with the guy, get to know him well. And this will help you also if this guy really deserves the love you will give to him. But if you're already in relationship with the guy, "i think" if you really love this guy and you can't let him go, the only thing that you can do is to endure the pain. Make each moment happy when you're together. Don't talk about his past, this will help him forget his previous experience. Don't worry cause time heals. Just be patient.

I will feel upset since the one who I love loves another. I think I will hide my emotions and then walk away. I can't be with a person who doesn't love me. It can't work out and it will be painful for both of us. I love China

letting go is really hard, gengeni. it will definitely hurt the person who loves that someone so much. maybe first thing he/she's gonna do is to weigh things first. why not give it a try for a couple of weeks or months, after that, if nothing changed, maybe you should be ready for yourself. let go. if still you can't let go and keep pretending you are okei and your relationship is good, then i guess there's something wrong. that someone must know his/her priorities and try to put a little space in that relationship. of course it's hurting, but if it means making you feel stupid with your partner, i really think the best thing to do is to let go. we are hundreds of billion people in this world, someone will still find you, maybe not him, but someone is out there really destined for your love. let go. move on.

I would talk with her and her loving person. If she is happy with him, i will let her go because i would not be happy with her for whole life even if she is with me.

If it comes down to making him happy in exchange for my happiness being with him then as painful as it may be, I'd rather let him go. I'd let him go and find his own happiness if he doesn't really love me and is not really happy being with me. I don't want to hurt someone I love and if letting go makes him happy then I would let him go. Love is never selfish, as the Bible says. So should our love for others be, unselfish love.

i will probably set her free even it hurts set aside selfishness its not only for my self to be happy but for her as well, i might get hurt but i am much more happy to see her happy i can handle being alone...

I am always been the type of person who would never forced somebody to love me. I could never completely happy if the person I love don't really feel the same way for me. I could not pretend living like I am the happiest guy in the world but the sad truth is that I am lying and I am just living in a make believe world. It's better to let go of my love and suffer forever than there is two of us who will feel pain. But she can always come back to me anytime because my love for her will never change. If she returns to me and said that she will try to teach herself to love me then I will be happy.

The main reason we love is for us to be happy and a relationship is consist of TWO people. It would not be a relationship if you are only looking after your own happiness and it won't be love if you are not happy. Actually you have to main choices here.First, you can choose to stay and support that person and maybe in time your affections and love will make that person realize the he or she has someone special but you should never force that person to stay. Second, you can choose to let that person go and in time that person may realize and come back to you or if that person won't come back don't be sad because letting someone go is not the end, it's always an opportunity to find someone else more suitable for you. It's human error when we think that we can't find someone else because in this world of endless possibility you just need to believe and it will always come true.

Hi. That's a very interesting question and here's my take on it :) Even if you love that person very much, if he/she doesn't love you back then you will never be happy with your relationship. First, if you really love that person, then you want to see him/her happy and you know for sure that it's not with you that he/she finds happiness. Second, would you be happy knowing that the person you love doesn't love you back and loves someone else? I wouldn't. Keeping that relationship would only cause misery to both parties. Third, if you have to be selfish enough to deny him/her the happiness he/she deserves, I don't think that you are in love with that person at all, I think that it is yourself that you love more than him/her.

Hello gengeni! Personally, I believe that love is unconditional, if you love someone and he does not love you in return, then you will have to set him free. It means your love is unselfish and you want the person to be happy even if it means he will be happy to someone else. Cheers!

I will set him free,i will give him space to think. If he comes back,that means he loves me more than the other girl. I guess that's the best way I can do to show him that I love him. I can't bear the scene seeing him crying over the other girl with me so why should I be selfish if I feel that he is not happy with me?

My selfish part would at first probably want to stay with this person just because I loved them so much, but, that wouldn't last. Who wants to be with someone when they know that someone doesn't love you and would rather be with another? That couldn't possibly bring happiness to either one of you. So, I would say I would let that person go and let them pursue what would REALLY make them happy. Even if that wasn't me.

I would not want to come between another person and their relationship if I was that in love with the person I would sit back and wait for something to happen, but if nothing happens soon I would move on with my life.