Best Friend, Bi-Polar, LIMIT REACHED!

United States
December 6, 2010 12:45pm CST
One of my very best friends is bi-polar... severly... I've alwasy known it, it's not really been a huge issue over the years between her and I... but now, I don't know. I need advise, please! Long story short: she's incredibly manic, takes about 5 different meds every day, has tried to kill herself about 5 times, just recently, this past Oct. Her boyfriend of 13 years reached his limit with this last attempt and they split up. This has thrown her over the edge and I'm not sure I haven't reached my limit too. She's GONE! She's stalking him, she attacked him with a hammer, threw horseshoes at him, she stole keys and sneaks into his house, she keeps calling him and demanding to know why he doesn't want her... I think she has truly and finally lost all grip on reality! She's always been easily depressed, she percieves things in her own mind and it spirals down to a true manic episode and then she normally makes it worse by trying to make things INTO what she percieves them... I spoke to her this morning and she was happily telling me about the hammer attack that happened just over the weekend. She was going on and on about how she was going to make him pay, how she wanted to torture him, how she couldn't see how he could move on so easily, how she's going to curse him... I just listened in utter horror, completely at a loss for words. I asked her why she couldn't just leave him alone and start the healing... She said it was bc she was damaged, it's what she does, and it's how she heals. I tried to make her see that she was only proving his point, how she's going to get arrested, how it takes more to hate than to not... I finally told her, "I really love you. Call me when you get your head straight." WHAT can I possibly do anymore?? I don't know!!
2 responses
dorannmwin
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Dec 10
I think that you've done the right thing from your point of view. Of course that brings us to the question of her history, if she is doing the stalking, attacking, etc. with her ex-boyfriend is she going to do the same thing with you for cutting her off for the time being. What I really think that she needs to do is to get in with her therapist and talk to them and also to see if she might need some adjustments in her medications.
Raven7317
@Raven7317 (691)
• United States
9 Dec 10
Honestly, since we 'had words' the other day, I have been on edge for exactly that reason... I cant say I'm paranoid, but I have kept my eyes open the last few days... I really don't think she'd do anything to me... I wouldn't hesitate to press charges on her if she did, but I don't FEAR her... Like I said, there have been other times in our history that I have cut her out of my life, and she's always kept away, until she was 'right' again. thanks for the response and support!
buggles64
@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
6 Dec 10
Oh my gosh, I have a bi-polar friend just like that, only he is a male. Well, he thinks he was born with both female and male parts and that's why he and his ex wife had to have help with having babies. He has extreme anger issues, and surely his children are going to suffer. His disease even cost a friend of his to go to jail, because he couldn't keep a logical mind. He even was so mixed up, that he thought this friends family was his own family...Oh my word, the lives that were destroyed because of this man. But he is bi-polar, so that's exactly what I expect from him. I know from shows that I have seen he won't have much of a life once his kids are gone and this woman's family wises up.