why do we realise what we had after we lost it?

Well, when you realize you have lost someone that loved you and you loved in return, it will give you a chance to rectify the situation. Normally, when someone loves you, they don't just stop loving you. Maybe you will be able to reclaim this lost love.

Hello Swissheart, First of all I am really sorry to hear about the whole thing. I was on the receiving end of such a behaviour from one of my friends recently and I must tell you, it hurts like anything when the one you love neglects you and/or treats you harshly. I've decided to move on with my life no matter how much she apologizes. It is human nature not to value things until they have it, as they take them for granted. They realize it only when its too late. I would suggest you apologize and make up before its too late.

hellos swiss... now you know that you had lose something that really precious. don't worry, you know that you can get lesson here. Learn that we gotta keep and respect everything we have. you can see that you still have family, they are treasure. maybe this is the time for you to get closer with them

We can never seem to appreciate what we have when it is in front of us. We cry and pine for it after it is lost to us. We spend more time worrying about what e don't have. We should be spending our time celebrating and enjoying the good things we have in life., if we don't, they may become lost to us too.

Hi I can somehow relate to you but not with love. My family had a good life before. We never had to worry a lot about money that time. Now, everything's gone. Our family business went bankrupt. Worst my mom and dad doesnt have pensions or anything like that. Before all I cared about was to get away from my mom cause I wanted to be independent but I couldn't do that with her around me all the time. I really felt good cause I became happy somehow cause I had my own family and my own job and I can really say that now I am really independent. Everything was fine until my mom decided to stop the business cause it's not making any profits anymore. That's when everything changed. I left because I told myself my mom doesnt need me so I need to find myself. She was self-sufficient and my relationship with her wasnt healthy so I might as well just go away for the betterment of everything. But now its different. It is really heartbreaking cause she is really struggling with money and everything changed with just a wink of an eye.. Now I am beginning to realize that what we had before wasn't too bad at all. I shouldve been stronger than I had been. If I had been stronger I should have been able to prevent this situation from happening. But I also believe everything is really meant to be. Whatever that is..until now I don't know, I have gone a long way now so I'll just wait for the time that God will finally show me the answers to my questions.

Yes you are right friend, it is human nature to realize value of some thing, when it is no more there with him/her, it applies to goods or even a relationship.. Thanks for sharing your real life story Happy Valentine Day to you. Cheers. Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .

You're not the only one who has done stuff like that and I doubt you will be the last. For us to appreciate what we have we have to lose it and get a taste of something worse. It happens to everyone I think once in their life and sometimes not just in thier love life but with friends as well. It's happened like that with most of my family.

Hi, It happen to human being..sometimes we don't really go bother what we have at our side and don't even care about it,only when we have lost it,then we realize that that thing/person is so important in our life. I always tell myself to treasure what I have now at my side. Loved my surrounding people and show my cares to them. Since you have realized how good is that guy,approach him back and try to patch back with him.

. . .there no such thing as learning a lesson at the beginning of the story. first you have to listen and know the whole story before you can appreciate it, you should also have to internalized the whole story before you can cope up and adopt to the whole story! . . .just like valuing the person besides you before you know his/her importance you should feel his/her presence and the thing that you feel about it is that the thing you always feel when they still there at your side. and their absence is the reason why you think that you only realize the importance of a thing after you lost them. .