I'm not as strong as you think! ! ! ! ! ! !

hi marapplestiffy.. it also happens to me. Everyone knows me as a cheerful girl who never cries or gets hurt. But one time I got in to a situation that is complicated, not big cases but I call it 'theory of accumulation'. Too many problems in the same time. I used to look strong and tough but this time I couldn't hide my weak side. Sometimes I cries and look down. And what makes me sad the most is that some of my friends that used to laugh and share happiness together couldn't be real friends in this situation. And sometimes I feel like it's not fair that they can't be my friends only when I'm happy and look cheerful. They want me to always shine and share my energy.. but they refuse to energize me when I'm low.. don't you sometimes feel so?

I was always like that too, until it all built up and I pretty much exploded. It's best to release at the moment you feel and holding it in does not necessarily mean strength.. when you can release, it can be strength too. You get to understand yourself better too.

Some people tell you more than you ever want to know, and others, like you, and like me, keep their personal stuff to themselves. People do perceive me as strong. I do fall apart, but only at home.

I have a friend who is renowned for her strength. She rarely cries and is very practical and is usually the one who will come to others’ rescue when they are down and out. We are close friends and I am one of the few people who have seen her vulnerable and sensitive side. The problem with coming across so stoic is that when you are in need of a shoulder it tends to shock other people and they don’t quite know how to handle it.

I think we all have our moments. Most of the time I'm being told what a tough cookie I am, etc and yet at those times I don't necessarily feel like I am. What I have been trying to put into practice, though it is very difficult, is to approach every situation with the same reaction. Meaning, not to show my anger, my joy, etc but to be balanced in the response given. It is much more difficult and I give credit to Musashi for being able to do so. Namaste-Anora

Hello marapplestiffy, what had happened? From your description, i know that you are a strong man, don't feel sad and disappointed if other people do not understand you. I am sometime feel the same, other people do not know your feeling and only make us feel more angry. But be strong, all will be fine. Happy mylotting.

If you put up a tough front, people don't know you're hurting inside. But surely people are smart enough to know that everybody hurts. maybe not....

I think strength of character such as you mention here is very important. I get stressed too easy and find that I break down but, like you, I don't do it infront of my family or even freinds. I am strong when it comes to my family and helping them. I am a very emotional person and I do break down at times though.

Hi Mar, We do have this thing in common, I suppose. People do take me for granted because I keep my emotions repressed. They just don't care that what they are saying to me can hurt me. You do feel bad and upset, feeling the pain burning inside. I wish I could express my emotions better. Sometimes you just want to cry out loud, but can't. My family is very caring. They do not usually give me reasons to cry for unless they are tears of happiness, which again,do not come out of my eyes.

Our emotions can get the best of all of us. People may think you are made of something invincible. None of us can claim that. We can all be hurt. It just depends on the situation of how much we can take.

Yeah sometimes it is good to be a pillar of support. However, I think that there are some people who are really good in maintaining a strong resolve for everyone, for the sake of them. I think there are times where I am one of those people. I try and remain as strong as I can in public. Privately, it is another manner. Still there are times where I break down. I'm only human, it is bound to happen.

I understand what you mean, with me its like I cannot show if i get hurt, I cannot show if Im upset, because it is so unlike me, I have never been the one who needs advice, I tend to sort out any problems I have myself, or just keep it to myself. I wish that I could show my emotions more. People see me happy and cheerful all the time, which I usually am to be honest with you, but if I have things going on which upset me, I still feel as if I need to be cheerful and happy.

Sometimes if you're hurting too much, you feel numb inside that no matter how you wanted to cry out to release the pain, you can not cry. Crying is not a sign of weakness and no matter what is the gender, we all need a shoulder to cry on. As per lyrics of Faithfully, "We all need the clowns to make us smile." Problems happens for a reason, and you'll understand it on the right time.

I am very agree with that

in our life, there are so many hardships and sometimes we can not pass them peacefully. in the heart, we feel so heavy and want to live in another world and have a new life. but we cannot we must do the same things everyday until we are retired. many people work and live like this. so those hardships are part of our life. and we can be stronger and stronger when time is passing day by day.

It is not necessary for you to pretent to be strong,cry and laugh are the characters in people's nature.Cry is a natural and right way to express your feeling and make yourself happier. In most of time,people who seems to be strong are weak actually weak in the fact,someone who looks weak are strong in mind