My Oldest Son

Well, dear AL, I certainly hope that this gets straightened out and that you are all together on Christmas. I will send positive energy your way.( As much as I can this time of year)People can be very heartless and selfserving. It is sad. Sometimes there is just nothing you do but put forth your desire and then wait. Hope it works out for you.

I'm sorry to hear this antiquelady...I kind of understand how you feel. My daughter had a daughter and left the baby in my care for 2 years. Once the baby was potty trained, talking, you know, was easy to take care of, my daughter decided to take her from me. She only allows me to see her about 1 or 2 times a month. She does email me pictures but it's definitely not the same. I will keep you and your son in my prayers.

yes am praying for you and do hope you are all together !

Bless your heart. You will be in my thoughts and prayers that your wishes will be answered. Also, just remember that you have made every attempt to bring your family together. Now it's time to leave it in God's hands that your son will come around and act like a son and stop being childish. God forbid anything ever happens to you, then he will be left with a hole in his heart and a daughter that doesn't really know her grandmother. Something she is missing out. I know this first hand. My husband's dad finally started talking to my husband right before my youngest was born. My husband's sister is still bitter about it and acts like he's a nobody. Because of their actions, my sister in law's two children are missing out on what a loving grandfather that he has become.

That is so sad hun. I can understand about how you feel and what you are going through as my daughter has done this to me twice in her lifetime and I did nothing to cause her to do this. She just gets some weird thoughts in her head and is very head strong. I will certainly pray that you and your family will ALL be together for the holidays. hugs

Sorry to hear that your in my prayers..I am in the same boat only its my daughter..They need to remember that we brought them into this world and we're not getting any younger. I hope and pray for the 2 of us our children will come to their senses and get back in touch with us again...AMEN!!

I send very much positive energy your way and think that Christmas is the ideal time for your son come to you. It would be lovely if you could meet your grand daughter and get to know her. Your older son probably misses his grandmother very much. You have done the right thing in contacting your oldest son. I hope that this is going to be the turning point when your older son begins taking more of a interest in seeing you. Good luck Antique Lady.

I'm sorry to hear that. Even if he isn't close to you, he shouldn't be keeping your granddaughter from you. I hope the Grinch's heart will grow three sizes and things will change.

I will pray for you and your son. I truly hope things will get better for both of you. Don't give up on him. There has got to be a reason for his behavior. I will pray that the two of you will be able to talk and work it all out. I believe in prayers. They definitely help!

I am sorry that you have been alienated from your son and I appreciate how painful this must be for you. I will certainly add you and your family to my prayers and I sincerely hope that your son will come to his senses and appreciate that he is missing out on a wonderful person in his life. I am going to pray really hard that this situation will resolve for you and you can spend Christmas with all your loved ones. Don’t lose hope...

Oh my...I do pray your son comes to you this Christmas. I hope that your whole family gathers. I know you would love to know that little girl and be a part of your son's life.

Oh Jo...I hope everything ends up working out and your son calls you before Christmas. You know you will be in my prayers. It is difficult when family members are like that, and I hate the fact that your son won't even call you back. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs...Gerri

Are you saying he's your mother's favorite? Well, condolence for your mother. But if my mother had a favorite, I'll totally confront her for doing so. I'm quite sensitive in this matter.

having rifts in the family can't be avoided.. it's sad.. i'll be including you in my prayers.. hope you'll be hearing from him so that you could spend the holidays and patch things up..

I pray that things work out and you are all together. It is a shame that things are the way they are. Hope they get better.

I AM SORRY YOUR SON THINKS SO LTTle of you that he would treat you this way. I have a 19 yr old living 1200 miles away. I pray he never forgets me or his siblings. I am sorry you are hurting. I will pray for you and your family to be re-united with love. As a mother to another, I know the pain of not seeing a child wheather grown or not...it all still hurts in the end.

Hello Ms. Antiquelady! First let me say my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family at this time of year. Also I pray that this situation will come to an end and you will be introduced to you granddaughter VERY SOON! No matter what happened between you and your son, he should've never kept your granddaughter away from you! Im not judging him by anymeans. Its clear from your discussion that you love your son. If you didnt this discussion simply would not be. I have children. Two girls 22 and 15. I know how it is with grandparents as well. My mother took my daughter the moment she was home from hospital. By this I mean she was always buying her stuff and picking her up. It got to the point where me and my mom would fight because I felt that she was overstepping her bounds. I dont know what your situation was but I will tell you this: We can raise them, teach them, show them the right way and help them to make the right decisions. We cant brainwash them, or hate them because they may have different beliefs than we do. This for me is difficult. lol She doesnt always do things the way I would prefer. THe one thing we did teach our children is to love NOT hate. All parents start this way by hugging them for the first time. Kissing boo boos. Grandparents can be the biggest and worse thing ever if they dont respect the boundaries between the parenting and grandparenting. Im happy for your son that he was loved by his grandmother. I dont know whether or not she and you had problems but she should have instilled in him EVERY day, Every minute, that his mother is to be cherished not disrespected. As I said Im not sure if it was or not. Grandparents are there to spoil them, love them, be generous and excessive with them. They raised their children. Now they have the chance to enjoy and spoil them. Give them all the extras the parents dont or arent able to. Never should they talk against parent. Whether or not this was done I dont know. Your son knows what he's doing is terrible for not only you but for the child. She's missing out on that precious relationship. However, you can only try. Which is clear you have. If he doesnt respond, you cant do anymore. I know you must be crushed but dont torment yourself either. I would write your son a letter telling him how you feel, what you want. Also enclose a note for her. If still nothing then enjoy the time you have with other children and grandchildren. If you dwell on that situation, you're punishing yourself and the others. None of you deserve that! Happy Holidays Lady! GOD BLESS YOU! dl ps. if you need to talk please send me a private message. I have been here and know what you're going thru.

Oh AntiqueLady I am so sorry, how sad your own son and not to see your granddaughter thats all wrong. I will pray to God that he can soften your son's heart so he and his family will come to you on christmasEve.I miss family but I am 84 so my mom and dad, andmy hubby and our little daughter are all gone now. I am so glad and proud of my only family my adult son as he is so good and so sweet to me. When I came here because we had been made homeless when we were evicted because my son had been laid off his ho and jus could not find a job and we tried to survive going to shelters for homeless. let me make it clear you could not stay in anyone of them for only a few days as there were hundreds of people in the same situation and a feeling of horror sorts of numbs you. so my son realizing that I could not really live that way very ;long with a crippled leg and diabetes got help; f ronm adult protective services who found ne a place here in Gold friend,now please let me state I pay for this every month from my social securitry and ssi cheeks and get back some money for personal needs. my son got help fromn the gov. to share a two bedroom apartment with threee other men all out of wo rk. so I would be very lonely inspite of 90 others here as they are not family. so my son helps me and my best friend Nelda does too so life is bearable and maybe this year my son will get a really good job and I can move ou t of here and have a fa mily and home for a few years anyway.

Don't worry friend...I will pray about your son to be with you all this Christmas..have a great day!

Im extremely sorry to hear about your current situation, I will keep you and your family in my prayers. The best advice I can give you is to remember you have extended the invitation and you've done what you can do, and if he and his family don't come remember you've done what you can do and you can go to bed at night with a clear head and know that you can feel good about yourself for trying to bring your family together for the holidays. I wish you luck and you will be in my prayers. Keep us posted.